Post # 1
Okay, quick overview: Dating almost 4 years (anniv. in Nov) living together for 3, ring shopping happened in April of this year(so almost 7 months ago), and nooottthing iisss happeennnining. I have talked to my sister about this so many times (she is my best friend) and she has said all the right things: keep busy, you know he will propose, etc., etc.). My SO and I have talked so much about marriage, kids, buying a house, and I know he will propose, but it’s taking toooo long!!! Like what’s the holdup!!! We both have great jobs, cushy bank accounts (thankfully) and there is nothing stopping him. I am finding myself getting so irritated at him, and feeling so resentful. Does anyone else have horrible waiting days where you feel like you are just so flustered and thats all your mind can think about? What other things do you do to cope??
Post # 3
@luvstoshopsd: Oh pick me! My mother and I have been having some issues recently and last weekend we had a heart to heart and got through some stuff. Including discussing that she has been totally unsupportive of me and SO. So when she called this weekend she opens with “So how can I help with the wedding?” Oh you mean the wedding that will probably happen in May but will not be planned until he actually proposes? You could not bring it up until I’m engaged.
SO had me bookmark my ideal setting on his computer a month ago and mentioned that he already had a stone from his grandmother… ever since I’ve been a bit of a basket case. Especially since he said he was ready to buy it. He also wants to be married after I graduate but before we move for my new job out of state which puts us at 8 months for him to propose and for us to plan a wedding.
But at least I have homework to keep me busy.
Post # 4
I have days where I wish time would go faster (SO is waiting to propose until after graduation from my BS degree in May), but then I rememeber how much I love him and how much he loves me. No matter what I get to see my wonderful man every single day and kiss him every morning when I wake up. That will not change when we get engaged. I try to focus on the positive things and things have been so much better. Sure you get jealous other women are engaged and you’re not, but that does not mean their relationship is better than yours! Your SO will propose! Just give it some time and enjoy your last few months as his girlfriend!