Post # 1
Went home alone to visit my parents. They said, “Why don’t you come visit more with Mr. LuLu?”
For almost a year of marriage, they still have required that he sleep in the family room on a couch alone infested with cat hair (he’s allergic) while I sleep in my twin bed that I’ve had since I was four. My room is a shrine to my girlhood with porceline dolls and ballerina pictures.
My husband is 40. I am 30. We thought it was funny when we were dating that the visits home to the Catholic parents required he be locked out on the couch. But it’s a little old right now.
It had never occured to them that as a married couple we might want to stay in the same room. They have a four bedroom home and would not convert a room to a comfortable guest room for us.
Until now…we really didn’t come visit. It just wasn’t comfortable.
So a trip to living spaces later with a queen bed means my mother is going to put the hard sell on having us visit together.
Post # 3
Anyone else experience that?
Post # 4
Nope, but that is wild! Do you tell your parents you’d prefer to sleep together? I can’t believe it makes them uncomfortable even after you are married! I can definitely see why you don’t want to visit more often!
Post # 5
Then my mom says she wants grandkids. So weird. Does the stork bring them?
Thanks Marzipan. I feel validated. Sometimes I can’t tell what’s normal.
Post # 7
that is weird. i’d think after being married, sleeping in the same room and bed would be ok!
Post # 8
We don’t really like our families, so when we do visit them, we always stay in a hotel to avoid the awkardness. Maybe you can do that. A cheap motel has got to be better than a night apart covered in cat fur
Post # 9
I would stay in a hotel as well. My grandparents are pretty famous for not letting couples sleep in the same bed or room until they are married, but seriously, after the wedding – I couldn’t imagine them trying to keep couples apart. Like someone else said, how can you expect grandchildren otherwise 🙂 Both DH and I are allergic to cats and we could never sleep on a couch with cat fur on it – he would probably die of an asthma attack. So yes, another vote for a hotel.
Post # 10
That is INSANE. I can understand it before the wedding, but after you’re married? Never. Have you talked to your parents about it?
Post # 11
That’s a little odd. We’re not allowed to sleep together at my in-laws house either, but there are comfortable options available for both of us. Haven’t been there since we got married, but I would think things have changed.
Post # 12
We weren’t allowed to sleep together at my FIL’s because we’re not married yet, however it’s fine at my parents. It’s weird that now that you’re married you can’t sleep together. I’d just sleep at a hotel if you can and avoid the akawardness altogether.
Post # 13
We aren’t married (yet!) but we do have to sleep in seperate bedrooms when we visit my aunts/grandparents, even though we live together. I just do it out of respect at this point. My parents live nearby, so we’ve never had a need to stay at their house. But when we’re married, it’ll be one bedroom!
Post # 14
I think I would have said back, “bc we are married and when we visit you do not respect that.”
I also vote hotel staying. Blame it on allergies and then don’t budge!
Post # 15
Separate before marriage but together is accepted now by my parents. Pretty funny seeing as how we lived together prior to the wedding and they came to visit us while we lived together and we slept together while they were in our home. Oh well. I guess one day I will be a parent and make silly requests, too…
Post # 16
We sleep in separate rooms, but only because my old bed isn’t big enough for both of us. I agree about the hotel idea; if his parents ask why you’re not staying with them anymore, you can bring it up.