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My best friend from college is going to be a "bridesmaid" He is really excited. We do not see a problem with him walking down with a groomsman...they won't be linked so I don't think it matters. What matters is that they are sharing your day and they want to stand up with you.
Good Luck!
I did, but it worked out since DH had a groomsmaid. But earlier in the planning (due to military changes our bridal party changed like, in the last 2 months) when there was only the groomsmaid, we just had 1 guy walking with 2 girls.
I asked one of my male friends to be an attendant, but he declined. He actually asked if I would make him wear I dress! Anyway, you could have all the bridal party walk out single file to avoid any uncomfortable pairings. Just have them walk a little quicker so it doesn't take forever.
My two brothers may be Bridesmen. Since we have more men than women, my brothers will go alone down the aisle, as will one of FI's groomsmen... the remaining girls will be escorted by his other groomsmen. (FI wanted the girls to just walk down wiht a bridemsan/groomsman on each arm, but it seemed a little silly ;).
My 'MOH' is male - but we're not doing the aisle thing with the elopement, so I'm not sure if I'll be helpful. But I think it just makes sense to send him down the aisle with or not with the groomsmen and he'll just join your side up at the altar.
we had a female groomsman and one of my friends had a man of honor instead of a maid and it worked out fine!
in all the weddings i've been to latey, the men (groomsmen) file out first, then the bridesmaids do, so everyone essentially walks out single. but the groomsmen more or less walk out all together in a line whereas the bride's attendants walk out one by one
Ours is a same-sex wedding. When we first got engaged, we asked my daughter if she would be MOH, and my son if he would be best man. My daughter agreed, but my son said that a best man is a groom's attendant, and there was no groom for him to attend. (He can be a bit pedantic!) He said he'd be happy to be "dude of honor," so that's what he is.
Honestly, you can do it however you want. He could walk by himself, or with a groomsman, or he could escort one of the mothers if they are not otherwise being escorted. This is not Noah's Ark--the wp does not have to enter in opposite-gender pairs.
This topic is Hilarious! Love it. My husbands best friend is a girl. He wanted her to be a groomswomen or whatever you call it, and I told him he was mad! She will be on my side....
My fiance and I each have a guy and a girl on each side, as our maids of honor and best men.
Thanks for all the responses...you guys have been a big help in making the decision to have someone close to me on my side instead of just filling the space with another girl that i barely know.
I consider myself to be pretty liberal but for some reason I was hesitant to make that call without some reassurance. I'm sure Mom will have something to say about it but I'm ok with that.
I had a bridesman on my side, I had all the groomsmen walk in a line down the aisle and the bridal party, my side, walked slower and without partners.For the recessional my side walked back down the aisle and then the groomsman walked down the aisle.
seriously it is not a big deal anymore!
our groomswoman was actually 7.5 months pregnant. if you look through our recaps, she was just so cute!
nobody cares anymore and the coordinators have seen it all, so they can easily shuffle your wedding party around for the recessionals and whatnot. =]
we just paired 2 girls up with one guy and he was pimpin' down the aisle so our groomswoman could walk with her husband, a groomsman =]
2 guys in our bridal parties are very close friends of mine - they are walking and standing with the groomsmen, but when i asked all the BMs to be in the wedding i sent cute letters all in hot pink and they got one too. One of FI's close friends (a girl) will be one of my girls. We're staying with the traditional pairings for ease and because our numbers worked out.
My FI has a groomswoman on his side and we're just not planning on pairing people off at the recessional. Everyone will walk in single file and walk out single file.
@ 2dBride - "Dude of honor" is hilarious! I love that he thought about it that hard. :)
My "bridesmaids" are my sister and two brothers, and my FI's "groomsmen" are his sister, brother, and 2 in-laws. I anticipate some mild craziness when we try to figure out the ceremony, but I wouldn't trade that for having my siblings next to me.
I'm glad you've decided to have your friend stand with you, and I love that weddings are getting a little less formal so stuff like that isn't as odd as it once might have been.
Yep, I have a bridesdude! I have two (female) bridesmaids, and a bridesdude. My fiance has two (male) groomsmen and his "groomsister." Since it balances out with three guys and three girls, the walking isn't a problem. We did have to think creatively on how to do it though, especially since one of my BMs is also the ceremony musician.
I say, best to have those who you really want next to you ... no matter the gender. It will mean a lot to you and you can work out the processional with a little brainstorming. yay!
LOL at 'bridesdude'
I am having two men (and two women) on 'my side' of the wedding party: a good friend and my brother. I am not a fan of automatic assigning of attendants to the side associated by gender (in a hetero marriage, I mean)...it just doesn't make any sense to me.
As I see it, if an individual is asked to be up there to support the bride or the groom, then s/he should be up there, on that side, doing just that. I want my friend and my brother on my side b/c of their connections to me, and not on my groom's side simply on the basis that they all have the same (ahem) plumbing.
Opposite my 4 attendants, Mr Farmerfen is having 4 men on his side. Which means we'll have 2 male pairs walking up aisle together. It didn't even occur to me that this might be 'odd' untll I read this thread actually! We've got 4 pairs who need to walk up, so they'll walk up. I suppose to my conservative cousins this mght look a bit odd, but I don't really care what it looks like...it makes sense to us and that's what matters most.
A final comment about labels, since this is often the follow-on question when things are done slightly differently. I think we'll call our people 'Groom's Attendants' and 'Bride's Attendants' on the program, possibly also using the titles 'Groom's Best Man' and 'Bride's Best Man' (though my friend prefers 'Besty', bless him).
Now, where's a tissue to wipe these tears of laughter off my cheeks? 'Bridesdude', LOL
My sister-in-law had two "guysmaids" :D at her wedding. For the walk down the aisle, the guysmaids were the ones that walked the mothers of the couple down the aisle. Then the other bridesmaids were paired up with groomsmen. It worked out well in her case. i guess it depends on how balanced your wedding party is because my brother had more attendants than his wife had, so the bridesmaids actually walked down the aisle escorted by two groomsmen.
I have a 'Man of Honor' and my fiance has a 'Best Woman'. It's a small ceremony, and we're not having any other attendants. It never occurred to me that this might be 'liberal' or off-beat. These are our closest friends and we wanted them to know it and be next to us on our big day. And let me add that my Man of Honor threw me the best bridal shower/bachelorette party EVER. He went above and beyond the call of duty, and I doubt that anyone else would've done such a spectacular job!
I'm not sure how big your bridal party is, but if it's not huge, you could have them walk down the aisle one at a time. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where we did that. There were eight of us total, and I thought it was nice :)
I second the idea of everyone walking solo. That's what we're doing, since there are 4 groomsmen on fiance's side plus best man, and my side it's just one MOH, one BM and my bro as a bridesman. I think two of the groomsmen may escort the mothers, but everyone else will be solo.
I needed this thread! My best friend is a guy, but I still need him to be in the wedding so he's just going to stand up with the groomsmen, I think. He'll be bummed, though, cause I know he was looking forward to wearing a dress.
I'm having a bridesdude and my FH is having a groomslady...we got lucky that way and they're going to be walking down the aisle together. Are you having a flower girl or ringbearer? Your bridesdude could be their escort at the end of the ceremony.
I have my brother as Man of Honor, and I have a maid of honor and a bridesmaid. I am so excited about this as he's the best brother ever and it means a lot to me for him to be there standing on my side. I think going solo is a great idea.. None of the attendants from my side knows the ones from his sides, so why force them to pair up? I always thought it kind of awkward, anyway. :)
yep! my brother is my "man" of honor. it's totally doable once at the rehersal you make things flow!
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When I first got engaged, I knew I didnt have many close girlfriends to have bridesmaids. Well my FI wanted several groomsman so I agreed and invited a couple girls to be my bridesmaids. Well now due to one friends divorce and the fall out from that divorce, I have lost two bridesmaids, mainly because the divorce is due to infidelity and we have all had to choose sides. So as a result I would like to ask one of my maie friends to stand beside me at my wedding. He is really excited about it and wants to do it.
I'm just not sure how to handle the walking down the aisle thing...Obviously he won't walk down with one of the groomsman. So how do we handle that part?
Anyone else been in this situation?
Thanks