Post # 1
I dont have ANY family at all in the US except for my immediate family. It does make me sad to feel like no relatives will be here to support me on my big day, but also my shower. I have a limited number of girlfriends who I think would attend my shower. One of my bridesmaids graciously volunteered to plan my shower, but I do not expect her to pay for it all on her own etc. My fear is that nobody will show up because for one I’m attached to FI, and secondly, my gf’s are also super busy in their lives working and planning their own events so we rarely see each other. I feel that I wont be able to get enough people to attend to make me not awkward and depressing.
I was wondering if any of you are having a reallly small intimate bridal shower, and if so, where and what did you girls do? How do you have a small shower when a friend is planning? Would it be weird to have a brunch and ask for guests to pay for themselves or should I try to host a bbq event at someones house where I pay for it, and they just help cook or make it a potluck etc.. I feel cheesy and embarassed not knowing what to do..I know that I could go without having a shower, but at the same time, I’d feel really depressed and like its not fair that I go to other showers and I dont have some type of celebration for myself too… dont mean to sound whiny..*sigh*
Post # 3
I’m not even really having a bridal shower because everyone is so scattered all over the US.
My mom is hosting an 8 person (including me) ladies luncheon. It’ll all be women my mom/FMILs age. None of my BMs and no relatives other than my mom.
It’ll be nice, but I am a little sad to miss out on a true bridal shower complete with games, etc.
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: Aww, well thats nice of your mom to host you a luncheon.
Anyone else with a similar situation as me??
Post # 5
I’m having an intimate shower w/ less than 10ppl. Since our wedding is 50ppl max and is just family and a few close friends, I’m only inviting ladies that have been invited to the wedding. It will be @ a spa and we’ll have a light lunch. Everyone knows that I’m the Spa Lady so it makes sense.
Post # 6
You should not ask people to pay their own way at a shower. A shower is a mandatory gift giving occasion and it is not appropriate to get a gift and still have to pay to play so to speak.
You also shouldn’t be organizing anything to do with the shower. If someone offers to host a shower for you, you should expect that they will host a party in their price range, be that cake and punch or a full meal.
I think a small shower is best. I don’t like the very large showers. It really should be the nearest and dearest.
Post # 7
I had a small shower, oly 4 of my friends showed up and my immediate family and my fiances mother and sister. None of my relatives or his relatives came. I was quite depressed and hurt because people couldnt make time to attend. I had about 6 people actually facebook me or call me the day of the shower sayig they weren’t comig. I would of been more understand if our family and friends lived far away, but the farest away is 2 hours. And these people come to my home city just to shop, but couldnt make time to come to my shower. With that said we still had a lovely shower, we planned a few games, had some yummy food. Which was supplied by my mom ad I. I actually had help plan , make food ad decorations. Because my three sisters didnt have enough time or money to help. I am still very thankful to everyone who came and we all had fun. But this whole weddings has been nothing but tears and hurt feelings. Ive realised theres alot of friends and family that I can not count on. But Im still trying to look on the bright side and be thankful for the few people in my life that want to help and be there for us.
Post # 8
@andielovesj: Thanks for your response! I’ve only been to 2 showers ever so I wasn’t sure whats appropriate or not. One of my bridesmaid is planning my bach party, and the other volunteered to plan the shower so I guess I should just sit back and relax and not get involved. I have no idea what she is planning but I feel bad that she is spending money out of her own pocket for me. I do appreciate her taking iniative to make me feel special. I just wanted reassurance that I am not asking too much of her or my other friends in spending money on me as I do not want anyone to feel annoyed afterwards. I generally dont like being the center of attention, but I definitely want to spend time with them on a day where we can celebrate together. I know if I dont have one, I might feel a bit depressed so I know I will be happy with whoever shows up.
Thanks everyone for your replies! =)