(Closed) Anyone having an “alternative” wedding party member?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I was actually planning on doing this, but the guy that I was going to ask is now going to be one of FI’s groomsmen. He’s a good friend of both of us, so I’m just happy he’s going to be in the wedding!!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We’re having a traditional BM & GM…

But in an upcoming wedding I’m going to be a best man! Hey!! Why didn’t I get a cool title like “Groomsmaid”?? lol At least I get to wear a dress… I told him right off the bat I wasn’t down with a suit.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

I was planning to have a Man of Honor, and then scrapped the whole wedding party idea.  I liked the idea of having my friends stand on MY side, no matter what gender.  A good friend of mine recently got married and her hubby had a girl on his side.  She did not wear a BM gown, but a black dress to match the other GM.  It was very cool!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I’m having a bridesdude! He’ll be dressed the same way as the groomsmen. FH wasn’t 100% on board (his words: “But (female friend) is a lot prettier”) but he knows how important this person is to me. I’m really excited to have him stand up with me, and he was *so* excited to be asked. I was BM for my sister with our other sister earlier this year and her husband had his 2 sisters on his side – it was an all female wedding party. Everyone thought it was great.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I had a bridesman, he had a groomsmaid 🙂

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My fiance and I have opted to have ONE unified wedding party not defined by gender.  <span style=”font-size: 100%;”> So no bridesmaids, no groomsmen – just one group of individuals that mean the most to us, standing together in unmatched clothing, belonging not specifically to me, or to my FH – but belonging to US.  I have man friends, the FH has lady friends – it just seemed silly to separate everyone based on gender.  But that’s just us.  We’re a little on the offbeat side… 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I like Oracle’s answer.

Yes, I have been to weddings where women stand up for their male friend; and visa versa.  I think a more generic word, such as ‘witness’ is far better. 

My opinion is that who ever is a friend of B or G should stand on their side, regardless of gender.

Regarding clothes, people make too much out of this.  Men should wear whatever the other men in the bridal party are wearing; the women should wear whatever the other women are wearing.   DONE.  It’s about friendship and being proud of one’s friend.  And, we do not need to have a different orientation from our birth gender to have a women stand w/the G and men w/the B.  It’s about friendship on everyone’s side….  It’s about being proud to say “THIS IS MY FRIEND WITH WHOM I AM WELL PLEASED.”

Post # 10
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In fact i wish i had put my males friends in the wedding instead of my girl friends less dramma only one problem though all my male friends ditch me for my ex so that really woudnt of worked out well.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

If we have a desination wedding in any city other than Pensacola (b/c T was christened at a hurch downtown there and his mom used to be a member), I’ve asked my best guy friend R (the guy in the encore couple..the couple who remarried each other this January) to be our officiant.

He’s so stoked that he might very well get to do this.  He said he’s always wanted to do this.  He’ll have both of us cracking up though.  he said he could be called the “Friendister” or “Minifriend” (minister + friend).    

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My FI’s sister is going to be a groomsmaid. They’re really close and we like the idea. I’ve gotten mixed reactions though. Some people who are more traditional were somewhat shocked.

Post # 13
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990 posts
Busy bee

I keep considering this … one of my dearest friends is a guy … I haven’t seen him since January and he hasn’t even met FI yet (he’s been deployed) but I’m really considering asking him to be a Bridesman … if not I’d like to have him officiate the wedding if we go with outdoors (it’s all so up in the air right now)!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My brother is going to be my ‘man of honor’ and my Fi is going to have his younger brother as the best man.  It works well because we are both pretty close with these siblings.  Picking bridesmaids and more groomsmen got way too complicated so we decided to KISS (Keep it simple stupid) and just have one person on each side.  Niether one of us wanted a large wedding party and our wedding is going to be ~80 people.  We have joked with my brother about getting him in a pink dress but will probably having him in his Navy officer uniform.:-)  

 

ps.Not dealing with bridesmaids dress has been fantastic! 🙂

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