Post # 1
Hello everyone! So just wanna hear some thoughts on some thigns coming up for me.
I am a christian, my fiance is as well but not practing. Among some of my christian friends, the single ones, that marrying a non beliver is not allowed? I dont understand this. My fiance and I both love eachother, I am sure I want to get married. Dont think that this should matter. One of my pastor friends, agrees with me. I will still be movign foward but has anyone had any expreicne with this?
Post # 2
Its funny that you said “the single ones” in terms of the people who are essentially judging you for marrying a ‘non-believer’… they obviously have no idea what its like to be in love and not necessarily care about the other person’s faith.
I’m considered a atheist and my SO is Catholic… doesn’t stop our relationship at all and not one person whom we’re close with has said that we can’t marry each other based on our beliefs.
I wouldn’t worry about it and enjoy your wedding day.
Post # 3
vintagev: I think what your friends are referring to is not being “unequally yolked”. But that is your business, not theirs.
Post # 4
Yes, it is in the bible somewhere. I can’t remember where exactly, sorry! There are some Christians who do feel very strongly about this, if this is your friends it could explain why they are still single.
As long as your FI doesn’t make you compromise your faith and that you’re both willing to listen to the other’s thoughts and feelings about such things then I say it does not matter…as long as it doesn’t bother you that he may never come back to church. There are some people who start dating non-believers in the hope to convert them. I’m not saying this is you, but just so you are aware.
Post # 5
FromA2B2013: Hi, I attend service, and practice my faith. He states that this doesnt bother him as long as it makes me happy. I am also aware that balance is the key, like not leavign him hanging to go voulnteer at church or something. I actually was born again during our 7 year relationship, having him convert is not my thing, thats a choice he will make. Just Ive heard people breaking realtionshops off becase they became christans….
Post # 6
playdohpants: Hi, your right! Thanks for your response. It is my business, my business with gOd and not theirs.
Post # 7
jessica.j.baron: Thank you. Im not a traditonal girl, I dont want to convert my FI or anything but we do love eachother and have been otther for 7 years. Im a born again and his a non practicing catholic. He doesnt mind me practicign my faith, as long as there is balance and makes me happy.
Post # 8
vintagev: Religion is the most personal relationship one can have (with or without God/s/desses). It’s no one else’s business what your driving force is. If you and your SO respect each other’s spiritual differences that’s golden! Don’t ever let anyone judge you on that. I’m agnostic and DH is Catholic. We have open minded, civilized debates all the time. He’s taught me so much about his religion that I never knew before and I’ve given him a world of knowledge about history and science which he never had the opportunity to learn in Catholic school. Interfaith relationships can be a beautiful thing.
Post # 9
Technically, there are passages in the Bible that frown upon marrying a different faith. However, if you two respect each other’s beliefs and aren’t driven to convert the other, then your relationship can continue to thrive.
FI is Catholic, and I’m nonreligious. I was incredibly concerned that he would eventually realize he wanted to be “equally yoked,” but we are fine with each other’s differences. We’re getting married in a non-religious venue by a Protestant pastor who celebrates our commitment to one another.
Post # 10
It is 100% your business and not your friends’. Marry whomever you want.
And if your friends tell you that “the Bible is against your being unequally yoked,” you can point them to 1 Corinthians 7:14 (“For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband . . . ).
There is a Bible verse out there to support just about any opinion, if it’s interpreted in a certain way — this is why I am very wary when anyone quotes a Bible verse to try to support of an action or opinon that is judgmental, closed-minded, or unmerciful.