- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Ok Ladies…. this isnt completely wedding related but sorta is. My Matron of Honor (whom was also my BF from Kindergarten-Jr High) is pregnant and due 2 months before my wedding. This is her first baby & it has taken them a LONG time and alot of heartache to get pregnant. I could not be happier for her; however she is a little crazy about it. Right now we are currently trying to plan her baby shower which will take place 2 weeks before my wedding shower (which we have to do early because she wont travel after she has her son until he’s had his shots) Im helping 3 of her other friends plan this party- I am NOT close to her other 3 friends at all…. they were her friends in high school; she partied then & I played sports. Anyways, right now her guest list is at 110 people for this shower, she is hiring a professional florist to do the shower and having a wedding cake lady do a cake for it. The BIG TO DO right now is the flippin invitations. She has been looking at invites that are like $2.50 a piece! CRAZY So finally we got her to send the idea to a printers which we did and right now she wants these invites that are going to cost like $120. Now we are throwing this for her but she is picking everything and just saying you guys can split it?? – I have a 3 yr old & at my baby shower the ones that threw it for me decided everything!- Well she sent out an email asking everyone’s opinions about these invites. My response was as follows: (I’m going to copy & paste my actual email)
I personally and again THIS IS JUST MY OPINION~ We All know I tend to say my opinion so here I am since i was asked to reply~ I think $100 or even $84 is a LITTLE much for JUST the invitations for a babyshower…. not matter who’s it is. That is about what I paid for my wedding invitations. I want Jessica to have a great baby shower I really do thats why I told her I wanted to help the day I found out she was pregnant & Jess is my Matron of Honor in my wedding so I want everything to be VERY special for her for all the things shes done for me…. BUT on the same hand this shower is suppose to be something WE (us 4) give her for being such a great friend to us… I want to surprise her and have her the best shower ever – but also do it budget friendly. Maybe its just me but between plannign & paying for my wedding in July, going to Grad school, working at a place that dont pay CRAP! and having a kid money isnt the luxury around my house and i KNOW ALL of us understand that.
I found a lady on ETSY who is willing to help me out & make an invite that Jessica would love…. It’d be $15-25 for her to do it and she would then send me a file… then I can print as many as needed; which I am willing to do! But if thats not what you guys think is best… let me know!
I was the one that told Jessica yesterday that instead of 4 or 5 ppl just shooting out ideas and trying to decide on one we each need to be in charge of one particular part; which is also oging to be hard to do since I’m sure we all are willing to do whatever! I’m sorry I disagree because this needs to be what Jessica wants but also what we want for her to have also. So again I’m sorry Im the odd one out that says my mind but there it is…. Let me know what ya’ll think.
Ok with that being my email I received one back from one of the girls thats helping also and this is what she said :
I feel as though you are trying to make Jessica’s baby shower all about you. I don’t really know you, but what I’ve gotten from what you’ve written is that the attention has to be on you at all times. Half of what you said is about YOUR wedding shower, YOUR wedding. That’s great you’re getting married and congratulations, but we’re focusing on JESSICA’S baby shower. I understand if you can’t spend a lot of money, that’s totally fine. There are a lot of people coming to Jessica’s baby shower so that is why the price is a little higher. We shouldn’t be discussing prices and making Jessica stress about us spending too much money on her. This is supposed to be one of the happiest moment in her life. She doesn’t need to stress about it, it’s supposed to be fun. We ALL want this to be special for her. But anyway, which invitations on the ETSY site are you wanting to get? Just let everyone know which one it is and we can all decide. In future emails if you want to discuss pricing, just send it to us.
Now with that said what do ya’ll think? The goal of my email was to shed light on PERSONAL Experiences with the things we are currently planning? Just putting in my experience with these situations and what I thought. I wanted to stress that just because I disagreed with the invite price that I still want her shower special! Someone please help! I want to kinda tell her that this is a little over the top for a baby shower…. Ive NEVER seen a baby shower with a florist, 100ppl, and with an “Open House” concept where people come & visit her, bring a present & leave!?! What should I do gals? And if you think I sounded like what the other girl said please tell me… because that was so far from my intentions and I wanna set that straight! Thanks Bees!