Post # 1
I’m new here, but I think I am going to definitely be around here often.
Anyway, my fiance` and I are working on paying off the new engagement ring we are having custom made. There is a story behind this, it might be long so please bear with me:</p>
<p>My fiance` brought my old engagement ring two years ago from his cousin who was a jeweler, and he didn’t think anything of it especially since he isn’t familar with engagement rings so it was more of an engagement band. He brought it thinking it was real diamonds and amethysts. Turns out, they are not. We found this out this year when we both came to the conclusion that we wanted to remake the ring into one with a heart in the middle and stones on the band. The jeweler who is making our new ring said it couldn’t be done and put a $100 credit towards our new ring.
So now they are making a new ring for us and we have it on layaway. I decided that I would also help pay off the ring because it was my suggestion and also because that’s how we tend to do things when it comes to an item that we both want/will enjoy.
So once we get the ring, he wants to re-propose to me. Our proposal, even thought it was so us, it felt like it was done kind of quickly, if that makes any sense. We think that since we will have a new ring and we’ve been through so much in these past three years (almost ended up kind of putting the relationship on break), that we feel like a re-proposal just feels right. He decided to not tell me when he is going to re-propose so once we receive the ring, he will hold onto it and then surprise me with a re-proposal.
I was just curious if any of you ever been re-proposed to and your thoughts on it.
Post # 2
If you’ve been through a breakup of sorts, then I think a re-proposal is entirely appropriate!
Post # 3
aspiringpastrychef86: I think you can do what feels right to you – no matter what others have or haven’t done in the past. Best of luck to you and your SO.
Post # 4
My actual proposal was kinda crappy “We should get married”, and then we were moving country so there was no money for a ring for a while. So when the ring was eventually ready, I strongly suggested (he might say ‘demanded’) a more romantic ring-presentation/proposal. So he did!
Cooked me dinner, decorated with fairy lights. It was lovely.
So I say totally go for your re-proposal!
Post # 5
aspiringpastrychef86: My husband and I also have a ring on layaway and he’s going to repropose! I’m so glad I’m not the only one!
His initial proposal didn’t turn out the way he wanted it to, so it was all his idea.. and I’m not going to deny him that! 😉
Post pics of the new ring when you get it!
Post # 6
I think that re proposing is ALWAYS a good idea if that’s what he wants to do. Why not?! It’s not like holding a wedding every year and expecting everyone to attend. This is just between you and him, he could re-propose every year if he wanted to. It’s similar to those who privately say their vows to each other every year to reaffirm their love and commitment to each other
Enjoy the excitement and build up to your proposal and ring!
Post # 7
aspiringpastrychef86: I have not personally, but in your situation it sounds like a wonderful idea
Post # 8
Yup. I pulled the plug the first time around. I just wasn’t ready. We didn’t break up. When I finally was ready, he surprised me with a re-proposal. Very sweet.
Post # 9
I asked this same question..please let me know how when/how he does it! I think it takes a lot for a man to re-propose since he is basically conceding to some sort of “failure in the fairytale.” Deep down though they might not always act like it I think they want everything to be just as perfect as we do.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! I’ll everyone know when it happens/show the ring.
I just didn’t want to come off as “unapprecative” or something like that. I mean the proposal was so us, but the circumstances it was made under, wasn’t ideal.
I just wonder how he’ll repropose and how soon after we get the ring to us will it happen. So excited.
Post # 11
I think this is a wonderful idea.
Post # 12
Yeah I did. The first time he just blurted it out in the car. No ring or anything. He re-proposed when we got the ring. I didn’t think it was necessary. I found the car proposal really sweet 🙂
Post # 13
A little update: I just finished paying off the last installment to my new engagement ring which means I’m going to make sure my FI gets the ring before I see it in person. I’m just waiting for the photo of my finished ring to get a sneak peek before I see it then I will have to wait until he pops the question again. I have no idea when or how he’ll re-propose, but I know he’s been planning for it since last month.
For those who are curious, it’s not that the first time he proposed to me was bad or anything, it was so us but we decided on a new engagement ring a while back and with it, a re-proposal. This decision was mutual, but since I suggested it, I wanted to pay it all by myself.
In the almost 4 years of us being together, we actually went through quite a few rough times in our relationship (we even “broke up” for a few days too), therefore strengthening it even more. The re-proposal will symbolize a new start to our lives in a way over the past couple years as we’ve grown together even more. In fact, I’m keeping the old engagement ring and putting it on a necklace chain with my promise ring. They both are very sentimental to us.
Post # 14
aspiringpastrychef86: Congrats on the final payment!
As for the re-proposal, I think it is sweet. It really wouldn’t matter to me if other people thought it was weird or not – the proposal isn’t about everyone else, it is about the two of you. Now, if you were to have already announced your engagement on Facebook or something, gotten all the oohs and ahhs, and then when he re-proposed you posted something like “OMG OMG! SO PROPOSED! I’m getting MARRIED! *SQUEEEEEE*!” I would be confused. But this isn’t your case. It’s something personal for the both of you.
Post # 15
KristaMay: Thank you! It’s something that I’m proud of. You’re definitely right. It is about the two of us. 😀