- 4 months ago
- Wedding: February 2016
I get on really well with my MIL. The first time I met her she was picking DH up from uni and he’d told her I’d be there too. So FIL was texting DH to tell him MIL was nervous that morning and didn’t know what to wear to meet me. She wanted to make a good impression but not come across as over bearing. We both mocked DH and that was it, we got on really well.
She lives in a different country so we obviously don’t see each other a lot. But when we do see each other she’s sometimes done girly things with just me. We also email a lot, just us two and it’s not to just catch up with DH. I make sure DH talks to her about him. We also send little gifts to each other often. When she sends gifts they’re with me in mind and when we send gifts it’s always me who has picked something up. She tells her husband not to wind me up and has even made him apologise when we got into an argument.
I’d say we’ve butted heads once during 7 years and that was over BIL. Basically, they baby him and I think just think he’s a cretin. So when he got divorced they were calling his ex a bitch and slut and he was blameless and I didn’t really think so. I’m not the favourite DIL – whoever is making BIL happy has that title (but god help you if you’re not making him happy) – but honestly our relationship is really great.
My mum broke her leg before the wedding and wasn’t strong enough on her leg to lace up my wedding dress on the day. I asked MIL if she’d mind doing it. She was staying at the same hotel as me and I figured it would be easier because my bridesmaids would be getting ready themselves. When I asked she was really touched and came up to me after the wedding to thank me because she “never thought she’d have that opportunity and it was just wonderful to be included”. We then included the photo of her doing up my dress in the album (it was a nice photo) and again she was insanely touched by it.
My FIL on the hand is a different thing entirely. We have a very bumpy relationship. We both have strong opinions and they are frequently the polar opposite. FIL also likes arguing with people. DH tells me that he only argues with people who he believes to be on intellectual par with him, so I should take it as a compliment from his warped brain. But then he’s sometimes really great. At least MIL is a constant.