- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
Ok I’m pretty sure at this point I’m so frustrated that it’s probably stupid. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my FI’s parents and they are pretty much closer to me then my own parents are. Almost three months ago I moved in with my FI to his parents house. We live in the basement which is a pretty large area and it has a decent amount of living, sleeping, and laundry space. It even has a bathroom.
But here is the thing: I’m trying my hardest to help them out around the house as I feel as though giving them money is almost insulting to them. I clean our area constantly and whenever I can I try to do the dishes or pick up our stuff. But I feel like I am CONSTANTLY cleaning up after a pair of children. (and it isn’t my FI). When I moved in a knew it was messy, but after living in our own place for a yr I am in the habit of it being clean. There were times it would very very messy but once a week we would deep clean everything. Here, his mom is constantly watching her soaps, or shopping with her sister (for things I’m pretty SURE she doesn’t need). I’ve cleaned the bathroom after it got so dirty I couldn’t handle it (and it wasn’t my bathroom it was the upstairs one I barely use). I’ve cleaned a ton of other stuff too.
And just now I walked upstairs to find that his dad, after going grocery shopping. had left empty grocery bags ALL over. The recycling bin is less then 20 ft away. There are two days of dishes all over the stove. Three lunchbags sitting on the counter. And handfuls of spices and stuff they haven’t used in days. I’m sure that I’m whining by now but after almost three months of cleaning up the dirtiest things (that was definately dirty when I moved in). I know I’m crazy for whining, they give me everything but oh my goodness I’m going nuts.
Anyone else have a similar situation or live with their FFIL and or FMIL? I’m sorry for venting. I just had to get it out there.