- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I posted about a month ago about an issue I was having with my supervisor. I’m still employed but our ‘relationship’ has completely deteriorated, mostly because of the comments made in the previous thread but also for other reasons (btw, when I confronted her about the comment she told me to ‘get over it’). She verbally attacked me in the lunchroom in front of numerous co-workers Thursday so I decided it was time to go to speak to HR about not only my original concerns from my previous thread, but also the deteriorating relationship and how I felt that I was often degraded and felt I was in a toxic situation. I found out during our talk that she had visited HR numerous times with complaints about me so HR chose to schedule a mediation meeting for Monday. Yesterday, around 1:30, I found out my supervisor had rescheduled the meeting for 2:30 that day so I didn’t have a chance to really prepare so I had to wing it.
Basically, what came of it was that I was told that since we work alone in a room together we have to be friends and it was up to us on what direction we were going to take from there. But, during the meeting, she repeatedly stated, while I was sharing my concerns, that she wanted me terminated specifically for the comments I was making during this mediation meeting with HR. Not for job related issues, but for this meeting. She got angry at me for going to HR and shared that in the meeting, was demeaning, sarcastic, and then basically threatening. HR even had to talk her down a few times and remind her if they fire me how much money and time they will lose and how she’ll just be punishing herself because she’ll have to do the work and then spend the months looking for someone new and re-train them.
I did not request this meeting, HR did. I merely went to her to share my issues. Because of this mediation, now I’m basically going to be fired or, if she can’t get that approved (since she isn’t technically my ‘boss’), retaliated against through harassment and essentially torture until I’m fired. My supervisor repeatedly said that my work and knowledge level and exceeded her expectations and even said that in the meeting but none of that mattered if she and I weren’t friends. HR told me that she agreed that we needed to be friends (notice i say friends, not friendly or professional) or my presence had no value. So basically, I’m performing all of my job duties and learning above expectations (which was my biggest fear originally of why I’d be terminated which is why I worked my butt off), but because we’re not buddies, I’m going to lose my job. And, all because I went to HR.
1. How do I handle this? I know you can get fired for any reason, and I accept that, but to be fired because you were sharing your feelings during mediation? Why even have an HR?
2. And, what’s a good recording device because, since we’re the only 2 in a sound proof room, I’m going to start recording all of our communications if I’m not terminated. Many of her attacks towards me in our meeting were attacks on my personality and my character and, since no one else sees me work during the day, I don’t want everyone else in the company think I lack integrity or work ethic.