Post # 1
My good friend who is also a bride-to-be has a big diamond halo ring that is amazing. It’s big but not as big as those of a lot of American bees on here. But it is HUGE by our society’s standards. Her FI is well off but so is she kind of. Anyway,
She told me, after she got newly engaged, she sometimes didn’t not wear it because she did not want to attract lots of attention and also didn’t want to hurt feelings of her single friends and her FI’s sisters who are in longterm relationships.
I was like whaaaaaat!? I said, people get engaged at some point and when they do they deserve natural attention and it’s normal! I may not know what I’m talking about but I never heard of newly engaged gal trying to hide her ring.
So, have you done or do you do this not wear the engagement ring thing to not attract attention?
My ring is humble so I feel comfortable wearing it daily but I don’t just because I’m lazy and scared of scratching it.
Post # 3
@gramgeek: This is the reason I wouldn’t have wanted anything especially huge or blingy. I travel a lot — I spend time in locations where that sort of thing might make me feel either rude or unsafe to show off blatantly. What I have is amazing (a gorgeous black diamond) but it isn’t excessively blingy, so in a way, it’s like our secret.
Post # 4
Blinginess is relative… I’m sure everyone’s ring can be seen blingy by someone else… and in contexts where mine is by far blingier than average, that’s when I won’t wear it. I will just wear my wedding band or a simple stand-in during those times. I already do something like this with my handbags, etc. It’s not that different than dressing for the weather, really. On a related note, I also won’t wear my engagement ring when I think I’m going to be doing an activity that could damage it.
Post # 5
I understand, kind of. I live in Japan, where my half carat is huge (unlike on the Bee!), and most of the women around me simply wear plain bands. As a result it gets talked about, touched, played with etc (I actually let my students wear it, but that’s a different story!). Because the engagement ring is important to FI and me, I won’t stop wearing it, but there have been a few times I have been tempted to turn it onto the ‘plain’ side.
Post # 6
Definitely not! I actually think that taking it off would also draw attention leading to the question of, “I thought you were engaged. Where’s your ring? how do you explain that? I didnt want you to be jealous??
I do turn mine backward when I walk through dangerous areas (aka to my parking garage downtown). Also my mom wants me to take it off or wear a diff ring when I meet vendors so they are more willing to bargain! Lol. My 1.4 carat is pretty huge for my area, though I feel like it is fairly average on the bee!
Post # 7
I take mine off for any kind of exercise, whether it be lifting weights at home or running at the park. Nothing ever happens when I’m running, but I’m paranoid that if I’m wearing my ring, I’ll fall for sure and scrape it up.
When I’m walking to my building to go to work in the mornings, I’ll turn it around so the stone can’t be seen. I work downtown, and although it’s mostly safe, things DO happen. I go in very early while it’s still dark and quiet (and a little scary) on the streets, so I don’t want to take any chances. It’s starting to be chilly in the mornings though, so gloves will take care of that!
Post # 8
Heck no! But of course my 1ct princess does not draw very much attention. lol.
Post # 9
When I was working in a tutoring centre, I was embarrassed about wearing it. I didn’t for several shifts after I got engaged. Then I wore it, and not a single person noticed. I wanted to put my engagement ring away for going out on the weekends, but my Mom convinced me to enjoy it, and I know my husband would be hurt if I didn’t. The only time I take it off is to wash my hair, bake, make meatballs, or clean the bathroom. I won’t wear it on our honeymoon next year. Otherwise it is on all the time. Since having my wedding band I think I admire my engagement ring more than ever because its a new perspective now.
Post # 10
My ring is blingy. It has diamonds on all sides of it so it blings from every angle. While I don’t avoid wearing it, I do fold my arms and hide it at times. Mostly around work where it has drawn negative (snarky) comments. I always wanted a blingy ring, and I am a blingy girl, so I am surprise to find that I do get self conscious when people comment on my ring.
Post # 11
At first, I didn’t wear mine too much because jewellery isn’t my thing to begin with, and having a big blingy ring just felt uncomfortable. Not to mention I got a few comments from some of my nastier co-workers about “are you sure it’s big enough?”
Now, I wear it pretty much all the time, but if I’m doing physical work, I’ll usually leave it at home – exercise, farm work, gardening, etc. are just a pain when wearing a big ring.
Post # 12
No way. DH spent a lot for time and cash on this time. I’m wearing the hell out of it as long as it’s safe to do so. It’s also not huge where I’m from, so I feel perfectly fine with it
Post # 13
The only time I felt the slightest bit weird about wearing mine was when I first got it. My family wanted to celebrate by having a dinner for us. My older sister who had been living with her beau for 5 years already had baked us a cake and everything..! I just felt bad that it should’ve been her first. But no worries, she got engaged 10 days later haha
Post # 14
I feel pretty comfortable wearing mine (1ct moissanite) around. It’s not unusual for where we live now or where we grew up.
However, I’ve been looking into doing some volunteer work in less-affluent parts of the city. I have a simple sapphire on a gold band that FI gave me a few years ago that I would probably wear in that situation.
Post # 15
Hell no! Love my ring and wear it always. I’ve had to take it off before at work when I’m out in the field but that’s it.
Post # 16
I didn’t wear mine on our honeymoon, but I was more worried about losing it than anything. Other than that I’ll wear it anywhere. I don’t always – sometimes just my wedding band, but that has nothing to do with the company I keep.