Post # 1
I’m not having a rant or wanting to peev anyone off but is anyone actually just happy with there rings? I mean I have never looked at my ring and thought gosh it is so small or it is too big or he didn’t get the right one, and I most certainly did not ask my FI what size it is because it never crossed my mind! And I can’t sit here and recall all the dimensions and stats on my ring becuse why would I need to know, it screams aragoance to go around giving people a lesson on how big and what size there ring is. I love my ring, my FI chose it on his own and I think that to me made it even more special. I just don’t think I get the posts about rings being this that and the other when they have been given out of love and surely that ring would become so sentimental and not just another materialistic fashion statement? Anyway just my opinion.
Post # 3
I like mine.
It never occurred to me to think about the types or size of stone or the metal or whatever. or think it should look different or get it ‘upgraded’ stuff like that always strikes me as far too materialist.
@redbootz: So I guess I feel the .
Post # 4
I love my ring 🙂 I think it’s perfect. FI and I picked it out together, with the best size for the quality we wanted. The center stone is “only” .45 but if it were bigger, I think it would make me uncomfortable as a therapist for low-income kids 🙂
Post # 5
@redbootz: I’m happy with mine as like you say DH chose it
Post # 6
I’m happy with my ring as well! Although I know the stats etc because I was there when we bought it, I don’t go around talking about it because I find most people don’t really care. I like knowing, but that’s just for me. I understand wanting a certain type/style/size ering and have no gripes about people discussing it on sites like this. I don’t judge them or think they are materialistic or anything. Maybe I’m materialistic I don’t know. All I know is that there is always a bigger diamond out there and I’m not going to worry about whether my ring is bigger or better than somebody elses. FI and I are happy with it so that’s all that matters 🙂
Post # 7
Love mine. I do know the sizes and the price because FIs Mum advised him to let me choose when he proposed rather than choosing one for me and the jewler told us what we were getting! We went out together, had lots of logical discussions and then got a really cool jewler to make up a ring that thats both pretty and practical. When I look at it I dont think about any of the details I mostly think wow, sparkle. And and I am delighted that I am engaged to my man AND that he loves me enough not only to marry me, but also to sit down in a jewlery store and talk about the practicallity of diamonds over emeralds and low settings over high ones!
Post # 8
@redbootz: I am content as well! FH picked out my ring on his own and I absolutely adore it & him for it!
Post # 9
Me! I love my ring and I will never upgrade it 🙂
I do know the stats because we chose it together. I share them on the bee because I found it so helpful when I was choosing my ring and I want to help out others in the same way. But I’ve never shared the stats with anyone in real life, not even my mum. No one IRL would be interested anyway :p
Post # 10
I am in loooove with my ring. My fiance could not have done better. I never plan on “upgrading” it because there is nothing to upgrade. It is perfect.
Post # 11
@redbootz: I feel completely the opposite to you lol, and don’t care if that makes me sound materialistic.
An engagement ring is a big purchase, generally speaking. It is also a symbol of pledging your committment to one another. As such, personally I see nothing wrong with the woman wanting a say in the ring that SHE, NOT her OH, will be wearing for years to come.
My OH and I won’t even buy birthday gifts etc for each other without knowing that the other wants, as we’re both very fussy. So, why would he choose my engagement ring with no input from me, esp as I had very specific wants? (diamond antique-style flower cluster). Left to his own devices, he’d have listened to friends and family and purchased a simple solitaire on a plain band: exactly what I DIDN’T want. So I’m very happy I was able to show him what I wanted, and even more happy that he listened and bought it.
As far as not being happy goes: I ADORE my ring, as I picked it out. But unfortunately, I didn’t do much research into metals/diamond specs. I’ve since had in copied, in platinum, with far superior specs. I don’t care if that makes me ‘materialistic’; we both agreed to do it and felt that financially it would be better in the long-run due to the cost of having to re-dip white gold. I only share the specs on here, or with people who ask; I don’t go around waving my hand and saying ‘Oh yes, the diamonds are excellent cut D VVS1s by the way’. That would be weird. Also, specs do matter IMO; being on the bee has been a great source of education, and now I feel much better equipped in future to choose jewellery. Eg I’d like a diamond necklace (halo style) in a few years, and know not to go to the high-street, and know which of the 4Cs matters most to me, etc. If I’m spending thousands on something, I want to get optimum bang for my buck.
Post # 12
To each their own. It’s wonderful that you do not care about those details, but some ladies are interested in those sort of things. Its impossible to deny we live in a materialistic world, and difficult to not be affected by how we or others might perceive our rings. Like it or not, a lot of women look at it as a status symbol. i, personally, hate being judged by my ring, but I know that it is beyond my control. I am completely happy with my ring and understand that not everyone will love it.
I think another issue is we build “the ring” up over time, and expect a certain type, size, etc of ring. The ring is to be worn over our entire life time. Just like I am uncomfortable in clothing that are not my style or to my liking, I would be uncomfortable wearing a ring that is not. The ring itself is just another fashion accessory to me. My FI proposed to me after two months of dating but we waited another year and a half to buy the ring and officially announce it. I was engaged long before, and the ring only signifies that to the rest of the world. I am merely happy to be engaged to my FI, and wearing a ring that I love is an added bonus!
Post # 13
I love my ring, wouldn’t change it or upgrade it. However, we chose it together. It doesn’t make it any less special. Actually, I think that makes it special because it represents US, not just him and his tastes. My ring is a mixture of what we both liked and wanted. And yeah I know the specs because I made sure to educate myself and my FI so we didn’t get the wool pulled over our eyes. I happen to remember silly details like that, so I’ll probably never forget the specs on my ring, but not because I want to “brag” about it.
Just an after thought, you should probably try to learn to get your point or opinion across without insulting other people’s choices (i.e. calling people arrogant)
Post # 14
I love my ring and I didn’t choose it. FI did an excellent job and actually way exceeded my expectations- its more beautiful than I could have imagined. I do, however, understand and empathize with women who want to change their ring- this is something you’re wearing every day, so it should be as perfect as it can be!
Post # 15
I love my ring, its perfect. I haven’t see a single ring since I got engaged that I like better. Its a four prong solitaire with I guess an offset? platinum band, and I thinkits the perfect mix of classic elegance with a little twist. FI had it secretly made for me, and it even fits my finger perfectly. Plus the diamond used to belong to his sadly departed mother, so it has incredible sentimental value to it. I don’t think I’ll ever wnt an upgrade, I love it too much!
I do know the stats and the value as I had to have it appraised for insurance purposes, and it is quite valuable, but I couldn’t care less what its worth or what the clarity or colour etc is – if it was a cubic zirconia I would still love it as much because of what it means to me!
Post # 16
I love my ring and wouldn’t change anything about it. FI and I picked it out together and I got exactly what I wanted. When the jeweler ordered in the stone he ordered a size bigger than what I had said I wanted, and the stone is the perfect size now that I see it on my hand.