(Closed) Anyone keep wedding dress a secret from BM until wedding day?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I keep my dress a secret from everyone, including MOH and BMs, until the wedding day?
    Yes! Cute idea! : (16 votes)
    36 %
    No. : (28 votes)
    64 %
  • Post # 3
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I am keeping it a secret, but I think my bridesmaids are not happy about it..particularly the ones that I had gone wedding dress shopping with for their wedding. Who knows I may cave in.. LOL

    Post # 4
    1909 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011


    I wanted to, but then I was just too excited and needed to share 🙂 Only my MoH lives closeby, my mom and the BMs are out of town and I wanted them to feel a part of the process.

    Post # 5
    2580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think I’ll be way too excited to keep it a secret! It will probably be hard enough not to show Fiance. I’m a terrible secret keeper in general, though. I personally think it would be helpful to have some other opinions!

    Post # 6
    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would not be able to keep it a secret!! I brought mom and two BMs (lil sis and bff) to first fitting near hometown in FL, where mom bought the dress. When it comes in, I’ll have the shop ship it out to me in Cali, and I’ll bring MOH/FSIL and Future Mother-In-Law to alteration fittings, so all have a chance to see it!

    Post # 7
    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i can’t keep that secret either! plus they have to help me with the bustle! 

    Post # 8
    1851 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I personally couldn’t do it. I’d want LOTS of “opinions” on how awesome I looked in it bahahaha Wink

    Post # 9
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My dress is a secret from everyone but, the people who came shopping with me. My mom, two sisters and my one sisters bf. My sisters are two of my bridesmaids but, the other two have no clue. I just think it is best to keep it a secret i don’t want negative opinions that might make me rethink my decision.

    Post # 10
    811 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    After visiting a bagillion shops and not really being able to settle on a dress I ventured out on my own and ended up buying my dress. So no one’s seen it and I am starting to play with the idea that no one will.

    I’ve shown many people (including Fiance who is kinda clueless still) pictures of it from the web, but it looks totally different when on me.

    I think it makes it super special that no one will see my dress until the day.

    Post # 11
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It sounds like fun in theory, but it seems kinda silly in practice.  Remember that your BMs will be helping you into your dress before the ceremony, and this throws a serious wrench into your plan for 2 reasons: 

    First, they will be seeing it on you before the ceremony anyway, so they won’t get that oooooh aaaaah moment the rest of the crowd will by seeing you suddenly appear and walk down the aisle. 

    Second, it will be really helpful for your BMs to get to know how to put your dress on you and how to work the bustle beforehand.  Trust me.  These things can be way more complicated than you might think, and your girls will probably need all the practice they can get at doing it!

    Post # 12
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I’m not keeping my wedding dress a secret. But I also don’t think any of my BMs have seen it. I went dress shopping with my mom and SIL and found something in 4 hours. I took pictures of it, but never have them around when a Bridesmaid or Best Man asks about it. I don’t think it really matters to them, they know they’ll see it eventually 🙂 I don’t even think I saw the bride’s dress in the last wedding I was in. I think it will be fine, but if you are honestly keeping it a secret, some of the BMs may be annoyed. It’s not their choice though 🙂

    Post # 13
    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    one of my BFFs did this, i had no idea what her dress looked like. yes, we all cried when we just saw the dress, but honestly, it was kinda weird that NO ONE knew what it looked like. i dunno, i feel like i missed out on some excitement beforehand because i had no idea what her vision was. that being said, her dress was a vera wang, and absolutely gorgeous. i don’t know what it would have been like had the dress been more plain on the rack or something. and for those other friends who i did know what their dress looked like, i still cried when they were all dressed, so either way, you’ll get a good reaction.

    Post # 14
    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I did not keep it a secret. However, no one has seen me in my dress. My sister saw me in the dress since I went with her. But some friends just saw the picture of the model wearing it. And the model is wearing it in Ivory, I bought it in White. So no harm! I was just too excited and wanted to share my excitement.

    Post # 15
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It’s really no secret, but…one Bridesmaid or Best Man lives 8 hours away, and the other 2 (my sister included) just haven’t been able to be around when I’m actually wearing it.  *shrug* whatever lol

    Post # 16
    6826 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Oribel013690: I agree with her, you definately should have at least one bridesmaid see you in the dress just for the pure fact on how to fasten the back and bustle. 

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