Post # 1
I haven’t tried on any wedding dresses, so maybe I’ll feel differently once I try them on, but the other day I started thinking… what if I kept my dress a secret from everyone, including my Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs (except my mom, of course!), until the wedding day?
Has anyone ever done it or considered it? I’m thinking their reaction will make some cute pictures (hopefully!) that I’ll be able to keep. Did anyone try it and give in because they needed their opinion on which dress they should get?
I’m torn. It seems kind of fun to keep it a secret, but it might be easier to have their opinions before I buy a dress (if I have a hard time deciding between dresses).
What do you think?
Post # 3
I am keeping it a secret, but I think my bridesmaids are not happy about it..particularly the ones that I had gone wedding dress shopping with for their wedding. Who knows I may cave in.. LOL
Post # 4
I wanted to, but then I was just too excited and needed to share 🙂 Only my MoH lives closeby, my mom and the BMs are out of town and I wanted them to feel a part of the process.
Post # 5
I think I’ll be way too excited to keep it a secret! It will probably be hard enough not to show Fiance. I’m a terrible secret keeper in general, though. I personally think it would be helpful to have some other opinions!
Post # 6
I would not be able to keep it a secret!! I brought mom and two BMs (lil sis and bff) to first fitting near hometown in FL, where mom bought the dress. When it comes in, I’ll have the shop ship it out to me in Cali, and I’ll bring MOH/FSIL and Future Mother-In-Law to alteration fittings, so all have a chance to see it!
Post # 7
i can’t keep that secret either! plus they have to help me with the bustle!
Post # 8
I personally couldn’t do it. I’d want LOTS of “opinions” on how awesome I looked in it bahahaha
Post # 9
My dress is a secret from everyone but, the people who came shopping with me. My mom, two sisters and my one sisters bf. My sisters are two of my bridesmaids but, the other two have no clue. I just think it is best to keep it a secret i don’t want negative opinions that might make me rethink my decision.
Post # 10
After visiting a bagillion shops and not really being able to settle on a dress I ventured out on my own and ended up buying my dress. So no one’s seen it and I am starting to play with the idea that no one will.
I’ve shown many people (including Fiance who is kinda clueless still) pictures of it from the web, but it looks totally different when on me.
I think it makes it super special that no one will see my dress until the day.
Post # 11
It sounds like fun in theory, but it seems kinda silly in practice. Remember that your BMs will be helping you into your dress before the ceremony, and this throws a serious wrench into your plan for 2 reasons:
First, they will be seeing it on you before the ceremony anyway, so they won’t get that oooooh aaaaah moment the rest of the crowd will by seeing you suddenly appear and walk down the aisle.
Second, it will be really helpful for your BMs to get to know how to put your dress on you and how to work the bustle beforehand. Trust me. These things can be way more complicated than you might think, and your girls will probably need all the practice they can get at doing it!
Post # 12
I’m not keeping my wedding dress a secret. But I also don’t think any of my BMs have seen it. I went dress shopping with my mom and SIL and found something in 4 hours. I took pictures of it, but never have them around when a Bridesmaid or Best Man asks about it. I don’t think it really matters to them, they know they’ll see it eventually 🙂 I don’t even think I saw the bride’s dress in the last wedding I was in. I think it will be fine, but if you are honestly keeping it a secret, some of the BMs may be annoyed. It’s not their choice though 🙂
Post # 13
one of my BFFs did this, i had no idea what her dress looked like. yes, we all cried when we just saw the dress, but honestly, it was kinda weird that NO ONE knew what it looked like. i dunno, i feel like i missed out on some excitement beforehand because i had no idea what her vision was. that being said, her dress was a vera wang, and absolutely gorgeous. i don’t know what it would have been like had the dress been more plain on the rack or something. and for those other friends who i did know what their dress looked like, i still cried when they were all dressed, so either way, you’ll get a good reaction.
Post # 14
I did not keep it a secret. However, no one has seen me in my dress. My sister saw me in the dress since I went with her. But some friends just saw the picture of the model wearing it. And the model is wearing it in Ivory, I bought it in White. So no harm! I was just too excited and wanted to share my excitement.
Post # 15
It’s really no secret, but…one Bridesmaid or Best Man lives 8 hours away, and the other 2 (my sister included) just haven’t been able to be around when I’m actually wearing it. *shrug* whatever lol
Post # 16
@Oribel013690: I agree with her, you definately should have at least one bridesmaid see you in the dress just for the pure fact on how to fasten the back and bustle.