Post # 1
I am getting married next March and have a big problem. I have no one to walk me down the isle. My mom refused because she doesn’t want to offend my stepdad who wants to walk me down the isle (but I would rather not get married than have that happen.) My father passed away while I was in high school so that isn’t an option and my brother and I are close however I would feel weird having him walk me down the isle as well. I thought about asking my dad’s best friend, who is also my best friends dad who has known me since I was two. But, I also think that may cause some problems. So, my question is this….does anyone have another way for us to do this? I thought about having everyone just walk up there together, but with a wedding party of 12, plus me and my FI, that might look kind of weird. What does everyone think? I really need some help here!
Post # 3
Why don’t you just walk alone? Or have FI meet you halfway?
Post # 4
If you are comfortable walking by yourself, I would do that. No one HAS to give you away these days.
Post # 5
Have your brother walk you down half way and they have your fiance meet you half way and walk you up the rest.
Post # 6
When I got married the first time my father had passed away 5 months previously and I didn’t have a close relationship with my step dad (I actually didn’t like him) so I chose to walk alone. That way I didn’t offend anyone by choosing one person over another but if anyone asked I would have said “I could only picture my dad walking me down the aisle and since he’s not here I’ll honor him by walking myself” and I felt comfortable with that decision.
I know it’s a hard decision and I wish you good luck.
Post # 7
I plan on walking alone.. not close with my father at all.. and i think my mom would rather get to watch me walk down the aisle than actually walk with me.
Post # 8
I would walk alone and have your FI meet you halfway. My Aunt did that.
Post # 9
Now that I’m getting married for the second time my 25 year old son will walk me… no, actually he said “I’m going to push you”…lol Here take her, I don’t want to have to take care of her…lol!!!
I’m looking forward to it since my father didn’t get the chance.
Post # 10
I don’t think it would be wierd if your brother walked you down the aisle, but if you’re uncomfortable with that, then walk alone! I think that’s totally acceptable.
Post # 11
My wedding was today, and I was walked down the aisle by my husband’s father. Whom I met just yeasterday, since his parent live in a different country and came for the wedding. All I know for sure that if i wasn’t walked by anyone I would trap and fall on the mini-bridge, it was too steep and my heels were too high.
Post # 13
I initally hated the thought of walking alone, but I think you all have convinced me. I really liked the senitment that Ill Be Mrs B shared that, ” I could only picture my dad walking me down the aisle and since he’s not here I’ll honor him by walking myself.” I read that another bride on here put her fathers picture in a locket on her boquet and also plan on doing that. Thanks for all the help bees. I’ve really been stressing over this.
Now to find a way to include my stepdad since I also will not be doing a father daughter dance with him. Maybe a stepfather toast? A reading? Any suggestions on that?
Post # 14
A couple of things, no one HAS to walk you down the aisle.
My father died when I was 12. My brother gave me away, simply because I got married in 1982 and it wasn’t really “cool” for a mother to give you away (realizing that has changed).
It was sweet and since my brother is 5 years older than me, it was okay.
It is completely okay to go down the aisle alone.
Do what feels okay for YOU and YOU alone.
Post # 15
Do you have any Grandfathers that are still alive? That’s who I’d have it it were possible, or I’d walk alone.