Post # 1
My mother is a hilarious and sometimes infuriating fuddy duddy, control freak. She’s a prim and proper, older woman. The model of consistency, morality, and propriety. She’s also one heck of a baker.
My future mother-in-law is a much more laid back, southern woman. She’s thoroughly modern with her ipad and ability to text. She’s one heck of a cook.
As we discussed wedding cake, my Fiance joked that we will have his mother’s red velvet cake with my mother’s chocolate cookie fingers (cookies the shape of lady fingers) stuck around the outside. I laughed it off, but emailed them both to see if they would collaborate on a groom’s cake. Here are their responses:
“That’s certainly easy enough. The difference in mine and others is the icing (no cream cheese icing). How big does it need to be? Maybe I could be “cake boss” for a day 🙂
Sent from my iPad”
My mother’s response is too long to post here. It goes on about how she will make cookies and a frosted cake to experiment with how the frosting affects the cookies. She wondered if covering the cookies in chocolate will help with the adhesion. She decided that she would FedEx the cookies with dry ice. Then she rambled about her dress for a while and ended by asking if they should have a conference call to discuss all of this.
Kill me. Anyone else have a mother and a Mother-In-Law who are total opposite?
Anyone prefer their Mother-In-Law to their own mother?
Post # 3
Me! Haha I feel terrible writing this but I totally do. I got so lucky with my Future Mother-In-Law. My mom and I have major issues (although I do of course love her), but my Future Mother-In-Law is this wonderful, funny, classy, relaxed, comfortable woman who raised an amazing son and will be the BEST grandmother.
Sometimes I read the posts here about nightmare FMILs and I count my blessings!
Post # 4
@Jeannine @ Small Chic: ME!!!! ME!!!! I DO! I DO!!!!
Let’s put it this way: My FI’s best friends thought I was exaggerating about my mother. They met her and then asked me later how I a)kept from killing her and b)how the HELL did I manage to survive her.
They love my FI’s mother and adore her.
My mother and my Future Mother-In-Law are POLAR OPPOSITES.
However, despite the fact I love my FI’s mom, there’s still no way in all of Heaven or Hell I could spend long periods of time with her. Of course, my Fiance feels the same, lol.
Post # 5
if i had to give a kidney to either my Mother-In-Law or my mom – i would choose my Mother-In-Law
Post # 6
I love(d) my Future Mother-In-Law. She was more a mother to me than my own mother.
Harsh, but true.
Post # 7
I LOVE my mother in law and yes: she is the total opposite of my mother. Future Mother-In-Law is a happy-go-lucky, easygoing homemaker. My mom is a high strung, erratic lady that’s always running from meeting to meeting. Their both great in different ways but Future Mother-In-Law is much easier to like.
Post # 8
You all are making me feel so much better.
Things go really smoothly when i don’t talk to my mother about wedding stuff. I can’t imagine what this would have been like if I were younger and depending on her to help me plan.
Post # 9
Sometimes I do. My mother is great, but we are very different. After high school and college, I started my own business and have a lot of drive and determination. My mom doesn’t understand why I have 2 cell phones, why I answer calls at 6:00am, why I work on my laptop until midnight, etc. She has always had a 9-5 job that doesn’t require tremendous ethic.
My mother in law is so supportive of me and my career endeavors, etc. Hard to explain.
Post # 10
My mom and Mother-In-Law are oddly similar. It’s nice, b/c I like my mom, so it’s nice to have two of them 🙂
Post # 11
Hm, I think I should say that I’d much rather deal with my Future Mother-In-Law than my mother. My love for my mother will always be there, but I definitely don’t like her at times. It’s unfortunate to feel this way.
My mother suffers borderline personality disorder so it’s very hard to be around her at times.
Future Mother-In-Law is laid back most of the time (though she is beginning to become very stingy with certain things). She’s easy to talk and relate to. She cracks jokes and has fun.
In the end, we all have our moments. I just wish I had a better relationship with my mom.
Sorry for digressing hah.
Post # 12
@Jeannine @ Small Chic: ITA. And I am younger! Sigh.
Post # 13
I do! while I LOVE my mother because she’s my mother and I know everything she does, she thinks its good for me….my mother is not the easier person to get along with. Definitely a love-hate relationship there lol. But Future Mother-In-Law is easy peezy to get along with!
Post # 14
Hell naw! I don’t even want my Future Mother-In-Law to come to the wedding! Now, his step mom? I love her! Maybe because we are only 10 years apart? Who knows!
Post # 15
I do! I love my own mother dearly, but she can be so old-fashioned, conservative, and has a style completely opposite of mine. Just started planning the wedding and already she has opinions about everything and wants my wedding to be just like “everyone else’s” that she’s been to. Um…NOT me! I’m more modern and contemporary, my friends in college called me Ms. Vogue (in a good way, not the pretentious way). My mom has a gazillion questions about every little teeny tiny detail that I haven’t even thought about, and I feel like I get the third degree from her every time we talk about the wedding. My Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t have opinions about anything, super supportive, trusts whatever decision that my fiance and I make! Wish my mom would take a small lesson from her!! 😛
Post # 16
DH’s mom is sweet but I definitely don’t like her more than my own mom. They’re both a bit neurotic in their own ways but I love my mum 😀