Anyone live with the in laws? It's making me crazy!!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

HappyHannah1980:  Honestly I think your only solution is to move out.  Sorry you’re stuck in that situation, but is there any reason why you’re waiting to move?  If I were you, I’d be getting out of there ASAP.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

For the sake of peace, just do the dishes the way she likes. There’s no way around it.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

HappyHannah1980:  I guess it really comes down to how much you can tolerate.  For me, it’d be worth it to get a room in an extended stay hotel for a few weeks before moving if I had to deal with something like this.  Sorry to hear you’re going through this, but hopefully it won’t be for much longer.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

No way.  I would never live with anyone other than my SO, especially not a parent figure.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would never put myself in this situation, but since you have.. You have to abide by her rules. If she wants the dishes done when she wants them done, just do them, its her house. No matter how she keeps it, its not your business, just do as she asks.

 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

HappyHannah1980:  Well as I just moved out of my MILs house 2 months ago, I can offer some advice.  The only thing I could think to do is to change MY habits.  You can’t change other people but you can change yourself.  Every now and then I find myself leaving dishes in the sink overnight especially when there’s only 2 of us, we don’t create a whole lot of mess.  Another option would be to sit down with her and have a nice conversation.  You could start off by saying I know that you hate me leaving dishes in the sink, is there another place I could keep them until I do them the next morning that you would prefer?  Or another question you could ask would to ask for a trade off, for you doing dishes the night before, she helps cook or whatever else you choose.  Another option would be to go to the store, get a small tote, and keep your dishes in there in your room.  I know it sounds gross but it would eliminate them being left out where she can see them.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

I’m about to be in this situation >.< FI and I are getting married this weekend. We absolutely cannot afford to live on our because he doesn’t have a job yet and we can’t survive on my income alone – not if we don’t want ramen noodles every night. All I can say is try and tough it out until you move – thankfully you’re moving out soon!

 

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