(Closed) Anyone living far or will be living far from family to be with your husband?

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I live on the other side of the country from my parents.  His parents are about 15 hrs south of us and his dad is another whole country altogether.  It doesn’t bother me that much though as, since college, I have lived a good distance from my family by choice.  This is just another step in our lives and maybe one day we’ll live by family, maybe we wont.  I guess I just come from a different background.  Even when I was still living with my parents I didn’t have any immediate family nearby, they were all over the country, so that probably makes it easier for me.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i feeld for you – i am very close with my family and for the time being i am so very lucky to have my brothers, sisters mom and dad in the same city as me – DH’s parents live only and hour away – but i know this good fortune wont be forever – i dread the day someone has to move farther away.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve lived 3-4 hours from home since I left for college, so it’s not a huge deal.  Right now we’re 4 hours from my parents but only 20 minutes from his.  We’re planning a big move though that will probably leave us several hours from both sets of parents.  It will be more of an adjustment for him, since he’s used to living closer, and I also enjoy having “a” family nearby.  When we have kids, hopefully we’ll be able to live close to at least one set of parents.

Our siblings are fairly scattered as well, so the distance isn’t a huge deal in our families.  But everyone in his family does live in the same small town (minus his sister who’s planning on moving back eventually), so it will be weird if we settle down far away.  I was telling a friend I was a little nervous about moving so far away from family, and he said, “But ___ is your family, and he’ll be there with you.”  It was cheesy but cute.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I live a four hour plane ride away from my family Cry  I get very sad about it sometimes.  When I go to visit I have SO much fun and genuinely love my family to pieces.  Alas, our jobs require us to be here for now.  My FI’s family lives about 1.5 hours away from us, but they don’t hang out a lot, so it’s definitely not what I’m used to.  My family does open houses once a week to see each other.  We see his once every few months.

I’m hoping we can move to the same state as my family in a few years.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance’s parents live down the road from us and I am 3 hours from my parents and sisters, and 5 hours from all of my friends. We moved to NH for his job and I miss everything about my home state….    Frown

 

but he’s worth it..   Wink

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I will be about an hour away from my parents. Both sets of our parents live in the same city. (His parents are separated.) But he does not like his family at all. (And with good reason!) so he wanted to move far away and he came about 70 KMs away. The side-effect of this was that I will also be far from mine post-marriage. Cry

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i’ve lived away from home since college, though never more than a short plane ride away. dh had been in dc his whole life except college and 1 year abroad for a masters, so he moved away from his family for me last summer when i got into grad school. he was happy about it though–he’s close to his family, but they sometimes take advantage of him when he’s right there. his sister lives at home, but his parents would always be asking him to do things for them bc his sis isn’t willing to help and dh can’t say no. it’s good for him to have a little distance, but dc and nyc are still pretty close, so we’ve seen them a good deal even after moving. we hope to move back eventually though, and my parents have said that when we have kids they want to retire and move near whereever dh and i are…

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t live too far, but I am 1.5 hours away from my family.  It wasn’t difficult to go visit them until I got my job and all of our schedules are wacky.  Plus, with the way gas prices are going, it’s going to become more rare that we drive to visit.  It sucks at times, but I needed a “break” from certain family problems/situations.   Only thing that bothers me is that I moved in with J and his parents until our financial situation gets taken care of.  Unfortunately, it’s taking longer than expected.  But I hate the fact that I wasn’t allowed to bring my dogchild with me.  They said no because they have cats who have never been around a dog before and they’re not sure how it’ll work.  I respect their decision, but it’s so hard for me when I can barely make trips to go visit my dog.  Just sucks.  Okay, I’m down babbling.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We moved to the south after our wedding a year and a half ago.  It’s a few hour flight to either set of parents.

Post # 12
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1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

We plan to move to England in 2014, so that will be pretty far. At the moment, Mr.D is far from his family, and in a few years I will be far from mine. It’s a tough spot to be in ๐Ÿ™

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

FI just got offered a job 15 hours away from both sets of parents and all of our friends…but its a great thing!! And hes worth it ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I already lived 3,000 miles away from my family when I met my husband, and he lived about 1,500 miles away from his. We both really liked the idea of finding our identities on our own and having lots of adventure away from our families before settling down. We’ll be moving closer to my mom before having kids.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We moved to Atlanta from Boston a few months ago so FH could go to grad school. After grad school we have no idea where the road will take us but he has always had a love for Hawaii so I have a feeling we may wind up there. I know it sounds beautiful but the thought of us eventually having children and being so far away from family and friends kind of breaks my heart a little.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We’re from Michigan and living in VA for my husband’s job. I’ve made a ton of career changes/sacrifices to be here. It’s a tough position, but it’s brought us a lot closer. Plus, not having the parents so close gives us a lot of freedom ๐Ÿ˜€

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