Anyone lucky to NOT have to nag your SO?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Member
3360 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ugh, lucky lucky woman.  Nope.  Pretty sure my DH has mild ADD, so he’ll start doing something then get distracted and leave it – if it’s something he doesn’t actually want to do (like put away his clean clothes), it takes a LOT of “reminding” (I really try not to be naggy, but it’s hard not to sometimes) for it to actually get done.

Post # 4
mswallabyBee
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Hahaha yup. My DH is the one who has to nag ME! I’m the laissez-faire, always-late, disorganized one in our relationship. We started using the Wunderlist app recently though and that’s been helping 🙂

Post # 6
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5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Ryansgirl:  I used to nag but I realized it wasnt getting me anywhere and I started sounding like my mom which is my worst fear as she is collosal nagger! I have learnt to pick my battles with my husband and for most things that are small and he forgets to do (put laundry in the laundry basket) I just do it myself to save the nag!

Post # 9
mswallabyBee
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@Ryansgirl:  It’s an app that lets you share a to-do list with other people. We both have the app on our phones, so we can add groceries, errands, etc. onto our lists, and check them off as we accomplish them. So far I love it!!

Post # 10
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1867 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Lucky you! My husband remembers nothing at all. I’ve started a campaign of no nagging though, and mentioning something very clearly, reminding him politely once, and then no more. I figured nagging just annoys me more than it does any good for him so why bother?

Post # 11
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536 posts
Busy bee

@Ryansgirl:  Nope. I nag that sucker like there’s no tomorrow.  You either learn or you feel the burn, my man.

Post # 12
Member
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yep!  He’s too stubborn, so nagging has the opposite effect and I’d never get anything done.

Using the old, “Honey, I know you were already going to do XYZ, but would you mind doing it sooner for me?  I’d really appreciate it *smile sweetly*” instead of nagging works like a charm.  Especially if there’s a line in there about how manly he looks doing said chore haha (and of course, if you use these lines, you have to mean them!).  

Post # 13
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

A) I am naggy anyway lol and B) DH does need my “reminding” to do things Innocent

Post # 15
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Ryansgirl:  I am lucky in the sense that I have learned to deal with my husbands procrastinating ways without nagging!  As I said in the other thread, I subtly give him a deadline like “I’d love to have X done by X date” and yes, he will wait until the last possible second to do it, but it ALWAYS gets done by the deadline!

I used to be a psycho type-A over planner person. My husband’s laid back, procrastinating ways have rubbed off on me to a certain extent. I’m much more relaxed and laid back now. It’s done wonders for my stress levels and most likely for our relationship. We’re more equally balanced now.

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