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Your veil looks lovely to me! Anyone who would insult a bride to her face is not someone whose opinion I would listen to :)
@MarzipanMrs.- Thanks! Her mother is a very bitter person lately and I know that she is just miserable but it's hard not to wonder if others think the same and they just don't say it.
Your veil is lovely. Try not to let her remarks get to you. I'm wearing bright orange shoes under my dress...which I've already heard remarks about and I don't care. Why? Because it's what I want and I love it.
So, if it's what you want to wear and if you love it...that's all that matters.
I think your veil is beautiful!
I actually had negative comments at the store where I bought my dress. I loved my dress otherwise I would have walked out. My bridesmaids were on one side of the store and this guy that works in the bridal department told them that my colors were "tacky". So my cousin who is my bridesmaid came over and told me what he said and I went off the handle.
I haven't said anything to the owner of the shop yet, but I'm going to after my dress is done so he doesn't do anything to it lol... maybe by then I will forget about it... but I thought that it was very rude and unnecessary. It's supposed to be one of the most special times for a bride (buying her dress) and I think people should just keep their comments and opinions to themselves if it doesn't make the bride feel special!
I would just forget about what they said to you though, I mean, if you feel beautiful and you love your veil that's all that matters!
Oh gosh! I'm not even a fan of veils typically, but if you hadn't had that custom made I would be bugging you for details! That's just so gorgeous! Rock it, and don't let her get you down too much :P.
I agree that was very rude of her. Although, I'm sure she probably thought she was giving you a compliment by saying you don't need all the bling to look beautiful. In a backwards kind of way, it's a compliment. You're so beautiful that you don't need anything extra.
However, this is the look you want. Your attire and your selections are what you've chosen for your special day and no one should say any crap about it unless you come right out and ask for their opinion!
I think your veil is lovely and unique. If I were wearing a veil I would want something special like yours also.
And for the record, as the bride, you should wear absolutely anything you want as long as you feel beautiful and special. If we're lucky, we only get one day to wear something as over the top as a wedding gown and all the accessories that go with it!!!
your veil is lovely! The bottom of it looks like stars - gorgeous. Ignore her. Just because it isn't her taste she shouldn't make disparaging comments about your attire (and frankly, if she doesn't like that beautiful veil, she must not have very good taste ....)
Thanks girls! I love it, I was way more excited about a veil than a dress so I decided to go all out!
@stephinPA- OMG your orange shoes are going to look awesome!
@karab819- I'm sorry the bridal salon was so rude! I'm sure your colors are beautiful!
@jo.lee- Thanks ;)
@Loribeth- Yea, I guess it could be a compliment I just think that she just says everything so negatively. I know, it is my only day to wear a crazy veil with all crystals, I will never in my life be able to do it again!
@roxy821: Some people just don't know how to give compliments. They probably give them the same way they've always received them, and if you think about it, that's kind of sad. Take her comments with a grain of salt and remember it's your special day--not her's--so her opinion doesn't matter good or bad. And since you are only going to do this once, darn straight you should wear a crazy veil with all the crystals, and you'll look gorgeous wearing it too!!!
Some people just don't like the same styles. My mom hates mermaid dresses no matter how good I think they look. It's just personal taste. Pink is my favorite color but my cousin says it makes her want to vomit. Regardless as a BM she will be wearing a pink dress on my wedding day :)
This wasn't about me, but... Before my sister's wedding, my family and her FI family were all hanging out. Her FI made a comment: "Only whores wear red dresses". My mom promptly said "I'll be wearing a red dress at your wedding, do you think I am a whore?"
When will people learn to keep their mouths shut???
PS: My mom wore the red dress at the wedding and looked amazing :-)
And I love your veil. My veil is also my favorite part about my weddign day look. Sadly, I will have to take it off for the reception because it is cathedral length. That makes me a little sad
@Roxy, your veil is just lovely, I'm not wearing one, but I'd almost change my mind for yours!
And yes, my mother has been telling me for 6 months that if I insist on wearing colored shoes, my FI will turn around at the altar and not marry me. And she says it in complete seriousness.
So of course I'm wearing red shoes! :P
@june42011- So true, not everyon has the same taste and I can't expect everyone to like the same things that I do.
@magilnyc- My veil is cathedral and it's getting bustled for the reception and will end up the same length as a fingertip veil. The same seamstress who worked on my dress did it. Just an idea if you want to keep your veil on. In regards to the red comment, I know a lot of italians who think that but I'm sure your mom looked amazing! People are so funny like that.
@Quiteserenity- Haha, too funny! I highly doubt your FI would leave you at the alter over a pair of shoes. I always love when brides where fun colored shoes... still haven't figured out why my shoes are white LOL
I actually love your veil! And if the skirt on the picture is yours, I think it will go perfect. I don't think it is too blingy at all. It has just the right amount of sparkle. I'll be dying my crinoline bright blue and wearing orange heels under my ivory lace dress. I'm pretty sure I'll hear comments about it, but I don't care. If they don't like it, they don't have to look at it. :)
My mom told me she "didn't care for" my wedding dress, after I had already purchased it telling her it was what I was wearing. I was really hurt at first, but quickly got over it. It was a short dress, so she had a hard time wrapping her brain around it.
@roxy821: Never thought about bustling a veil. I will have to ask the bees for pics. Thanks!
your veil is really pretty! Against the darker background, it reminds me of stars in the nightsky (I mean this in a good way) - I don't think it looks overly "blingy" at all
I'm not a veil person, but that is really pretty and unique. I'm sure it looks gorgeous with your dress.
Negative comments about ANY of the choices we make regarding our weddings are awful. It's so personal. Every choice we make is a bit of an extension of what we love and value...it's ridiculously hurtful when it's criticized.
I haven't had any really negative comments yet, but I have an 1.5 hour car ride with my aunt in a month (we don't really speak much) that I suspect will be interesting. The only experience I've had with negative wedding BS is actually something that happened to a friend. We were at the hair salon the morning of her wedding and the hair stylist started arguing with her over her choice of hairstyle. She basically told her that her face would look fat if they pulled all her hair back (she didn't want the "piece-y curl look"). It was horrible. After my friend left, and we (the bridesmaids) were left with this harpy, she kept complaining to us about how my friend looked and why would she chose to look fat on her wedding day. It's one of my regrets that I didn't tell that woman where to shove it.
I think that the only way to get above it is to realise that there is something "off" about someone who would say something. For that person to say something like that says more about them then you or your choices. You love your veil, dress, centre-pieces, cake, whatever, and if they don't they can just keep it to themselves.
That veil is gorgeous and bah humbug to you MOH's mother! Honestly, don't worry about that kind of person. Some folks are just Negative Nellies and you shouldn't let them get to you. Brush it off and remember how many more people have said really nice things about you and your bridal attire. :)
I have heard lots of crap because my dress is teal and not white. Don't let them get to you.
OMG, your veil is so beautiful!! I have veil envy! :) SEriously, I love bling and that looks so magical and unique - but without being 'too much'.
No one said anything to my face thankfully. I didn't let a lot of people see my dress in person before the wedding, so that helped. But now I kind of wish I had taken pictures of me in the full getup before the wedding b/c it turns out my veil was too big for me! I didn't even realize it until after we got our pro pics back. i"m like a little bride surrounded by veil. Although, I'm not 100% sure I would have taken someones advice to tone it down. It's the one day you get to wear one!
I think the veil looks magical. That womans opinion was simply that. We don't all have the same sense of style. There is probably no way that every single person is going to feel that our dress or our veil is what they would choose. Heck, I am doing a one shoulder dress I can bet there will be plenty of people who would never ever choose my dress but that's okay, I am happy with it and various other people who are close to me tell me they are happy with it so fine. That's what matters to me.
gorgeuos veil. I'd ignore the harpy ;) You said she was a very bitter person, so it's probably stemming from that.
I'm not wearing a veil, never have wanted one. I've already started hearing grumbling from my mother about the fact it's a fantasy-themed wedding and I'm not doing anything traditional. (well, bouquet toss, garter toss, having my dad walk me down the aisle... sure. 15 min tops ceremony? not hardly. underbust black and silver corset? nope. my jewelry? not hardly.)
and you know what? I don't care because it's MY day, WE are paying for it, and I'm not going to let her live her desires through ME. :P
Who knows? maybe she's actually jealous, resentful, or regretful that she didn't have anything as nice for HER wedding! or maybe she's a traditionalist who doesn't believe in that sort of thing?
Regardless of her reasons, anytime she grumbles and complains, ignore her and remember it's your day and she isn't the one who's wearing it.
:) besides, it's not like the whole veil is covered in real diamonds, now is it? ;) and I'm sure there are veils with A LOT more bling than that!!!!
The hive has spoken and clearly this one doesn't have any taste. I love your veil, it is really making me re-think my plain one. Where did you get it from? If anyone would like to make comments about my bridal attire, they can just step away from the open bar that I am paying for...
EDIT: by "this one" I mean the nasty person with her bitter comments
people just have different tastes.. some brides dont even like veils at all.. but that doesnt mean that it doesnt look good on other brides. you should jus ignore naysayers
My FMIL doesn't like my shoes...they are knock off Something Blue shoes from Sex and the City.
She doesn't like that they are blue. But she doesn't like so much else about my wedding that I'm over it. I just hope she smiles for family pictures and then we'll move on. I'm sure I'll hear all sorts of things after, but that's okay. My wedding day will rock and I won't let someone ruin that. By it not being what they like/want. She has another son to beg to do what she wants..unless he also gets a strong headed woman. (lol)
I LOVE your veil. ROCK IT, sister! Who cares what they say?
As for me...yeah, I've gotten a TON of negativity.
"You're not going to wear your glasses...ARE you?" Yes. I want to be able to see.
"Green? Why a green dress?" Because I hate white and ivory on myself.
"You can't have a fake flower bouquet! It's cheap, and tacky!" So is commenting on someone's budget.
"No veil?" Yep. No veil.
I don't give a flying hoot about others' opinions of what I'm wearing or doing for the wedding. It's tough to remind myself of that sometimes, but I just don't let myself care. If people make any comments (and they have), I tend to say, jovially, "That sounds lovely. You should wear that at your wedding. I'm wearing what I've chosen and that's that!" A little passive aggressive, sure, but it tends to work. I'm just not interested in other people's opinions, and that's ok.
i assumed people would say things about my dress. it's short and the older guests seem very traditional. i was prepared to brush it off, it's not their dress, it's mine so i should have what i love. luckily if they did say stuff, it was behind my back and not to my face so i'll never know.
i'm not usually a fan of bling, but that veil is beautiful, the sparkles make it so much fun!
I have had two rather off-putting experiences about people commenting on my bridal attire. The first was at a luncheon with my MOH, her family, parents, husband and my mum. We were looking at pics of me in three dresses I tried on to decide which one would be 'the one' (of course I had really already decided...) when her husband snatched the pictures away from her and commented on how I should not go with the one she liked (which was the one I liked) as she has no taste or style and her opinion was therefore worthless. As she defended the dress he started shouting across the whole restaurant (directed at me) that he wouldn't pay a penny for that dress...At which point mum and me left with MOH and her kids. I uninvited him immediately. It was awful and sent me into a spiral of terrible dress doubts, but I loved the dress so much I got it anyway. Now, four months and a first fitting later i am more confident than ever in my choice and happy i picked the dress of my dreams. I also realised that this little drama was more about the bitterness of this man and his failing marriage (they have been struggling for a while, no guesses why) than my dress. At least this monster will not be at my wedding...
The second incident involved my veil and another one of my BM. I showed her a picture of it on, my hair just up in a random knot, and she said she thoguht I looked like queen Victoria (not a good thing over here). It is a lace edged mantilla veil, and I love love love it. However, she has very different taste to mine and likes very plain things, so her comment won't change my opinion of it. I think weddings bring out the worst in people, and trying to ruin your happiness, especially if their own life isn't going so well, is all part of the deal for some people.
Don't let them, stick to your wedding dreams, and have the best day of your life...
Rude! Your veil is very pretty. I know that it is hard not to take it personally. I went dress shopping with my mom a few weeks ago and she said a couple of things that hurt my feelings. I'm 5'5" and 120, but I don't have a well-defined waist, and she implied I was a little chubs and should only wear a loose empire waist gown b/c nothing else is flattering, etc. Just ignore the haters.
That is a beautiful veil! It reminds me of the stars in the sky, too. Love it.
It wasn't said to my face, but a family member was talking about how my wedding "doesn't count" and in the same breath mentioned that I "dare to wear blue shoes under that dress." LOL...
(it "doesn't count" because it was outdoors.)
When my florist heard my dress was probably going to be light gold she visibly winced, asked me why, and started talking down to me making it sound like I'd look horrible. It made me so mad! She's never even been married and is about 80 years old.
I think people are just quick to pass judgement on "non-traditional" decisions. But those non-traditional elements are what make your wedding unique, and they'll be wonderful because they reflect YOUR personality and aren't just what everyone's been doing for the paste ten years.
people who feel the need to put their nasty two cents in are just petty and don't know how to let someone else shine. I personally havent gone through it, but when my sister K got married, my other sister A told her "you WOULD pick that dress..." I mean.. wtf is that supposed to mean?! why would you say that?? ugh.. just people like her cant stand to let other people shine.. they are always putting others down. including their own family. ugh. i swear if A says a thing to me about my wedding or attire.. she's getting a piece of my mind and getting kicked out. ugh. k. venting done.
I showed a couple pictures to one of my co-workers and she was like 'Ew, why would you wear red shoes?"
Whatever, they rocked and so does your veil :)
Not very nice. Everyone has a different opinion about what they think a bride should wear. I would ignore it.
Number 1: Your veil is lovely. But, that being said, my opinion does not matter. You should wear what YOU want to wear.
Number 2: You are the bride. Why on earth would a bride wear what some random person, suggests? She is rude. She should keep her opinion to herself. My guess is, whatever she wears on a daily basis, is probably not what YOU would wear. I doubt you would tell her anything about what she wears.
Wear your gorgeous veil and forget about her comments. It is not HER wedding, HER veil and she should go buy one for herself and wear it around the house, if she cares that much.
Ignore.
Ignore that miserable meanie. Your veil is absolutely stunning :) P.S Your getting married in a few days *insert smile here* :)
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I know I should care what other people think, but it sucks when people have negative comments about what you will be wearing that day.
Last night I was at my hair trial at the salon where my MOH's mother works. And all she kept saying was that my veil is too heavy and then I don't need all that bling. And then one of her client commented that I looked beautiful and MOH's mom jumped in and said and wouldn't she look even more beautiful without the bling.
I love my veil and had it custom made from 3 veils. Yes is does have crystal edging and scattered crystals on the veil, but it's not like it is cheaply made or cheesy (at least I don't think so). I just feel like if you have nothing nice to say about what a bride is wearing on her wedding day, then please don't say anything.
Anyone else have negative comments and how do you brush them off?
I attached a picture of the back of my veil.
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