Post # 1
Just wondering if anyone plans on being married and living apart due to necessity (school, military, etc). My FI and I are getting married in June b/c we really wanted a summer wedding after our 4+ year relationship. We felt it’d be too much with him coming home and that me having a wedding to plan would make his deployment go MUCH easier (which it did). He’s in the military, so in July he has to return to Georgia while I have to stay in St Louis. We’ll be living apart until about November or so.
Anyone else in the same boat? Boy it sucks! 4.5 years and I STILL gotta wait?
Post # 3
I feel your pain! My fiance is in the Coast Guard and is stationed in NY. I live in MD and am finishing up my MS so I can’t move until a couple months after our wedding. He has one more year in NY so we decided it would be best to just wait and move together to wherever he is stationed next. So we won’t officially be living together until our first wedding anniversary.
Post # 4
(sigh) me too.
we’re having our one year anniversary this weekend, and we’re still living 5 hours apart. We hate it, but unfortunately its the cards we’re dealt right now. We see that coming to an end soon- so there is a light!
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
Mr. K and I have been apart for all but the first 6 months of our 4.5 year relationship and we are still living apart for the next month or so! I am so ready to set up a home together! It is driving me crazy!
Post # 6
I’ll actually be moving across the country for a year 1 month after we get married. We’ve been LD before, but it does feel kind of lame to have to do it the first year of our marriage. But I don’t want to put off getting married b/c of it…I’m ready now 🙂
Post # 7
Yikes! We live together, but this post caught my eye – if any of you read Carolyn Hax (advice columnist, I know she’s printed in D.C. but I don’t know if it’s syndicated) had a post about a couple who had spent pretty much their whole married lives (married for a while) apart and had NO PLANS to move together and wanted to have a baby! It’s not something I could imagine doing and you ladies are so strong for being able to do it!
Post # 8
aw, I feel your pain, I am in the same dilemma, I visit my boyfriend, now fiance who lives in England, we met two years ago this adte in Times square, he visits me, we alternate, howvever, we cannot really be together til we marry and one of us petitions the other (hopefully it takes 3 to 6 months)
so after we marry back to enaglnd he goes, I plan to work part-time afterwards so I can see him more often til we are finally together ; it’s always been hard to part like a piece of myself dies when he leaves me and there’s something wrong wiith the picture but harder this time once we are wed, I am bracing myself
I’m having alot of fun planning the wedding though! I see him again in England in 7 weeks, good luck to all of us! we made it this far baby
Post # 9
I know how you feel. My husband and I have always been apart and I believe that in the past year have seen him for a total of 7 wks if we add up all the weeks he’s been able to come home and the weekend trips I have been able to go and see him.
We’ve been married now for just over 2 weeks, and already he’s had to leave. I believe the soonest I could see him is in a month – otherwise its six weeks. We only got to spend 1 week together after we got married :'( I do miss him and love him loads, but it does help knowing that I will be making the transition to be closer to him, even if I see him just a few more days.
Hang on in there ladies!!! Keep looking for the rainbows!!!!
Post # 10
This may end up being my situation for decent chunks of time as well, but I don’t know yet! After we get married my fiance (husband then!) will have various parts of his training before he gets posted to his first permanent army post for 3 years. The plan is for me to apply to law school next year, but defer for a year so I can line up law school with his post better… so depending on how things go, we could spend either a little or a lot of time apart. Then during deployments, we’ll definitely be apart. Ah, military spousehood…