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Hi - I know this really isn't a destination wedding per se, but I know a few others must be going through the same thing . My FI is from New Zealand and I'm originally from NY. We live in NY area (NJ) and will be getting married in New Zealand next year.

Does anyone else have a partner from overseas and are you having your wedding there?  How do people here feel about it?  Are there cultural differences and how are you incorporating these?

that's so sweet ilovenycmissie!  what a sweet guy! best of luck to you too :)

My situation is the reverse from you. I'm originally from Puerto Rico, my fiance is from the US, we live in the mainland US and we'll be marrying in Puerto Rico, so I'm the partner from overseas. Well, it's not exactly "overseas" or a different country altogether, but close enough.

The cultural differences aren't that pronounced, since Puerto Rico is pretty americanized and many people there are bilingual, but we are including a page of useful phrases in Spanish and some explanations of the idiosyncrasies of Puerto Rican culture in our wedding website to help the guests coming from the US. Also, the people who we've talked to about the wedding so far don't seem annoyed or anything at having to travel for the wedding because they see it as a mini vacation to the Caribbean in the middle of winter (wedding is in February).

We compromised and are getting married in Hawaii, halfway between Boston & Sydney.

thanks everyone! 

azula - so cool how you are providing your guests with information like Spanish phrases and cultural info.  We have to figure out some way to do this (I don't think we will have a wedding website).

aloweha - We almost did Hawaii too, and I'm kinda jealous as I haven't been!  A lot of people from NZ could not afford the flight to Hawaii either, so we decided on NZ b/c I have a teeny tiny family (literally five people and neither of these are my parents) and my FIs family is HUGE. 

sarahdtn - Your post made me so happy - yay for kiwis! And oh gosh - if you ever want to PM me please do!!! Kiwis are such warm, amazing people and your FIs family will LOVE you and I think its especially great that you are adding elements of kiwi culture into your wedding - his family will be so touched. I was so excited to see your post I told my FI about everything you are doing (so cool!) and he did tell me one thing that I wanted to share - if your FIs family is part Maori, you might want to reconsider the Haka even though it is an awesome idea and such fun...apparently according to Maori culture women are not supposed to do the Haka.  I don't know if this would be an issue.