Post # 1
Hi – I know this really isn’t a destination wedding per se, but I know a few others must be going through the same thing . My FI is from New Zealand and I’m originally from NY. We live in NY area (NJ) and will be getting married in New Zealand next year.
Does anyone else have a partner from overseas and are you having your wedding there? How do people here feel about it? Are there cultural differences and how are you incorporating these?
Post # 3
we’re marrying here, since I’m the bride-he said we should marry where I live (aw), but having a big party also in england
Post # 4
that’s so sweet ilovenycmissie! what a sweet guy! best of luck to you too 🙂
Post # 5
My situation is the reverse from you. I’m originally from Puerto Rico, my fiance is from the US, we live in the mainland US and we’ll be marrying in Puerto Rico, so I’m the partner from overseas. Well, it’s not exactly "overseas" or a different country altogether, but close enough.
The cultural differences aren’t that pronounced, since Puerto Rico is pretty americanized and many people there are bilingual, but we are including a page of useful phrases in Spanish and some explanations of the idiosyncrasies of Puerto Rican culture in our wedding website to help the guests coming from the US. Also, the people who we’ve talked to about the wedding so far don’t seem annoyed or anything at having to travel for the wedding because they see it as a mini vacation to the Caribbean in the middle of winter (wedding is in February).
Post # 6
We compromised and are getting married in Hawaii, halfway between Boston & Sydney.
Post # 7
My Fiance is a kiwi too. We live in London but will be getting married in NC which is where I am from.
His Mother, Father, and siblings will all be flying over from New Zealand for the wedding. It will be the first time I meet any of them. YIKES! We had planned to go to New Zealand last Christmas so that I could meet them all before the wedding but in the end we were not able to because of finances.
I am trying to incorporate bits of New Zealand into the wedding since my Fiance so graciously offered to have it in my home country. There is a big kiwi on top of the groom’s cake. The guys will have fiddle heads in their boutonnieres. I’ve even talked my bridesmaids into doing one of the All Black’s Hakas with me at the reception to surprise my Fiance. That will be a little crazy but I think my Fiance will get a laugh out of it.
I am happy to be having my wedding in NC but I am also jealous of you for having a wedding in New Zealand. It will be gorgeous I’m sure!
Post # 8
azula – so cool how you are providing your guests with information like Spanish phrases and cultural info. We have to figure out some way to do this (I don’t think we will have a wedding website).
aloweha – We almost did Hawaii too, and I’m kinda jealous as I haven’t been! A lot of people from NZ could not afford the flight to Hawaii either, so we decided on NZ b/c I have a teeny tiny family (literally five people and neither of these are my parents) and my FIs family is HUGE.
sarahdtn – Your post made me so happy – yay for kiwis! And oh gosh – if you ever want to PM me please do!!! Kiwis are such warm, amazing people and your FIs family will LOVE you and I think its especially great that you are adding elements of kiwi culture into your wedding – his family will be so touched. I was so excited to see your post I told my Fiance about everything you are doing (so cool!) and he did tell me one thing that I wanted to share – if your FIs family is part Maori, you might want to reconsider the Haka even though it is an awesome idea and such fun…apparently according to Maori culture women are not supposed to do the Haka. I don’t know if this would be an issue.
Post # 9
are there any kiwi traditions? my fiance is british but he loves kiwi people and NZ i would love to incorporate something kiwi since he hardly has anyone with him at the ceremony
Post # 10
i’m from Singapore, he’s from California, the wedding’s here in Singapore (Asia) and his family & friends are flying in, since i’ll eventually be moving.
there are definitely cultural differences, but everyone’s really excited about it.
for his family, it’s to explore something exotic/different, and my family’s pretty excited about welcoming them and showing everyone around!
Post # 11
Fiancé is French, I’m American…Wedding is in Paris as this is where we live and there is no inbetween place we could compromise with.
Post # 12
yeah we’re getting married in NY because I’ll be moving anyway
Post # 13
Fiance is German, I’m American, we live in Germany but are getting married stateside. Like Miss Paris, there really was no in between and since we met in grad school in the US, and more of his family and friends speak English than mine do German, we decided it only made sense. Besides, his parents have never been to America (mine traveled to Germany right after we got engaged so they have met) and are excited to make a vacation out of it!
Post # 14
We’re getting married in Ireland, where my fiance is from.
I’m orginally from PA but we both live in Boston. Orignally we thought Boston was a good middle ground but his mom recently was diagnosed with stage four ovarian cancer and I made the decision to change everything and move it closer to her. I don’t want her worrying about our wedding when she is going something so difficult at the moment.
We are now having an intimate wedding of about 30 people with only our closest family and friends. Because of the circumstances, I think the day will mean that much more.
Here is a post I did on Elizabeth Anne Designs on my wedding venue: The Cliff House