(Closed) Anyone meet their fiancee’s online and come across this

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We met online. But lived 15 minutes away from each other. May I ask how long have you known him?

Post # 4
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My Fiance and I met on one of the social network sites. However, we knew each other since grade school, but were never close friends. We lived 2 minutes from one another.

Post # 6
6 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

I met my Fiance on a dating website.  Turns out we lived about 5-min away from each other until he moved to work at Disney.  I eventually followed him down though when I found a job near by.

Post # 7
375 posts
Helper bee

I’m curious–do you mean to say that your relationship has been entirely online and you will not be meeting in person until a few weeks before the wedding or just that people are assuming that’s the case?

My guy and I met online almost 4 years ago and did the LDR thing for the first 6 months before he moved here. Even though it would have made financial sense to move in together immediately, we decided it was a good idea to date in the same town for a while before deciding if we really wanted to live together or anything else further on down the line.

It was definitely a good idea for us–there’s a big difference between spending a weekend together once a month and seeing each other every day!

Post # 8
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

we met online when he responded to a blog post of mine… and his response was so long that he wrote a seperate blog instead of just making a comment. then we got to chatting online, then phone, then we met in person when i visited him as just a friend. that’s all it was supposed to be. while i was visiting, we decided we should get married. 4 months later, he moved from texas to minnesota and we’ve been living together for almost two years now.

the only people that reacted negatively were people that didn’t know me very well… co-workers and such.

Post # 9
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I met Fiance through Facebook, but we started hanging out about a month into us meeting.  We only lived about 1.5 hours away.  Not even that.

Post # 10
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Darling Husband and I met online.  We started talking and became friends in July 2008, met in person in Nov 2008, got engaged Sept 2009, and got married legally April 2010.  🙂  I’ve been pretty vocal (yeah I pretty much wanted to shout from the rooftops!  lol) about how, when, where we met and what I consider our fairytale story!  Maybe it’s the way I explain it, but I’ve never had people assume that we never met in person.

Are they asking you questions or just assuming the moment you mention online?  I’ve had lots of people find out that Darling Husband is from Europe (we live in the USA now) and the moment they do, they start asking me questions about how we met, etc.  Everyone seems to love to hear our story!

Post # 12
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We met online, but started chatting and talking on the phone right away. We met in person within a month of meeting online. Then came 18 months of courtship where my Fiance would drive 300 miles after he got off work every other  friday, and back home on Sunday, to see me. I have to admit, that he felt I was worth racking up 1200 miles on his car every month still boggles my mind. I think at first I was embarassed to admit we met online, but you know, now I think it’s cool. Every romance has it’s beginning and that was ours. I feel really lucky.

Post # 13
11172 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I am not sure if it is more common these days or if people are just more willing to admit it. When I first met my Fiance almost six years ago I remember changing the story depending on who I was talking to as it wasn’t quite “acceptable” and thought of as dangerous.

I wrote two craigslist personal adds as an experiment with a friend to see what would happen. I had ended a previous engagement and wasn’t really looking, but looking somewhat (does that make sense?). One posting was the real me, straight forward. The other posting was vamped up (ie: boob size, flirtatious etc). She thought the vampy me would be more popular while I disagreed. My Fiance ended up sending a really funny and loveable response to the “real me” posting and out of 218 replies (total) his was the only one I answered.

Post # 14
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Fiance and I met on-line on some stupid website that rates your looks (all the girls in my dorm were doing it, ha). We were both looking for someone to go to concerts with.

We IMed for 6 hours; met the next day and have been together ever since. 

(I met him in another town, at a big grocery store and I brought friends along that could help me if he was a creep-o.)


Post # 15
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL

I met my Fiance on match.com within two days of joining the website. We met after talking by phone and e-mail for 2 weeks and we were inseparable ever since. On our first date he took me thrift store shopping and I knew he was the one (lol…i love me some bargains!) The date itself lasted from 12noon-midnight. Best date EVER!!

He lived about 40 min away from me but we now live together. We’ve been a couple for almost 2 years and he proposed to me last month on our vacation. <3

Post # 16
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I actually had the opposite!
I met Darling Husband online – I had an extra ticket to a theatre show during my last week of school in England and he replied to my ad!
Everyone assumed we met *somehow* when I was in England, but I think it came as a bit of a shock that we actually met online.
I moved home the next week (after a few more dates) and thought I would never see him again. He kept in touch though, and within a few weeks had a ticket bought to come visit me in Canada.

He came over a few more times before I made the decision to make the permanent move to be with him 🙂 We moved in straight away because there was no way I could afford to live on my own in a strange country just out of school. I think it actually worked for the best – I couldn’t ‘run away’ like I did with most guys I used to date, and it really forced us to work through any problems we had

Congratulations, and don’t let anyone put you off with their snotty remarks/assumptions!

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