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I haven't, but I'm sending some hugs and positive thoughts your and your husband's way, as I know this happens and people really don't talk about it.
I've had a D&C before where they scraped out a bunch of endo--they are very quick, you don't feel a thing, and you give you a woozy drug. PM me if you want some more details.
I don't know if you're like me and believe everything happens for a reason, but something bad happened and your body is taking care of you, sweetie!
Thanks ladies.
Miscarrying is a very personal thing. I never realized how high the stats are, something like 24% of pregnancys end in miscarriage. However not many people talk about it.
I guess I'm starting this post for those that do want to discuss it.
there is a website called I Dream of Baby that is a board full of women who are struggling with their fertility, whether they have cancer or endo or their husbands are impotent, and many threads are dedicated to these sort of tough topics, including lots of hugs and sympathy and hope. Maybe somebody will find it helpful for them
Thanks EJS, I will check it out. I found the website Misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com and they have great boards there. It gave me a lot of hope after my first sonogram.
I am one of those who has kept a miscarriage on the down-low. Last year me and FH had a condom break, and although I took the morning after pill I was having pregnancy symptoms (missed period, morning sickness, sore breasts, cravings etc) I took several home pregnancy tests which were negative, but went to my doctor anyways who told be a percentage of the population (small, like 0.9%) can be pregnant with negative HPT's ... We did a blood test and had an elevated Beta-hbg level (so I was pregnant but not secreting much pregnancy hormone). We scheduled a confirmatory ultrasound, but I began to miscarry the day of the ultrasound. Although it wasn't an intentional pregnancy, it was still hard, because we do want kids one day, but we weren't ready then (he was still in school, we were not yet engaged etc etc)
I'm so sorry hun, I've actually had three mc's. Two of them were very early- less than five weeks, and then I had a really bad one at 11 weeks. I'm actually pregnant again now and about eight weeks. I have an ultrasound of friday to see if everything is ok. Obviously I'm very nervous... they have me on progesterone now so hopefully that is doing something. It's so hard, especially because it's not one of those subjects that people talk a lot about in this culture, and it takes some time to heal. PM me if you want to chat! Much love and many hugs...
Congrats @Northernazbride on your current pregnancy. Ihave heard that progesterone is great for pregnancies like yours. I wish you luck and if you need to talk you can pm me.
I'm sorry!! I'll be praying for you guys! My FSIL just went through 2 miscarriages in the last year & it's really hard on them :( It'll happen!
that's heartbreaking, i'm sorry it's been so difficult for you. hugs and prayers for you and your husband!
Chela - I'm sorry about your loss. I just went through a miscarriage and had a D&C last week. I went to the OB at about 10 weeks by dates - there was no heartbeat and the embryo only measured about 7.5 weeks. I debated whether I should just wait to miscarry or have a D&C. After talking to some friends who have been through similar experiences, I opted for a D&C. I did not take the decision lightly, as I had never had surgery and am not keen on procedures. But it did go fine and I went to work the next day. I don't really want to go into all the details of why I picked a D&C here, but if you'd like to hear more about it, please PM me.
I'm so sorry. My sister miscarried almost 3 years ago and I still can't shake how terrible it was. She to had to have a D&C because her body wasn't taking care of it, and she was on the verge of developing a really nasty infection.
Shortly after that happened, Dooce had a second miscarriage. I don't know if it's too soon for you, but I love this post, and I'm linking to it in the hopes it will help comfort you.
@kooky, thanks for sharing as much as you did. My husband and I have also been back and forth as to what to do. I want to be 100% sure it's not a viable pregnancy before having the D&C however the odds are very far against that and I will be having the D&C tomorrow morning, unless something miraculous happens.
@erinmarguerite, I've been catching up on the dooce blog, but hadn't gotten that far yet. Thank you for bringing me to that post. Reading about other people's experiences makes it more bearable.
MY SIL just went through this and it's so hard for her and our family. Because i had another friend miscarry, I reached out to her to see how I could help SIL. This friend gave me the website: http://stickybabies.lefora.com that she found great support in.
*hugs* Hun, I seriously feel your pain. Even when a pregnancy isn't planned - it hurts when it doesn't go through.
I hope things go well with the D&C ... be prepared to rest and don't be afraid to cry - it's natural. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on (okay, someone to talk to over the interwebs) feel free to PM me! I know this is hard - but it'll be okay and that's not to be confused with easy - because I know everything can seem not okay right now.
Just checking back in to see how you're doing and how the D&C went. I'm thinking about you.
Thanks Erinmarguerite, the D&C is tomorrow. I'm trying to keep my spirits up. I appreciate your concern.
I am so sorry (((((HUGS))))
I have never had a mc, and I can only imagine.
Feel free to come on here to talk to people about how you are feeling . This is a place where I feel safe to be open and it's amazing the support that the hive can give you.
Sending you thoughts and LOTS of support
I'm sorry .... I know the pain...I lost a child at birth about 5 years ago and had 2 miscarriages last year.....I wanted to die so I know the pain. Its a very personal struggle. Its hurts in a way you can't truly understand unless you've been thru it. Its always been said that there is no greater pain than that associated witht he loss of a child.
Keep your head up....it will get better...I promise.
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I've been hiding from the hive lately. Although my husband and I weren't "trying" we got pregnant several weeks back. It was a difficult pregnancy from the beginning as my back went out and I had consistant back pain the entire time, plus I was on crutches to relieve weight from my left leg and my back. I dont want pregnancy to seem awful. Mine just happened to be difficult. After our first sonogram and finding an empty sac when we were hoping for a heartbeat, and then having 2nd sonogram and seeing growth, and then having a 3rd sonogram and no growth or heartbeat, we are sunk. The doctor is recommending a D&C as I will be miscarrying soon.
I"m ok, but I'm wondering who else is has been through this and would like to talk.