Post # 1
We’ve got a very small wedding party, and our coordinator said we do not need a formal rehearsal. This is awesome, because with the wedding, we can’t afford a big dinner, instead we’ll just take our attendants and their dates out for dinner. Is anyone doing any alternatives? I would love to meet everyone that is in town out at a bar for a few drinks afterwards, this would allow them to get together, and I could see everyone before I went to bed. But we can’t pay for everything for everyone all night. What should I do in this situation, what do you think would be expected?
Post # 3
I think sending out a note letting people know that you will be meeting at X bar (and maybe the first round of appetizers on you or something) would be a great way to get together.
Post # 4
i was thinking about doing a “welcome reception” somewhat similar to what MissAsB said. we have a lot of out of town guests, and my family is really large. I was hoping to have it at the hotel that we have rooms blocked off and just having finger foods out and people come and go. unfortunately, the hotel we found for room blocks doesn’t have a ballroom or conference room for something like that…still no idea what we’re doing.
Post # 5
We’re not having a rehearsal either. I think we’re just going to take all the people we would have anyways (immediate family, bridal party and dates, those that flew to be with us) out to dinner at our favorite little mexican restaurant. Nothin’ fancy 🙂
Post # 6
I just caught a little hell from my MOH, she was like “No out-of-town guests?” We’ve lived here for like a year, there would be 100 people at the dinner! Oh, man, I feel pressure on this, but we just cannot swing it. No way. How do I deal with this?
Post # 7
Your idea of having people meet you up for drinks in the evening sounds really great. My FI ance I are having a smaller rehearsal dinner but are planning a bar get together with all out of town guests after. It’s your call and your budget to keep in mind… regardless of what MOH is saying. After all, it’s your wedding. You can do what you want. 🙂
Post # 8
My FSIL and FBIL are doing a BBQ at their place after – I’m actually really excited about this! As long as it doesnt rain, but we will have a lot of fun
Post # 9
We’re having a small-ish rehearsal dinner….its a get together to go over the logistics of the next day for immediate family (parents/siblings) and wedding party + dates…which still adds up to approximately 26 people…haha but we’ve booked a room in one of our favourite local restaurants and doing a family style dinner and are bringing our own wine (small corkage fee)….but its more of a late afternoon thing too..from 2:30-5:30. Personally I dont want to be out late the night before the wedding, and it was cheaper to do it earlier in the day 😀
My thought is that I’m spending a buttload of money the next day, I really don’t want to the night before…if FI and I had a home large enough to accomodate, we’d definitely have gone the BBQ route…oh well.
Good luck 😀
Post # 10
We are having everyone come back to a family member’s house for some homemade food and just to hang out. We have a small party too so the house is big enough for all of us, and then we can save a little money on food because we will each be making a dish to bring. I don’t think a big rehearsal is a must because the next day is the wedding anyway!!
Post # 11
FI’s family does rehearsal dinners very low key – just immediate family and those participating in the wedding. My family is opposite – they invite extended family and out of town guests, which for us would be almost everyone we’re inviting to the wedding! My mom has had a hard time accepting it, but I’m glad we are keeping it small. It will be much more relaxing for FI and I, and a good time to really celebrate and thank our wedding party.
Post # 13
My plan is to take eveyrone to a baseball game. It’s one of our favorite things to do and I don’t want to be sitting around bored working up my nerves. If we don’t do that we will probably just do a BBQ at the house. Low key for me!!
Post # 14
I’m just going to have a BBQ back at my place. I am not going to be inviting too many people to the rehearsal because I just won’t be able to afford it…