Post # 1
I’m toying with the idea of not doing a toast at all at our wedding and I’m wondering if anyone is going or went the same route? The only people who have been true witnesses to our relationship over the last six years are our parents. My FI’s father and two older bachelor brothers are definitely not sentimental and bit more on the shy side. My FI doesn’t have any close friends and my friends all live at a distance so they’ve never really had much time with us. I hold out a little hope for one of my FI’s brothers as we are asking him to read a pre-written passage at the ceremony. Again though, I’m not sure what he would say as my FI doesn’t have a super close relationship with his brothers, they only hang out if it’s for a house project and someone needs help or one or two games of golf in the summer and in that family they don’t talk about relationships. Would I have my father – would it be strange just to have him say something?
Post # 3
No toasts for us either! I actually hate listening to toasts at weddings and we have a few weird uncles and such that might entertain (not! ugh) the crowd if we were going that route.
Post # 4
I just went to one this weekend where there was no toast. I noticed it missing, but it wasn’t weird or awkward or anything. They had the bride’s borther say a few words welcoming everyone, but that was the extent of it.
Post # 5
aw I love the toast. It’s the time when you really get to hear about the couple and their love and relationship. Have you thought about you or your FI giving a toast to your guest, parents, etc. or even to each other. I would personally find it kinda weird if there weren’t any toasts – as if no one is wishing the couple well.
Post # 6
My FI and I pretty shy, in fact we’re already very nervous for having the spot light on us for the first dance.
Post # 7
Weddings are terrible for us shy ones! We are planning our wedding with the intention of avoiding all the LOOK LOOK THE BRIDE AND GROOM traditions. Jeesh, I just want to chat a bit with everyone, eat some rocking food, and have fun with my guy.
Post # 8
We skipped the toasts. We let the best man and matron of honor speak at the rehearsal dinner (along with the parents, if they wanted), and just let my dad welcome everybody to the party and officially open the buffet at the reception.
Post # 9
I think wedding toasts are awkward at best for the bride and groom (especially shy ones like FI and myself) and pretty boring for the rest of the guests. We’ll be skipping this!
Post # 10
Nope, no toasts here either!
Post # 11
we will have my father speak because he is an awesome writer and speaker! FI and i will say something short. like this short. to welcome and thank everyone. that’s all.
we are not fond of the toasts either. for the most part, the most we remember is that people usually say nice things about the bride and groom (as is expected) and that’s all. we don’t really remember details or anything. it’s nice and everything, but a big snooze fest to us. no offense to anyone.
btw—glad you brought this up. we thought we were the only weird ones.