Post # 1
Is anyone doing anything besides jumping the broom or unity candle/sand? Are you omitting these things?
I personally am not jumping the broom, I have no desire to whatsoever.. We are doing a unity sand ceremony with our two kids.
Post # 3
we aren’t doing anything. just the ceremony and the kiss. no sand, no candles.
Post # 4
We didn’t do any of those… but DH and I did have a time of worship and then take communion as husband & wife together (we aren’t Catholic but thought it’d be the most scriptural act to do together).. I was really great and one of the best aspects of the day. =)
Post # 5
We are doing the unity candle but that’s it.
Post # 6
Ditto! my FI is so nervous it will be enough to just get through the ceremony and kiss…….we’re just getting married…….
I know they all symbolise something, but i dont care for doing stuff like that…….i just want to say ‘I DO’
Post # 7
I like the idea of doing the sand thing with your kids, but I probably wont do anything, I dont want to do anything just because.
Post # 8
I didn’t want to jump the broom, but apparently it’s not only an African custom. The Irish jump the broom also and FI wants it in the wedding so we are doing it.
We are doing a wine box ceremony and a sand ceremony with my daughter.
Post # 9
@Miss Tattoo: What’s a wine box ceremony?
Post # 10
We actually did jump the broom which was a last minute decision by me. I truly enjoyed it and we got some great photographs from it. I was going to do the wine ceremony but I didn’t want my good bottle of wine to be out in the heat.(Yeah, I’m a crazy wine lover.)
I did have 3 readings: The Art of Marriage, Love is(Nikki Giovanni), and First Corth.
Post # 11
We’re doing the broom. Not sure about any of the other things like unity candles.
Post # 12
You basically write love letters to each other right before the wedding. You tell each other why you fell in love and what you hope to share in the future, ect. You then seal the letters without reading them to each other, place them in a box with a bottle of wine, two glasses (some people add photos and a CD of their favorite song if it’s a bigger box) and you lock the box.
After this there are several options. Originally you were to never open the box unless your marriage was in trouble. You were suppose to open the box, have a glass of wine with each other, and give each other the letters to read before any rash decision was to be made.
You can also open it on your 1st anniversary, write letters again about the first year of your marriage and again why you fell in love ect and seal it again until your 5th, 10th, 20th, ect.
Post # 13
No unity candle (fire, cathedral veil, nervous)
No sand (messy trinket to have to find a place for later)
It’s been tough for the moms and strangely enough, the wedding planner to accept all of this but truthfully I am glad we aren’t doing it. I think the whole ceremony is enough for me in terms of “bringing two families together”…but that’s just me 🙂
Post # 14
We are jumping the broom because i like the symbolism and i think it will make really cute pictures. We are not doing a unity candle since we are not really intresed.
The wine box thing is really cute. Maybe its something we can do together alone before the wedding so we dont have to figure out a way to lug it back to ny
Post # 15
@Miss Tattoo: OMG!! I love this IDEA! I had never ever heard of this before! I am really in love with this. I can’t wait to get home and tell FH about this.
My mom asked me the other day if her and FH’s mom was going to get to light candles? Does anyone know about this?
We’re not jumping the broom, We’re both clumsy — we’d probably fall!
Post # 16
I know I’m not AA, but I’ll tell you what we did anyway 😀
We weren’t allowed to do a unity candle (all flames had to be enclosed at all times) and I’m not a fan of sand *at all*, so the only “extras” we had in our ceremony was one reading, and a ring warming/blessing ceremony.
We chose a married couple whom we felt had the strongest marriage of the people we care about, and we had them read The Union by Robert Fulghum (Great reading, if anybody is looking for one), and that was done right before we said our vows.
Then, before we exchanged rings, our minister said a prayer while our parents, grandparents, and bridal party passed our rings around (in a ring bowl) and said a silent blessing over our rings.
The last person to bless our rings was my dad, and he brought them back up to our minister, and before he sat back down he gave both of us a kiss (which wasn’t planned). It was a really wonderful moment, and I’m so glad we did it the way we did 🙂