Post # 1
Has anyone invited a guest hoping that they would RSVP no?
I guess these sorts of invites would come from inviting out of obligation. I think I have about 8 family members and colleagues that “have” to be invited, due to others on the guest list (e.g. can’t invite only half of my team at work, or cant invite some aunities and not others) – the thought of some of these people being at my wedding makes me nervous (its a small budget wedding, afraid of being judged)!
Just interested to find out if this is a common thing, or if I am a pushover!
Post # 3
I don’t particularly care for my fiance’s older brother. But whatever!
Post # 4
I was hoping certain “bosses” at work would decline because they were only invited out of curtosey (I was told that if you invite any coworker from work, you MUST invite any bosses you may have).
Well, apparently, they missed the memo and are coming to the wedding. I mean, I LIKE them, but one in particular has a horrible way of making people feel guilty about drinking and stuff… (Thankfully I’ve already planned on doing a tasteful garter toss… I think I would die if my boss saw my new husband go up my skirt!)
Post # 5
@DeeWee: We had a few “obligatory” invites (all my fiance’s family members), and we’re both kind of hoping they don’t show up. We both really wish we didn’t have to invite a few of these people, but it was the lesser of two evils. I don’t even want to imagine some of the drama that would ensue if they found out they’d been left off the list! Ugh.
Post # 6
The girl that FI dated for a minute and who tried to break us up several times? Yeah I’d be real heartbroken if she had other plans. I’m also pretty certain she’s going to wear something risque (ok…that’s my nice way of saying slut-tastic) and get wildly drunk. But she’s part of our group of friends and we’ve pretended like we’re cool with each other at social events for so long that not inviting her would feel petty and ridiculous. Plus I’m going to look awesome 🙂
Post # 7
Yeah, I’m hoping a few of my cousins won’t come. They’re first cousins, but I haven’t spoken to any of them in over a year, but since their mom, my aunt, is officiating my wedding, I feel like I have to send them an invitation. Maybe they will be busy.
Post # 8
I’m obligated to invited my aunts and uncles from overseas and I know it’s terrible to say this since they are my blood relatives but I’m hoping that most of them will not be able to make it.
Firstly, the FI and I are planning to have a small and intimate wedding and I really don’t want to bump off any of my friends, who are very close and dear to me, for people that I very rarely speak to me. Secondly, some of them are very opinionated and lack tact, and I do want to deal with comments about my weight “You’d look so much better if you had lost more weight”, the colour of my gown “Why are you not wearing white/ivory/cream???”, why we’re not being completely traditional “No communion?!?”, etc. on our wedding day.
Post # 9
I will absolutely appreciate the attendance of every single guest…However there are a few that I hope can watch their alcohol intake, haha.
Post # 10
I just found out my boss can’t attend, and I’m breathing a sigh of relief! He’s not my favourite person, but I invited him out of etiquette. He’s a difficult person, and very self centered, he’s let money go to his head. I’m also inviting my supervisor, and I’m thrilled she will be there. We get along so well, shes an amazing person!
Post # 11
Yes! My biological father (already declined), and some aunts who already accepted. The aunts are rude and annoy my mom.
I have some coworkers that I kind of invited out of obligation and I’m hoping a couple of them don’t bring their spouses (to help our final number) and just come together.
Post # 12
I’m hoping a few of my cousins and even a couple of my friend’s spouses will not be able to attend!
Post # 13
hahah yes! we have quite a bit of extended family, and parent friends/coworkers that we wouldnt be too sad if they couldnt come
Post # 14
I have one family member in particular that I absolutely HAD to invite, but I seriously wish I didn’t. We had a really awkward falling out when I was a teenager, and I haven’t spoken to her in probably 4-5yrs.
Also, I wish I was able to uninvite some family to make room for friends who would have gotten drunk and danced. I feel like there are way to few people in our age group attending the wedding.
Post # 15
I feel that I’m really lucky in that my mom agrees with me that no one from her side of the family will be invited. There were, of course, plenty of older people in the family that would have been invited if they hadn’t passed away, including my grandmother and great aunt. If my grandmother was still alive, my mom’s siblings or at least her sister would be invited out of courtesy and to make my grandma happy, and also because if she was still alive my mom wouldn’t have found out yet about all the money her siblings had been taking from their (very poor) mom and would still be on speaking terms with them. As it stands, though, we’ve had minimal communication with them since she passed away 10 years ago. The slightly awkward thing is my uncle lives less than a mile from my FI’s sister’s house and within a few miles of where the wedding will be. But as long as he doesn’t know, it’s all good, right? 🙂 Plus I’m positive he wouldn’t care. My aunt would care though, and lives about an 8 hour drive from there. I would invite her out of guilt, but I know it would make my mom uncomfortable so I’m not doing it.
Post # 16
There’s one person who FH and I will not be inviting, but will probably end up crashing, anyway. He’s some really gross dude who travels in our circle, does nothing but smoke weed, and he’s really racist. And he’s gross. He’s only really close to one of our friends, nobody else can put up with him for long.
Unless I hold the reception at a 4×4 only house, in which case it’s like 2 hours from where he lives and there’s no actual road to get there. Yay Carova Beach!