Post # 1
Before we started planning the wedding my parents and Fiance and I sat down and estimated how much we thought it would cost. This was never a firm budget however, (no one ever said this is the maximum that could be afforded). When we started planning, everything in actually turned out to be more expensive than we thought. I try to look for the best deals on any particular vendors but not having a budget is difficult. I can’t go to the florist and say ” I have $X to spend. What can you do?” because I never know what my budget for any item is. Thus I feel like I’m on a slippery slope of justifying every purchase by saying “well this was the cheapest.” But in reality maybe I should have cut it entirely.
I’m thinking when all is said and done we’ll be $10,000 over what we initially thought and that just makes me feel so guilty.
Anyone else in the same position? How do you not get carried away?
Post # 3
I never had a firm budget, but I had a number that I knew I wanted to keep it under. I will be pretty under what I wanted and totally proud of it.
Post # 4
This happened to us as well. We thought we would end up spending X amount total, but when we got quotes for the things that we absolutely wanted we were 10K over too. Personally, it’s not that big a deal to us because we both figure that we’re only doing this once and why not have exactly what we want. Some people may not be able to do that for financial reasons, but we’re fortunate enough that we can and no, I don’t feel bad about it one bit. We both work hard and it’s ours to spend. 🙂
Post # 5
lol, as per my post I made this afternoon in the forum, I am riding a slippery slope with my not so firm budget!
Post # 6
We didn’t have a set budget when we started, but we did have limits on what we would spend for each item. I actually set the limits and kept looking until I felt I found what we wanted within said limits. If something was a bit over what I had set the limit at, I either cut back on something else or I cut something. As we got further in and figured out what things would really cost, we set a budget that we are not allowing ourselves to go over. As of now we are approximately $2,000.00 under that budget. And we are not settling on things just because we have to. Through perseverance and research, we have been able to find some stellar deals.
Post # 7
Well my parents had just helped my brother with planning his wedding so we had a good idea of what things cost. We didn’t set a max though… just a goal of 30K. I think we came in slightly over. HOnestly I’m not sure. My dad tracked all the spending. For each item I would basically tell him.. I found something I like and it costs $x does that work? And he would say yay or nay.
Post # 8
I don’t have a firm budget either. Only a guesstimate of what everything will cost. I know we’re going to spend more than we should. I think the two of us are too stubborn to sit down and actually talk budget wise. He’s also said that he wants me to do whatever I want (except go to the extreme) because I deserve it.
I am planning to save money anywhere and everywhere I can. I am doing a ton of DIY projects and such.
Post # 9
We don’t exactly have a set budget overall, but we have a monthly amount that we pre-determined and then each month get what we need out of that amount.
In the end, our entire wedding and reception will be under $2k. I’m a very frugal person so I shop around several places for each thing to find the best deals. A few things have been DIY, like my flowers. I didn’t personally make them, my DOC (who is also the officiant) made them. We lucked out and found a venue with wedding packages that include officiant services, flowers, music, and chairs.
Post # 10
We never had a firm budget either. Well, let me clarify – we did have a mental picture of how much we wanted to spend, but when I started getting actual quotes, that number was shot out of the water. We ended up spending 10K more than what my desired budget was. Maybe it’s an LA thing??
In any case – I figured out how much I wanted to spend on things like flowers by figuring out what a reasonable cost was. ie: Floral centerpieces were $50 instead of the almost $200 for the towering cascade of orchids.
I went dress shopping not being sure of what I could get for my money and realized I wasn’t happy with anything at David’s Bridal, was ok with $1000 dresses at local boutiques, and wasn’t willing to pay the $5K for the designer dress – even though it took my breath away.
If I was ever asked “what’s your budget for ‘x'”, I’d respond with, “I’m not sure, I’m trying to figure it out.” Getting different estimates really helped me figure that out.
I guess my point is I figured out what options were out there and then found the cheapest option that I was willing to settle for… it’s easy to keep adding little things here or there or justifying purchases.
I think it’s all perspective. Another bride may see my budget and breakdown and think I was carried away by spending that much on flowers or a dress, etc. – but another one might think I got a really good deal. It all comes down to what you want and how much you are willing to compromise and/or be creative. I think there are ways to accomplish an overall feel without breaking the bank.
I think as long as you tried to make your money stretch the furthest and whomever footing the bill was ok with the expense, there’s nothing to feel guilty about!
Post # 11
We don’t have a firm budget as of yet either. We don’t have a lot of money to begin with and we are just starting to save a little from each paycheck towards the wedding. But we have decided that we will NOT charge anything. Everything that we buy will come from money we already have. We really want to keep it under 5,000 and I think that’s pretty doable. I found a venue for only $450. And a photographer for $500. I’m not sure i’m going to go with those specific ones I found, but I have realized that it is doable.
ETA: although, if you check back with me in a year, I might not be telling you the same story, haha
Post # 12
i am exactly like you. i never had a budget because i didnt know how much things would cost until i started needing them. i didnt even know what i needed. lets just say that when i got engaged, i thought i could do a destination wedding for $5000 and that meant staying for 2 weeks in the destination. well lo and behold, i didnt factor in things like photographer, DRESS, um, you know, things like that. so i said, ok $10000 sounds reasonable. then i got carried away and i still am getting more carried away the closer i get to the wedding.
i was pretty set on $10000 for the longest time, and in the end, my wedding including EVERYTHING is costing about $14500, so that is almost $10 000 over what i thought when i got engaged and almost $5000 over what i thought was reasonable. i do feel a bit guilty. but at the same time, i am not paying for anything i cant afford (sort of, i mean i stopped going out for lunch with my coworkers and am basically a hermit because i am trying not to spend any money on anything else). and i have said flat out said no to some thing that i knew were un-reasonable, not worth it, or over priced. so ya., that kinda how i have been doing things….but now i am adding up the gifts we got. we have almost $2000 in cash/contributions, so THEN i say i only spent $12500 on the wedding, which makes me feel better 🙂
Post # 13
Our budget was ‘lets hope we don’t go over 20’ but never really had a set plan on how to do that. we had no idea how much anything for a wedding cost and thought we could be under. when all is said and done we’ll be 5 over that. Not really that big of a deal though it would have been nice to be under.
Post # 14
@tksjewelry: <—-the first part of what she said.