Post # 1
This is kind of weird I guess, but I loved my dress when I bought it. I’m not so impressed when I look back at the pictures taken that day, but I remember liking it a lot when it was on me.
I never cried about it, but I wanted it to be my dress.
Fast forward to now and I have lost almost 20 lbs and although I’ve tried the dress on in my bedroom and like the way it looks, I can’t see it in a full length mirror with my crinoline and jewelry, fitted to my body, etc.
I’m wondering if when I step on that pedestal again to have the dress fitted, if I will be blown away and have that moment where I finally cry over the dress.
The only reason I feel like I should have cried is because I cry about everything else. Or maybe my expectations are just unreasonable? I don’t know.
Post # 3
@csteen85: You know, I never had *that moment* with my dress. I always knew I loved it but I never had a moment where I cried over it. Seeing the complete look together did make me insanely happy, but that was about it! I wouldn’t worry too much about having your moment. 😀
Post # 4
@csteen85: My actual dress hasn’t come in yet but I didn’t have “the cry moment” when I said yes. I was absolutely in love with and seriously didn’t want to take it off (when we went to look for BM dresses I put it back on and paraded around the store in it for about an hour lol). That’s how I knew it was “the one”. (Every other dress I tried on, I couldn’t wait to take it off so I could try on more). Secretly I hope that I’ll cry when I put on my actual dress but I doubt it, I’m just not a “happy” crier. And my consultant said the crying moment isn’t very common, it’s more for tv.
Post # 5
It’s SO funny that you say this! I am a big crier… I cried just thinking about walking down the aisle. I did not have *THE* moment when I picked my dress. I knew it was the one and really liked it but didn’t go crazy or cry. Though I am a street size 8, I ordered the dress in a 16 because it was a trumpet style and I am bigger on the bottom. When it came in I had lost 15 lbs and it wouldn’t even stay up without holding it! After pinning I still liked it… but then I had my second fitting when they had done the alterations, and I brought my veil. Once that dress was on me and I came out I was in awe of how beautiful I looked. I never thought I could look that great, which sounds shallow but I don’t mean it in that way! Once they put my veil on me… that was it, I started crying. I finally felt like a beautiful bride, and knew that the dress and veil was perfect!
I never would have thought that would have happened… I just accepted not having the moment… but I did… just later!
I hope you will feel this way as well! 🙂
Post # 6
I never had that moment either! After I bought my dress I kept second guessing if I had made the right decision because I went by myself and I didn’t have that happy crying moment. It wasn’t until My mom came to the dress shop with me to see my dress that I realized I didn’t need to second guess, and that I had made the right decision , and I did get a feeling but still no tears etc. Sometimes I guess it just doesn’t happen, and I”m ok with that 🙂 But honestly It might take the whole look coming together for you to have that special moment, once you see your whole vision come together!
Post # 7
Add me to the pile of people who never had the moment. I do truly love my dress, and I liked the way I felt in it on my wedding day and the way the pictures look, but no more than any other piece of clothing I particularly liked. Because at the end of the day, that’s what it is- a piece of clothing. The fact that you wear it to your wedding does make some people tear up/ have a moment, but for the rest of us it’s a super awesome pretty dress, and i think that’s OK.
Post # 8
I didn’t cry or anything because I had pictured that exact dress on me for months before I bought it so I guess I kinda knew what to expect. lol All I knew is that I loved it and that it had to be the dress I was going to get married in. No tears, it was a logical purchase to me. Yes, I was excited and couldn’t stop smiling but it wasn’t merely as much of an emotional ordeal as some people.
Also, the dress didn’t fit me and I didn’t get to try the veil that goes with it on as it had to be a special order. I think I may get more emotional once it comes in and I get to try everything on in my size. I can’t wait!!!
Post # 9
I also didn’t have that crying moment. I did however have a moment where I really was stunned by how I looked and how much I loved it during the fitting. But I didn’t cry at the wedding, so why would I cry at the dress??
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Well, Im a bit different because I got a free tulle strapless dress. That was exactly the kind of base I had always envisioned, and i knew I was going to “bling it out”. But I had tried it on a couple times and never really felt anything. I trusted I would love it when we were done with it!
I went to my first fitting last week and I was blown away!! I didnt cry, maybe because Im not really a cryer, but I “bounced” a lot, which is kind of my happy tic. I think it will feel totally different when you begin to see the final product in its entirety!! Also, I highly recommend “jacking yourself up” as they do on say yes to the dress: veil, makeup, jewelry, the works!!
Post # 11
@csteen85: I had the ‘Dress moment’…on my last fitting. Similar experience, loved having my dress on the day i bought it, but it didn’t feel right after i bought it. Then I lost some weight and went to my fitting, put it on w/ my veil and FINALLY had the moment.
Post # 12
You girls have all given me hope!! I guess i don’t need to have the crying moment, but I want to put it on and be 100% sure. I am like 90% sure at this point.
I think it’s just been so long and it doesn’t fit me anymore, so when I see it after it’s been taken in with my veil, etc., I hope I will be 100% confident in my decision!
Post # 13
I was second guessing my dress decision for months. And it was SO hard because I wanted to make some massive alterations that I couldn’t make until a few weeks before the wedding. (You know, in case I suddenly gained or lost 20 pounds.)
Anyway, I went from loving, to liking, to hating my dress. Then, when I put it on for my first fitting, with all the alterations… I totally had to hold back the tears. My eyes were definnitely cloudy and my throat was choked. It was fantastic!
Gratuitous dress pic:
Post # 14
@Tangled: I wish I could “like” your post! Love it!!!