Anyone not having a wedding party?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissDahlia08:  I didn’t do this, but my brother-in-law and his wife did, and it was a beautiful wedding. Normally the best man and MOH sign the register as witnesses (their only “official” duties), but at my BIL’s wedding, two of the parents signed the register.

Aside from signing the register, the people in the wedding party are just props really, giving your wedding the “look” you want. So if you don’t want to surround yourself in girls in matching dresses, there’s no need for a wedding party. And I agree, with 3 sisters it’s a good way to avoid drama!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re not having a bridal party. his brothers are going to attend to sign as witnesses but that’s it. the rest join the celebration after the ceremony. We’re Kind of eloping, no one has any idea and seeing we all go out often as a group anyway…they’ll be none the wiser.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MissDahlia08:  No bridal party here! The simpler, the better for me. Less to stress out about beforehand. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@MissDahlia08:  I won’t be having a bridal party. Just family. My sister would sign and his brother would sign as witnesses.

 

His brother also didn’t have a wedding party. They only invited parents and siblings and had their families standing at their side instead of a bridal party. (Wearing whatever they wanted – cocktail style outfits)

I think it avoids a lot of drama in so many ways, saves your friends and you some money, and will be a lot less stressful IMO.

HOWEVER, the only downfall I see is not having that *specific* group of girls to get all excited with and have getting ready with you on the day of. I suppose you can have some girlfriends get ready with you anyway though.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

No party = no stress. 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I didn’t have a bridal party, as such. My two and a half year old granddaughter was my bridesmaid (it was a civil ceremony so no real walking down aisles) and ring bearer. I walked in on the arm of my youngest son and my oldest son was my witness. My stepdaughter did a reading, my oldest stepson was DH’s witness and my other stepson was “Lord of the Ring” – he took charge of it until it was time to pass it to my granddaughter. But for sure, we didn’t have any sort of “entourage”. Just people who did important stuff.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

No party here! We’re having an intimate wedding (around 20 guests), and I just did NOT feel like adding all of the STUFF that goes along with the wedding party to my to-do list.

I’m pretty sure we’ll have some siblings do readings, and my BFF will spend the night, get ready with me, etc. Also, our dearest friend is our officiant. 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Funny you posted this. Allll along I said I wanted no bridal party (or at least no bridesmaids), then I decided to ask my two female cousins. And they’ve both been such a huge source of disappointment that I wish I had stuck with my original idea. Actually, as they both have flaked on me, I’ll be having an attendant-less wedding afterall. But I wish it could have been MY decision, rather than a defeated last resort  after having been treated unkindly by the closest thing I have to sisters. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m barely having a wedding party.  My sister is going to be my matron of honor and FI’s sister is going to be is best woman.  I want to avoid hurting people’s feelings, finding dresses that look good on everyone, making friends that are still in grad programs or just beginning their careers spend money, drama, etc.  I’m still going to invite my close friends to come get ready with me.  FI also has, like, no male friends and just 2-4 close female friends, so it would look really unbalanced with my 15 bridesmaids up there if we did do a wedding party.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MissDahlia08:  Thanks. I thought I was doing the right thing by including them and since they’re like my sisters I didn’t think I’d have all the drama that people get when they pick friends and distant relatives. And it blew up in my face. It’s one of the only areas where I went against my original vision and I truly regret it.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MissDahlia08:  all i can say is do what makes you happy. My first wedding was murder, i didnt want all the frills but i did it to keep family happy, and whilst they (esp his) were a bunch of ungrateful unmentionables even though everything was the way they wanted it, with their guests etc etc etc they complained about Every aspect of it, And they continued to interfere after, til It put so much strain on us that i walked out less than a year later.

tbh i hadnt wanted to go through with it but his mother kept saying oh its just nerves, dont let my son down. Turns out it wasnt, and while i couldnt at the time nail why i was having second and three hundred and twendy second thoughts, i was right in thinking it wasnt right.

but ive gone off on a tangent, have my soul mate by my side, 38 weeks pregnant and never been happier with life 🙂

hes understanding to my feelings re the wedding and although his family is Very close knit and i love them to death and we know they’ll be upset – they’ll just have to get over what they do or dont think when they find out :))

btw in the time since i posted that, we’ve spoken to our venue and they’re supplying staff as witnesses so we dont have to clue in a soul 🙂 we know one of his brothers wouldve told his wife and then we’d be in trouble – shes the mouth of the south!!!

we’re going the whole hog with dressing up, location, photographer, cake, and the rest of it though 🙂 i do sometimes think about getting ready with attendants etc but i know between the hairdresser and the makeup artist i’ll still get my girly fix :))

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