Post # 1
Because we are an interfaith couple who are not practicing our faiths, we have hired a JP to marry us. We live 8 hours from where the wedding will be so we didn’t get a chance to meet our JP and it’s highly unlikely we will because he isn’t available for meetings on Fridays or weekends (the only time we are typically in town). SO, just wondering if anyone else didn’t meet their JP until the rehersal? How did it work out? We didn’t have very many requirements for our JP (had to be male and not have an awful New England accent – I’m from there so I can say that! 😉
Just as an aside, every time the JP goes on vacation, he proactively sends an e-mail to all his clients saying he is out of town -I think this is super nice and conscientous of him and gives me confidence he’ll actually show up on my wedding day! 🙂
Post # 3
When I was planning an actual wedding I wanted to talk to every candidate either in person, or on the phone and see a video of them performing a ceremony. I was concerned about how they sounded and carried themselves. Could you ask for a sound or video recording to give you some peace of mind?
When we eloped, I didn’t have a chance to do all the research, so the requirement was male who speaks English 🙂 I was really relaxed, happy and mellow so I didn’t notice that he had a very quiet voice. It didn’t really matter in the end, we were so into each other, we didn’t notice anything around us 🙂
P.S. For my first wedding 17+ years ago, the church would not allow me to see who I got assigned on my wedding day. I thought it was ridiculous. And it was ridiculous because the priest turned out to be a 6.5f woman who towered over both of us with a Miss Piggy’s nose and a pink & white robe and sandals plus a high pitch voice. I laugh about it now because that is not how I see a priest, lol. I thought for some reason that being married by a woman is bad luck but I doubt that’s what broke that marriage.
Post # 4
That’s a good idea about the recording, I will have to ask him! There weren’t a lot of male JPs in the area we are getting married and it was TOUGH to find one without a hard core Boston accent, so our choices were pretty limited
That’s too funny about your first wedding – I wouldn’t be able to stop laughing during my ceremony if that was me! I never heard being married by a woman was bad luck – everyone always asks me why we didn’t want a woman but I don’t really have a good answer – we just didn’t!
Post # 5
Yes, actually it is very common. I am often booked for weddings without meeting the couple getting married. I prefer to meet each couple prior to them booking with me. However, when they can’t meet with me. I try to create a good line of communication by emails and phone calls. I have not had a couple yet that was unhappy with my abilities. I am sure you will be pleased with your choice too.
Post # 6
We didn’t meet our officiant until the day of the wedding, and we didn’t have a rehearsal either. That made me a little nervous but we exchanged emails and pretty much had everything figured out. We also had a meeting on Skype so we could talk to her face to face, which helped with getting to know her speaking style, so it wouldn’t be a complete surprise.
Post # 7
We are getting married in another country , we won’t be able to meet the officiant until two days before the wedding. everything was set up over emails and over the phone though . So I do have the chance to ask questions