Post # 1
I have a great relationship with my husband. We are a good team, we enjoy being parents and our home life is pretty smooth. Neither of us are terribly romantic people though. I never really thought much of it, until some friends of ours pointed out that we don’t hold hands/kiss in public. We don’t use many words to express our feelings, we say “I love you” and all that, but privately. We just don’t seem to have the lovey dovey factor, even though we are very much in love.
I feel we’re secure in our relationship so this doesn’t particularly bother me, but I guess it looks odd to others.
Anyone else like this?
Post # 3
My husband is very anit-PDA and I’m okay with that. For me, it sort of icks me out to see people who can’t be anywhere without touching eachother. I feel secure with my husband even if we aren’t in constant contact.
Post # 4
That is pretty much exactly how we are too.
Post # 5
We’re very much so non-PDA!! Ewww… sometimes when we’re out places to eat, we end up not sitting next to each other and we’re both totally ok with it. People look at us weird, but we don’t care. We don’t have to be constantly touching/talking/looking at each other.
We are MUCH more affectionate in private, though. It’s kind of funny seeing the warm, fuzzy, romantic side of FI when we’re alone, then the ‘tough guy’ come back out when we’re around people. 🙂
Post # 6
My FI is more romantic than me. He is more sensitive and he has no problem being called “mushy.” I’m just not a touchy, PDA person. I say don’t worry about it, who cares what other people think!
Post # 7
I think there is a difference between PDA and displays of general affection such as opening doors, putting his hand on the small of your back as you walk through, holding your chair out, refilling your glass from the bottle of wine, offering to get a drink, helping with a coat or offering to hand it up etc etc etc. I think these things are romantic and noticeable by other people without being the “icky” PDA
Post # 8
My fiance is extremely romantic. And I’m opposite. He loves PDA so much! At first I was really against it, but now I guess I’m just used to it. I’m still the non-romantic one in the relationship though. 🙂
Post # 9
@lefeymw: We don’t really do any of those things either.
For the record, I don’t think PDA is “icky” it’s just not us.