- 7 years ago
So I have not spoken to my lovely MOH ONCE since my wedding. At this point, and trust me and I was way more then patient with this girl, I don’t care if we ever speak again. I didn’t have the luxury of picking from 10 or so girls, at one time I did as growing up I had a large group of girlfriends but then we drifted apart, nor do I have any female cousins or sisters that I could have asked, so when the time came, I was hounded by people to ask a BP. It was also a really difficult time for me as my grandmother, who raised me primarly, passed away a few months earlier. I really only had 3 people to choose from, as I don’t have many female friends and totally felt obligated to even ask people. My husband and I had an intimate destination wedding planned out where we wouldn’t even have a BP, but when we realized we couldn’t do that, then the traditional wedding planning started. I realized shortly after asking these 2 “friends” that the close friendships we had maybe as teenagers, had long gone away and my one BM, by the end of the planning, I wanted to just wear ear plugs every time I was around her. We talk maybe once a month or so, but we have 0 in common anymore.
Both are unmarried and my MOH had a baby a few months earlier from her live in BF who is much older then her. So as usual, I should have known the drama was brewing, as it always is with her. And now when I look back, I can understand why she had no other female friends other then me growing up and a few high school friends who came and went or a social life.
So to list some things that occured during this, it was wining phone calls her saying her BF, this is while she was pregnant, was out with other women, or how she overheard his mother saying he had “side pieces”, but she continued to stay with him while he had her living in the literal ghetto. I drove her to doctor appts too. Her and my other BM did 0, nada, didn’t ask if I needed help, my MOH even offered to schedule a “GIRLS NIGHT OUT” before my big day, then never menioned it again. I drove her home from ALL her dress fittings bc she has no car and even offered to bring her to them. A few days before my wedding, I then get texted that now she can’t even pick up her own dress, which she said she would, can I do that for her. So I did it for her. Then the real topper, the NIGHT before my rehearsal dinner, I get a text that her baby is sick in the hospital. My first instinct, and I have known this girl since we were kids is BULL s%#$, as she is notorious for making up stories and me and my husband thought it was her trying to get out of coming to the dinner. So I told her I hope she is ok, does she need anything, she contintued with her story which continued to MAKE NO SENSE. Anyway, the next day she texts she will be there. So she comes and sat at the table for 3 hours texting and of course, my husband drove her home. The day of the wedding, my family paid for her to get her hair done to help her out. At the reception, she sat at the table, not talking, nothing just with a face on.
It is now MONTHS after my wedding and the girl never called, emailed or texted me once after to see how my honeymoon was, to say she had a good time at the wedding, nothing. So I waited a few weeks once I was back, and texted her 2x, where I got the same one lined responses then she would turn the convo over into talking about her baby. I called, left 2 VMs, this was in June and never heard a thing back. At this point in time I am done with the girl. My husband has stopped asking me if I have spoken to her as he can see to this girl has issues. We have gone long periods of time without talking before, but the crap she pulled before, during and after the wedding, I’m done with people who just aren’t friends. In my professional albums, I didn’t even include pictures of her in it, as I see no point though she is in the background of some. I know I just need to find new friends, real normal friends, but I find it hard when you get older, but I rather have none then toxic ones at this point in time. I also cringe everytime I think of the 2 girls I did have in my BP. So anyone else not talk to people in their BP either?