Post # 1
It seems that during the holidays, many waiting ladies are anxiously hoping for a proposal. I know that a large percentage of proposals happen between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day, and it seems like you can’t turn on the television without seeing at least one ring commercial per program. Are there any bees who do NOT want a holiday proposal, and why?
I personally would prefer a proposal during an off-peak proposal season, but I have a feeling my SO is into the “holiday charm” of it all. Of course, I would be happy to say yes at any time, but I feel that during the holidays you might wind up sharing the magic of your big moment with many other ladies who also receive a proposal.
Anyone else have feelings on holiday proposals?
Post # 3
@windyPhoebee: I was proposed to in June but I see what you mean about sharing it with many other newly engaged women! Also, it’s kind of a pain to book vendors when you’re up against lots of other peiple lol fingers crossed he doesn’t propose 😉 JK
Post # 4
I have been engaged for a while now but one of the things I did not want was a holiday/birthday/special event proposal. He did wind up proposing on Labor Day but it was just the two of us having a picnic together.
Post # 5
it’s not for me. been there, done that, it was awful.
i think holiday proposals are fine for some people. for me? i don’t like them.
my FI proposed over dinner. no special holiday, no special occasion. just dinner.
Post # 6
I never wanted a holiday proposal, especially not at Christmas/New Year’s. That’s a time now when it seems that everyone gets engaged, and in my family there is already enough going on around that time of year (a couple of Xmas birthdays and 3 birthdays in January). And I certainly wouldn’t have liked being proposed to in front of my whole family.
Birthday proposals are a different story. FH proposed on May 29th and my birthday is the 21st. I know he waited a week because he didn’t want to take the focus off my birthday. It’s the best belated birthday gift I’ve ever gotten. 🙂
I generally think holiday proposals are kind of tacky. Not as bad as the super public flashmob proposals, but almost there. No offense to anyone who had a holiday or public proposal, but they’re just not for me. My mom had a holiday proposal and they got married in October on Thanksgiving weekend.
@seaofgrace: I had a picnic proposal too!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
@windyPhoebee: I feel like there’s so much else going on, that I would really hate that. FH proposed on our anniversary, in June, and that was perfect. Meaningful in it’s own right. Plus, if you want a summer wedding, seven months seems like hardly enough time – but that might just be me (I’m having a 2 yr, 2 mo, 2 day enagement!)
Post # 8
I told DH that I didn’t want a holiday proposal. I dunno, I just didn’t like the idea of the proposal taking away from the actual holiday spirit. Plus you can’t combine Christmas and engagement together!
Post # 9
I’m kind of torn to be honest. I obviously wouldn’t say no just because its a holiday, but I’d prefer it not be on the actual holiday itself. A few days before or after wouldn’t bother me though.
Post # 10
@FutureMrsBex: I understand being torn- I wouldn’t say no, either. I do love snow and twinkle lights… they’re two of my favorite things in the world. I suppose as long as the proposal was well done, I wouldn’t really complain. Nothing cliche!
Post # 11
I totally understand – I really wouldn’t want a holiday proposal. Mostly because the boyfriend hates holidays – so I know he would only be doing it because he thinks i want that… Thankfully we’ve discussed it, and it doesn’t seem likely :).
To me holidays are special for other reasons – and I would want the proposal to be specail on it’s own, not stealing the thunder of the holidays.
But I could understand how someone would want that..but it’s compleatly understandable who it may be right for someone.
Post # 12
I never wanted a holiday proposal, actually, after we started talking about marriage a bunch, I specifically said I’d rather he waited until we’d been in love for a year, and we first said I love you on Christmas. I suppose it still could have happened around the holidays, especially if we’d gone to see his favorite band on New Year’s Eve, but he’d been hinting at a summer proposal, and our private proposal in Golden Gate Park in March was perfect 🙂
Post # 13
Well, I’m already married so the point is moot.
But I will say that I love the holidays so much, and there is so much sentiment attached to the holidays, that I wouldn’t have minded at all if DH had proposed, say on New Year’s Eve or even Christmas Eve.
If he had, I can assure you the last worry on my mind would have been sharing the glory with any other friends/acquaintances who’d gotten engaged at the same time, because everything else would just disappear for me. It was all about DH and I when we first got engaged… I was living in a love tunnel, lol… I wasn’t even remotely thinking of other people around us.
I kind of/sort of got a holiday engagement, in that DH proposed just before Thanksgiving. So the holidays were all a swirl of romance and excitement for us.
And instead of being annoyed or depressed by the ring commercials on TV… I got a little extra kick out of watching them, because I already had my own ring!
Post # 14
I agree with these. I have been engaged a bit over a year, but I definitely did not want a holiday proposal. To me it is very cliche, a little uncreative, and just not for me. If we would have waited for holiday 2012, we would have been engaged at the same time as two other couples in our group of friends and a few other people I know. The year before I knew of I think three or so. Two were in the same location.
Now, it really comes down to what it represents, but I prefer its own special day.
Post # 15
I am not a huge fan of holiday/bday/anniversary proposals…BUT with that said, I DO WANT A PROPOSAL ALREADY GAH!! haha! I will totally take it over no proposal at all if that’s when my SO feels it is the right moment to propose!
I can be shy so the idea of having everyone ask me a bunch of questions about being proposed to over the holidays…just makes me feel awkward. I’d much rather just fly under the radar and have it be at a less attention grabbing time when you KNOW you are going to be seeing a bunch of family!
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@windyPhoebee: I really want a holiday proposal. However, I do not want one on Christmas day, or Thanksgiving day, etc. Honestly, the only reason I want a holiday proposal is because I want to be able to celebrate with my family, and because I love the whole atmosphere of the holiday season. If we had a way to celebrate with our family in some random month like March, then that’d be my ideal time to be proposed to. It’s about the family, for me.