- 7 years ago
We’ve been giving this a lot of thought lately about whether we will be one and done with this baby or if we’ll have one more down the road. We aren’t in a huge hurry…I’m 29 and DH is 32 but I am a HUGE planner and it is drving me crazy to not be able to plan this!
There are many reasons why I think we may be one and done. Financially it will make more sense. DH owns his own business and I am a SAHM with a small Etsy business that I love to pieces. We can absolutely keep this whole work scenario with one child and be comfortable financially. But with two? Probably not…I will likely have to pick up some sort of 9-5 job which would mean day care for two kids which would mean big $$$.
Since we also both own our own businesses we have health insurance but we don’t qualify for maternity coverage bc of the health bill that just passed recently. Bc of this we are having to pay out of pocket for EVERYTHING with this baby. All the doctors bills, ultrasounds, labs, hospital fees, delivery fees. It will end up costing close to $17,000 when all is said and done and that’s if nothing goes wrong during delivery. Odviously unless something drastic changes with our government this will be the case when if we decide to have another child.
Pregnancy has also been very hard on my body and my mental health. It is totally not what I expected at all. I have literally had just about every symptom under the sun. DH and I have also had zero sex life bc me being pregnant has weirded him out. It’s just way harder than I every expected it to be and I’m not super gung ho about going through it again!
We also love to travel and odviously this will not be happening as much with two.
I also have a sister, 6 years older, and we aren’t close at all. I love her but we have never gotten along and she drives me nuts most of the time.
There are definitely pros to having another too though! I love feeling DS move and I’m sad thinking that may never happen again. I love the idea of a big family and I think holidays are so much fun when you have a sibling. I also like the idea of DS having a sibling to be there for him when something happens to one of us.
Please share your thoughts on this! If you are one and done or want another…or if your a mom with two or more children. How is life different from having one child than having two?