Post # 1
Hi Bees, I’m stressed.
My first dress fitting is in 8 days (August 1), and my wedding is on October 11. I ordered my dress in the size I was when I tried it on, thinking 7 months gave me plenty of time to lose 10-15 lbs I’d put on in the past 4 years of being, um, “relaxed” and in love.
Fast forward to today, 7 months of work stress and wedding-planning stress and pre-wedding celebrations later, and I’m still 8-10 lbs from where I want to be.
I’m under SO much pressure at work and with the neverending list of wedding tasks, plus some financial stress on top of that—so many deadlines, all of them urgent—it would really give me some relief to push out my weight “deadline.”
My FI and I have been spending so much on the wedding, it stresses me out to think that if I stick with this first fitting and lose more weight after, I’ll just have to shell out more for alterations. Not to mention that altering a dress multiple times seems like a recipe for disaster.
At the same time, I’m not crazy about the idea of staying where I’m at (weight-wise) to save time and money.
I really, really could use another month—but is that cutting it too close to the wedding? I purchased from a busy, upscale salon that recommended 3-4 fittings before the wedding date.
I guess I should just call and ask, but will my consultant just laugh at me??
Has anyone done this, and how did it work out for you? Any help/advice appreciated!!!
Post # 2
As someone who lost too much weight between her last fitting and wedding day, I would suggest having them alter some parts of the dress before the others. For example, have them alter the length first.
Is there a part of your body that stays more stable even when you lose weight? Maybe consider altering those parts of the dress first, then other parts at your second/third fittings.
Post # 3
- Wedding: Royal Park Hotel
AvaG: I was in an identical situation. I kept putting stuff off because I was so certain I would lose the weight. I didn’t. Are you being realistic? Would it really, really be that bad if you didn’t lose it? I suggest ditching the stress and just accepting your weight.
If you really think you can lose it then postpone but you deserve to ENJOY this time instead of trying to lose 🙁
Post # 4
AvaG: If that is the timeline they recommend (although 10 weeks out is quite a bit of time), then I would say work with their schedule. *Most* places will keep altering up to 1-2 weeks before the wedding day, meaning they will just keep taking it in if you lose inches/weight.
Mine started 6 weeks out, and the dress needed 3 rounds of various alterations due to some weight fluctuations. They kept working with me, and by the final fitting (2 weeks out), they told me to maintain as there was no more time, as they needed to send it for a press. I picked it up 2 days before the wedding, and it fight like a glove the day of! I say no worries, regardless if you lose more, or not.
Post # 5
I’m 20lbs down, Woot! But, there I have stayed for over a month! I’m getting my dress altered in Sept, and have been having the same feeling… can I postpone it to lose more weight? I post-poned my engagement pictures, now they’re in 2 weeks and realistically I will not lose a noticeable amount before then. I say spend some time loving you! Try not to obsess about it too much because it’ll ruin your self perception on your day.
No mater if you lose another 8lbs or not, your dress will fit and you WILL be beautiful! While you’re working on that self love I agree with Perchance: see if they can alter parts that are less likely to change.
Also, don’t feel bad about calling and asking, I’m sure they get that question all the time and will have a good response for you.
Post # 6
My first appointment with the seamstress is today… and I’m getting married mid-Sept. I put it off because I thought I might lose a few pounds. I didn’t, and now on top of not having lost any weight, I am panicking about the alterations not being done on time. Don’t be me… just go and start the process.
Post # 7
I had my first fitting about 4 weeks before my wedding, a second fitting 2 weeks out, and a final fitting one week out. I would just wait until closer to your day (but not too close!) and make sure you are where you want to be. However, you’re going to look beautiful no matter what! Don’t let everything ride on those last few pounds.
Post # 8
Perchance: Good idea! Didn’t even know this was possible. But there are a bunch of things—like adding buttons, hemming to shoe height, etc.—that could maybe be decided/put in motion before taking the dress in.
Post # 9
Derp: Thanks for sharing your experience! I worry that this will be me too, and like HannahGrace said I’m just inviting the added stress of a tight timeline. No, the world wouldn’t end if I didn’t lose the weight… I just feel so much (self-imposed!) pressure to be at my fittest on THAT day. 🙁
OUgal0004: Oh, I’m glad to know things turned out well for you and the seamstress was able to tweak for weight changes! Were you concerned about messing with the dress too much at all? Mine is several layers of lace and I do worry that things will look wonky if it gets taken in and out several times…
Post # 10
winterwoodlandbride15: Good advice…yes, I need to get back to the place where wedding planning was fun. 🙂 Congrats on your impressive weight loss! I’m going to ask my consultant what she thinks, too…like you said, it can’t be the first time someone has asked.
Audrey2_sings: One vote for postponing! Thanks, I’m glad to know it can work out much closer to the wedding date. I will have to see how tight my salon’s calendar is I guess.
Post # 11
Thank you ladies for weighing in (ha no pun intended)…I’m feeling better about what my options are!
I’ll call my consultant and ask her advice too, despite my embarrassment. In the meantime I’m leaning towards just doing the sensible thing and showing up for my original appt. while being up front about my concerns.
If I do lose more weight after the 1st fitting and end up complicating the alterations, I guess it’ll be a good problem to have.
Post # 12
I have scheduled it to the last possible date which is two months before the wedding. Let’s see if I can get my butt into gear! But it does suck to add the stress before the wedding :/
Post # 13
AvaG: Follow up: now that I’ve been to my first fitting last night, I can tell you that she pinned a few things and is starting on taking the dress in, but she won’t be fully sewing the bodice until after my next fitting in a few weeks…I feel so relieved that the wheels are in motion and I still have time to have her adjust if I do lose a couple of pounds. Based on my experience I would encourage you to keep the appt :). Good luck!!
Post # 14
You could postpone probably by 2 or 3 weeks on that timeline, I didn’t have my first fitting until July 5 for my August 23 wedding. That said, you probably don’t have to! I had that same experience as many people have said, at the first fitting he wasn’t interested in taking the dress, he’s just focusing on some of the other details to be done first. I think most tailors realize that two months out from the wedding, there’s a really good chance body shapes will change along the way.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
You can have alterations done more than once. Go to your first fitting and have them fit the dress to you now. Then if you lose weight, go back and have them take it in. It’s not a big deal. They took in my dress several times. I suggest getting your last fitting as close to the wedding as possible. My last one was 2 weeks before the wedding and I lost so much weight after that that the dress didn’t fit me well on my wedding day. Such a pain and it’s really my only regret.