Post # 1
I’m new here, so may have missed past posts, but most of the posts I read seem to include talk of ‘timelines’ and ‘waiting’ and picking out rings together. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but no-one seems to talk about their engagement being a genuine surprise – like mine was. Maybe it’s because I’m from the UK and most of you seem to be from the US and things are a bit different there?!
My engagement was a surprise. We’d talked about getting married only in the most abstract sense and we hadn’t been ring shopping or anything like that. So we went on hols to Victoria Falls and he got down on one knee on the banks of the falls under a moonbow with a ring that couldn’t of been more perfect if I’d chosen it myself (turned out by BFF helped, but design was his idea).
Any other suprise stories out there? Let’s here them!
Post # 3
@Itsnotmeitsyou: i knew the general time frame but not the how or where.
so when the day came. i arrived home after the gym to find a note taped to my door with clue #1, i knew it was the day. i went on a scavenger hunt through the city to memorable places until i met my Fiance on bended knee waiting for me.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
We didn’t have a timeline and didn’t talk about rings or anything but we had been talking about marriage and babies a lot for about a year in the run-up to the proposal, so I’d already had time to consider my answer before he asked 🙂 I’m glad he chose the ring by himself (and he did a great job!) but some men really have no clue about these things so I think ring-shopping together can be a case-by-case thing!!!
I do however think it’s best to talk about marriage a lot before a proposal so you can carefully consider your answer as opposed to a pressured/obligated yes when you actually have doubts.
Post # 5
We hadn’t talked about it much at all, and I had no idea he was planning to propose. Total surprise.
He picked a wonderful ring, all by himself (okay he got some advice from one of my girl pals, but still!). I couldn’t be happier with my ring!
Post # 6
When we got engaged we had been together for 10 years (high school sweethearts) so we had definitely talked about marriage, but we didn’t have a timeline of any kind. We didn’t pick the ring out together and I had no idea that it was going to happen that night. I love that it was a surprise and wouldn’t change it at all.
Post # 7
I was completely surprised! We had even gone to a couple stores to look at rings and i had a “wish list” set up at two of the stores. I had been begging for my ring for at least 6 months. He proposed while we were putting up our first Christmas tree in our new house. He had the ring hanging on an ornament. I was even nagging him about it an hour before he proposed! I don’t know how he pulled it off, i thought for sure I’d see it coming! He even picked a ring that wasn’t on my wish lists and i love it even more than any i picked!
Post # 8
I was completely surprised too.. We’ve been together for 5 years and lived together for 4. We’ve both been married before and never discussed getting married again.
He proposed while we were on holiday in Dominican Republic and to say I was shocked is an understatement!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@Itsnotmeitsyou: Mine was pretty much akin to getting a comedy piano dropped on me I was that floored by it. And I didn’t take it particularly gracefully either, haha!
We’d talked about marriage as a definite, but I wasn’t expecting us to make any moves towards it for another couple of years. He did it all himself, even researched rings extensively online!
I did a full recap here, if you’re interested:
Surprise Proposal – and the aftermath (pictures!)
And yay, another UK Bee! 😀
Post # 10
@MrsYoshida: That’s nice. I think ithere’s a difference between proposing out of the blue to someone who you are not sure would say eys and knowing you’re both on the same page as far as commitment and intention to stay together, but keeping the whole proposal thing a surprise. Worked for me anyway!
Post # 11
I was completely surprised! I mean we’d talked about getting engaged of course (we’d been dating for six years) but he said a few things to throw me off and convince me that it wouldn’t be coming for months right before we went on vacation to England and Paris. Then he proposed to me when we were in the garden of a palace outside of London and I. was. shocked, haha. I was just taking photos and I turned around and he was on one knee!
Post # 12
@chronicwhimsy: Ahh good piece of writing! Interesting story. I didn’t feel like that, but a friend of mine was very strange about getting engaged – kept going bright red and didn’t really want to tell people and nearly had a heart attack when her phone rang and it was her mum and she was telling her the news. Now I’m wondering if maybe that is how she was feeling too!
Post # 13
Complete surprise for me. We had both discussed marriage and knew it was something we wanted, but I wasn’t very concerned with when it happened. We had bought a house earlier in the year and I figured we’d wait a little while to save up for the wedding. Originally, I thought he would propose at a music festival we attend every year because it’s one of the more special events we go to. According to him, that was the original plan but he couldn’t decide on a ring in time (he told me this after we got engaged). About a month after the festival, we were hanging out at home on a Friday and decided to play some records in our audio room. Pretty normal thing for us to do on a Friday. After turning on our amp, one of the vacuum tubes immediately blew out and we couldn’t use it (we’ve since had the tubes replaced). So I was like “whatever” and decided to clean up around the room instead. My Fiance disappeared and when he returned he had a ring. I was really taken by surprise because we were just doing what we normally did on weekends and there was no indication that he would be proposing.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@Itsnotmeitsyou: Haha, yeah, it was weird trying to explain it to people. It was a very odd and unpleasant feeling. But thankfully all gone now! 😀
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
@MrsYoshida: My SO is one of those guys who has NO clue about picking out a ring. I tried just telling him certain things and it was a total failure because he had no idea what I was talking about! LOL. He finally told me that if left up to him I’d end up with a fruit loop as a ring, so I better pick something out and just email him ALL the details.
It does take away some of the surprise factor. I know it’s coming soon, but I don’t know exactly when and I’m sure my SO will do his best to keep it that way and make the moment a surprise. For me I guess I was more floored the day he suddenly told me in a very serious tone before heading to my parents for the weekend that he needed to have a conversation with my Dad! I knew then what it was all about.
Post # 16
I was totally, genuinely surprised. We had only been dating nine months when he proposed. I knew there was a Tiffany’s box, but it was Christmas and I just assumed it was a present! Little did I know…