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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    I apologize for sounding like a Diva but..

    I know guests bring gifts to weddings and I guess sometimes the bride and groom choose to open them that same day. But did anyone else actually get handed a gift while getting ready and asked to open it?

    I did! It was towels. Of course I was so happy to receive a gift, but I was a little annoyed that a guest made me actually stop my hair appointment to open it. I was stressed enough because we were running late and we were having a big wedding so of course there were tons of gifts to open. I was totally nice at the time, but definitely thinking "This couldn't have waited?" Also, unfortunately it happened before my wedding planner arrived, otherwise she would have swooped in and shooed the gift into another room.

    Anyone else have that happen?

     
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    rachel_leigh    May 15, 2010  

    We actually had most of our gifts shipped to us ahead of time.  Most of the people who brought gifts to the wedding brought cards rather than actual gifts, but no one insisted we open it right then.  That seems kind of weird to me.

     
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    Tulip61110    June 11, 2010   Philadelphia

    We received gifts that were placed on our gift table, but I would be appalled if someone handed me a gift and expected me to take time to open it while I'm busy getting ready.  I mean, doesn't every bride end up being pressed for time before the wedding?  That's really strange.

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    It was strange! And the gift giver was recently married too, you'd think it would have been obvious it wasn't the right time!

    We actually got a surprising amount of gifts on the wedding day which was nice but ended up being a big burden logistically..

     
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    Some of our more elderly guests lined up and presented us envelopes at the reception.  I think it was partially cultural and partially because they didn't want to leave money laying around (we had a card box, but I understand their hesitation).  We greeted them all and gave kisses on both cheeks.  At first I thought it was kindof odd, but it ended up working out great and we were able to thank them all personally.  I think some people just want to share the joy of giving you the present themselves :)

     
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    ddubzz    June 5, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    We received gifts on the wedding day, but they were all displayed on our gift table.  Thankfully, no one came up to me and insisted that I open their gift right away-- how odd!  Who is this guest who was at your hair appointment??  When I was getting ready, it was just me, my BMs, and MIL in our hotel suite... and they know better than to pull something like that. 

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    Wow... That is really odd.  We had a bunch on our gift table, a lot shipped directly to our house.

    I had two people write in their card, "Your present is on its way" and we still haven't received anything... hmmm...

     

     
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    crownofstorms    September 12, 2009   Maine

    I had a couple friends who wanted me to open their presents right away. Luckily it was after the ceremony and everything was done, but still... I don't think I would've minded! It took something like 2.5 hours to do my hair and I was bored as hell, so I certainly wouldn't have minded having something to do!

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    We got some gifts the day of, but they were mostly cards. No one insisted that we open a gift there... how odd! It must have been cultural. Very sweet, but one wonders what they expected you to do with the towels at your hair appointment. ;)

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    The guest was actually a BM, but the gift was a belated shower gift from her Mom who was attending my wedding. I think her Mom told her to have me open it, not really sure why it was so important in the moment..

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    We got tons of cards and about four (large!) gifts at the wedding.

    I'll admit, I was slightly irritated because it was a DW wedding, and we lived 12 hours (or one flight) away, so we had to store the gifts with some local family members until we could drive out and pick them up (which was several months later). If the guest has just shipped the gifts ahead of time, or after, it would have made so much more sense. 

    Oh well. But no, no one handed me a gift while getting ready. That would have irritated me, too!

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    @Miss Chapstick: Same here with the large gifts!! I couldn't believe people actually brought them to the wedding knowing full well we lived a 3 hour drive away and were going straight to our honeymoon after the wedding! We also had to store them with family and now won't be able to get to them for months. As a wedding guest I would never bring an actual gift besides a card to a wedding b/c obvioulsy, what are the bride and groom going to do with it??

     

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