(Closed) Anyone regret NOT having a first look?

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We did a first look and I dont regret it one bit. It was one of my favorite moments of the day and it didnt take away from our ceremony one bit. I suggest you do it so you can enjoy your guests through out the evening

Post # 4
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i didnt do a first look – and i dont regret it but i also  didnt plan on attending my cocktail hour, (we did pics and then had a sitting/waiting room with all the food that they were eating during the cocktail hour and drinks) but that was the plan anyway – we wanted to be introduced when everyone was seated in the reception area.

i did however get to talk to my husband before the ceremony – we got a cute picture of me hididng behind the dressing room door and him on the otherside. i kept yelling at him to not look in the lense haha i know he could see my reflection.

Post # 5
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I didn’t do a first look and I don’t regret it at all! The look on his face when he saw me walking down the aisle is something I’ll never forget and everyone I love got to witness it as well. I’m sure whatever you decide will be special no matter what though!

Post # 6
1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We didn’t do a first look either and we both don’t regret it.  We did pictures with everyone but each other and our families before the wedding, so it take nearly as long after with just us and our families and the entire wedding party!!

Post # 7
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re not married yet, but we don’t plan on doing a first look. I think it’s worth it that things will be a bit more rushed. I’ve dreamt about that moment for a long time; the moment where I’m arm in arm with my parents and I see my Future hubby waiting for me at the other end of the aisle. I picture the look on his face A LOT. I know that lots of people say that a first look doesn’t ruin that moment, but it’s just not for us. I know we won’t regret it. Good luck with your decision! 

Post # 8
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@penguini:  I was in similar situation with the same time frame for our ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception (albeit one hour earlier than yours).  Fiance and I had been set on not seeing each other before the ceremony and wanted that special walk down the aisle; however, we started getting a bit worried about cramming all the photos into an hour and wanted the cocktail hour time to mingle with our guests, so we looked into a first look.

Once we started looking into a first look and seeing other people’s photos (search First Look in the WB search bar and you’ll find lots and lots of info), we were sold.  There are so many great ideas out there of how to set up the first look so it’s a special intimate moment between just the two of you (and your photog!)  It also has the added benefit of being able to truly take the moment in, hug and smooch each other, and share a few sweet words, without anyone else around.  FI and I are now totally converted as we love the idea of having that private time together before the chaos of the wedding!    Not to mention, we get all the photos out of the way so we can just enjoy ourselves and mingle with our guests.

It’s definitely something to look into – if you search WB, you’ll find lots and lots of bees who have done it and come away with absolutely amazing pictures.  And it’s a pretty unanimous opinion that it does not diminish that feeling when you start to walk down the aisle…. just something to think about!

Post # 10
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We didnt do one and I dont regret it at all. I loved the anticipation of the ceremony. I didnt feel rushed either. We took some bridal party photos beforehand and me with his mom and sisters and him with my brothers and the photos after the ceremony with everyone went by quickly. I felt like we had enough time for just the two of us.

Post # 11
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

We didn’t do a first look and definitely don’t regret it. We LOVED that moment of me walking down the aisle and both of us seeing each other all dressed up and smiling. Wouldn’t trade that moment for anything!!! We were able to do pics afterwards with enough time to make it to the reception on time. (During the one hour cocktail hour after the ceremony) It worked out great!

Post # 12
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I have the same exact timing as you. Ceremony @ 6 30, CH @ 7 and then reception @ 8. My fiance and I will not be seeing each other before the ceremony. We already live together so we want to keep some tradition and def some excitement. I think doing the first look works for some couples but I feel that nothing can compare to your future husband seeing you walk down the isle for the first time.


Post # 13
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I went back and forth on this topic so much. Darling Husband and I both wanted to have that feeling of seeing eachother coming down the aisle, but our ceremony was at 6pm too and if pictures took too long I didn’t want my guests waiting until 9pm for dinner.  I ended up posting here asking if anyone regreted doing their first look. I wanted to know if anyone had thought it was a bad idea after having done it, or if it changed the feeling for them at all.


This thread made us decide to do a first look and even typing this I remember how that moment felt. It was unlike no other moment that day. (Honestly I have goose bumps and my eyes are welling up and it was 4 months ago lol) It didn’t change the walk down the aisle. That walk isn’t about seeing eachother, it’s about the slow anticipation of what the end of the walk brings. Darling Husband was still crying when I got to him. 🙂



Post # 14
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

this is exactly our situation too! so this is what we are doing

photographer will photograph our first look at 5pm

groom/bride shots 5-6

group shots 6-630

family shots 630-7

ceremony 7:30

Reception 8

cake cutting 9

first dance/daddy daughter dance 9:30

exit 10

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