Post # 1
DH and I were supposed to get married 10/19/13 on our 4 year anniversary. However I got really sick and ended up losing my job and health insurance. So we got married at the court house with 60 other couples the day before my surgery. It was hurried and very uncomfortable, nothing special about it other than finally marrying the love of my life. DH had to go straight to work afterwards and the next morning I went into surgery to have my eye removed and was in recovery for about 6-8 weeks.
We kicked around the idea of still having a wedding and reception next year since we already had paid a lot of deposits, etc. Anyway before we started planning this big wedding my dream was to get married on the beach. Then we felt family pressure to have something here so everyone could come.
Now that we’ve been married almost 6 months now we thinking going off on the honeymoon we never had and having a simple vow renewal on the beach sounds great!
We are planning to pay my bridesmaids for their dresses since those were already purchased.
Is anyone else doing this just the two of you?
Post # 3
I am. I was supposed to do a big VR but honestly it was so hard to manage with family issues, a husband’s potential deployment, money, location (we are 5000 away from everyone), drama and everyone throwing their two cents into something that they were not paying/part of/not even supportive about, I had to finally question myself about what was really important and instead of cancelling, I wanted to celebrate my marriage between just my husband and I. We are leaving Hawaii next year and so I thought it would be a nice thing to celebrate our marriage here before we go. It also doesn’t help that I tend to get really anxious in big crowds.
In the end we just decided it was better to have a small thing, just us on the beach and have a great time than being stressed about everyone else and how to do things.I figured that I cannot please everyone so I might as well do what I want to do.
Where are you thinking of having your VR? There are a lot of cool locations and there are some wedding packages that are pretty affordable if you look hard enough.
Post # 4
@Doralise: That sounds lovely and exactly what we are wanting to do. Not sure yet where, I’ve been shopping around. I’m looking for all inclusive for between 4-7 days including our small vow renewal on the beach. I really want to just have something simple and somone who can take a few nice photos of us. I figure we can party the rest of the night at our resort!
It’s lovely you live in Hawaii although I know the cost of living there is quite a bit more than here in the midwest. It seems to be really expensive to fly and stay there. So I’ve been looking at Cancun or Jamaica.
Have you gotten a dress for your beach ceremony yet?
Post # 5
@porkchopsbride2be: Well, if it does help I think there are some resorts that offer a vow renewal/marriage package. Cancun sounds wonderful but Jamaica sounds great too…those are hard choices. A good factor may be to compare plane prices, resort prices and even if some resorts offer a wedding package. I think some do. Of course, there are other wedding companies that do the ceremony with the little things attached.
Hawaii can be pretty expensive so we usually find cheap things to do and splurge on something only once in a while.
I got the dress but oh man was it crazy getting it! I thought I wanted a short vintage style dress but I saw this long one with some lovely lace (I will get it cleaned after) and wore it. My mom had been down for a visit (her first time) and screeched “That’s the one! Get it!”
Post # 6
We are planning to do a vow renewal after our second child is born with the kids, and then for our tenth anniversary do one with just the two of us. We might renew with just the two of us every five/ten years after that (as long as we’re having fun with it). I think we will do the next couple of vow renewals in our hometown to save money, but if we were going abroad, there are a lot of lovely all-inclusive resorts in the Riviera Maya in Mexico.