Anyone rented a beach house in Outer Banks, NC in September?

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

-Would Sept. 17th be considered “off season”?

Yes, though I’ve only ever rented in August (“in” season).

-Are there local hotels near Duck, NC that guests can stay in? 

I have stayed in Duck and yes, there are plenty of hotels right across the bridge.

Is it totally rude for me to bring a note to the neighbor’s houses and ask them to be quiet for the 30 minutes during the ceremony? (I have nightmares of wild screaming parties going on next door and drunken college kids overpowering our vows)

Yeah kinda, I wouldn’t worry about it, during the day most people are at the beach, shopping, or relaxing on the deck and they don’t usually get wild until evening time. I’m afraid some might take the note as passive agressive and intentionally be loud.

Also if since it’s in September there likely will not be college kids, but instead retirees and families.

-Can we still expect guests to bring presents since we are giving them plenty of heads up to save, and the drive is only about 5.5 hours away? (most people wouldn’t have to fly)

Some might, but I wouldn’t expect it. Typically with destination weddings paying to travel to be there is the gift. No matter how much time you give them they aren’t obligated to save up money for you wedding.

-Is it wrong to go ahead and book the house before I have my bridal party set, and then ask them to help pay for the house? We figure that its cheaper than renting a hotel room, and I don’t want to pick a bridal party yet because I’m in my mid 20s and my close friends change often.

I would wait until you talk to your bridal party about their budget, unless you’re willing to forgo having some friends in your wedding because they can’t afford it or don’t want to afford it. Or unless you’re willing to pay for it for them.

-I want my friend to be my photographer, but I’m not sure I can afford to put her up in a hotel while we’re there, and I don’t want her to have the eat the cost herself. She doesn’t HAVE to be my photographer, I just really would want to make sure I found a good one because the pictures are the most important part for me.

If she is coming as your photographer you’d have to pay her travel costs as that is usually included in typical contracts with photogs, but since she’s your friend that is something you should work out with her. Would she come as a guest anyway? Maybe she won’t mind paying her way.

-What would you do if it rains- Have the wedding inside? Or are there tent people that can build a tent to fit the shape of the deck you’re on?

Maybe just move it inside. I wouldn’t worry too much about rain there though. If it did rain, it will probably only last a few minutes.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Ok, I live in NC and have booked several beach houses for fraternity and alumni retreats over the years.  I’m just going to warn you that you are going to run into some issues with finding a house.  First, a lot of rental companies have policies against large parties or exceeding capacity of the house you rented (even if you’re just having a get together for a few hours and not letting everybody stay there).  Carefully look at these policies because you will be responsible for penalty fees if you don’t adhere to them, in addition to forfeiting your security deposit.  Second, you need to familiarize yourself with local fire codes and noise laws because they will restrict how you can decorate, where you can hold a wedding, and how many guests can be there.

I have a friend who did a very similar thing to you in the outer banks, but their wedding was very small and everybody in attendance was staying in the same house.  To get around capacity issues, try finding a duplex-style house and rent out both sides.  This would also give you a bit more privacy and less noise issues.

To answer your questions:

  • I would still consider September 17th on season, but it’s right on the cusp of the season so there will likely be a lot of differing opinions.  Rental companies will very clearly state what they consider on and off season.
  • I can’t name any specific hotels because I have not been to Duck in a while, but there are definitely options in the area.  Don’t look too far from the venue, though, because outer banks traffic blows.
  • Yes, it is rude to ask neighbors to be quiet.  They have just as much of a right to enjoy their rented house as you do.  Most will be polite and keep it down if they know there’s a wedding going on, nothing more needs to be said beyond that.
  • Gifts are not an expectation for any wedding, but with an out of town wedding over 5 hours away they are far less likely to bring gifts.
  • It’s not wrong to book the house now, but I would not expect the bridal party to contribute if they have not been aware of the plan yet.  That puts them in an unreasonable position, IMO.
  • Your friend may choose to travel to your wedding and cover the cost as a gift.  May.  If she does not want to pay the travel fee and you want her to photograph your wedding, you should pay for her travel or at least come to an arrangement where you both make a contribution.  Her travel fees will cost way less than any quality photographer you could hire in the local area, so you’re still getting a good deal.
  • Yes, you’ll need to have the wedding indoors.  This happened to my friends I mentioned earlier and they moved the wedding and decorations inside.  It turned out fine and they got some beach pics when the weather cleared up later in the day.  You probably can’t put a rental tent on a deck due to fire code restrictions.  At our wedding, we have to keep the tent 20ft away from other structures because of the local fire code.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Lyssie:  

“What we were thinking: September 17, 2016 is our wedding date, and we would like to rent a house in OBX from a Thursday- Sunday or Monday so that we can go a little early and set up.”

I’ve rented-out 2 homes at the NJ shore. Almost all rentals are Saturday-Saturday, with about 10% being Sunday to Sunday.  If you find a Sunday or Monday rental start, it should be okay. Where we are, it would probably have to be booked for a date in October, to get Thursday – Monday.  (Or book a house that isn’t popular, for some reason?)

“I don’t want people on the beach to be in the background of the pics or disturbing the ceremony.”

If you’re in a beach/tourist area, this may be improbable, if not impossible.

“We would string lights throughout and have some candles, and a few chairs for elderly people but overall we want the ocean to be the backdrop and we just want people dancing.”

You do realize that many landlords will not rent to very large groups? They have a maximum capacity, based on the number of beds in the house. If the house sleeps 10, they won’t want 40 people dancing on their deck. Noise is also a factor. Also, zoning comes into play. In the small town where we currently have our beach house, we can rent to families who are there to attend a special event, but we can’t host special events at our home. (Think about toilet back-ups, too)

-Would Sept. 17th be considered “off season”?

Off-season is after Labor Day. You should get a reduction in rates, however, it is still the busy season. It is also hurricane season, on the east coast. 3 years ago we had to evacuate southern NJ, the last week in August.

-Is it totally rude for me to bring a note to the neighbor’s houses and ask them to be quiet for the 30 minutes during the ceremony? (I have nightmares of wild screaming parties going on next door and drunken college kids overpowering our vows)

Don’t be surprise if they don’t comply. They’re there to enjoy their vacation, too. You’ll be having a party of your own. The best chance you have for quiet is during the rental turn-over period. For us, people have to be out 10:00 AM and the new tenants don’t get their keys until 2:00 PM.

-Can we still expect guests to bring presents since we are giving them plenty of heads up to save, and the drive is only about 5.5 hours away? (most people wouldn’t have to fly)

If I have to drive an 11 hour round trip and pay for gas, tolls, meals, and a hotel room, you will get a nice card, from me. That’s it. Actually, unless you are very close to me, I would politely decline.

-Is it wrong to go ahead and book the house before I have my bridal party set, and then ask them to help pay for the house? We figure that its cheaper than renting a hotel room …

Nope. Unless it’s a bridesmaid’s dress, you can’t expect (or force) them to pay for anything, especially not if you expect your guests to spring for your wedding costs.

-I want my friend to be my photographer, but I’m not sure I can afford to put her up in a hotel while we’re there, and I don’t want her to have the eat the cost herself. 

Any photographer – friend or not – would add the cost of the hotel room, to their contract, if they have to stay over night. Same with other costs of travel.

-What would you do if it rains- Have the wedding inside? Or are there tent people that can build a tent to fit the shape of the deck you’re on?

I doubt your landlord would allow you to build a tent on their deck. Or attach it to it. Rental tents are not cheap, either. And if there are heavy winds, along with the rain, not safe to have.

Good luck.

 

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