I can't wait until I can wear my ring!! I've been hit on by so many people since our engagement... it'll be nice to put that at rest. I can't tell you how disappointing it is to find out someone is only trying to get to know me because I'm a "potential partner" rather than I seem like a good friend.
@PlumeriaSplash: I totally feel you on that. I am always wearing a ring on my ering finger--- couldnt walk around with that bare! ...just scared to wear the real one!
You're not alone! My diamond rings spend most of their time safely put away in a drawer while I wear a plain gold band.
I hardly wear my rings at home but I wear them when I'm out all the time. Your rint is isured so you should not be worried about it much, just don't wear it doing something rough like cleaning, etc.
I'm with you! I've been starting to wear mine more lately but I used to be terrified to wear it at work (I work with my hands a lot) because it's an antique and I kept worrying it'd knock a diamond out or something. But if yours is fully insured, I say go for it.
I just wear it. I do know what you mean but I actively fight againt those thoughts.
I know I'd be horrified if I lost it or something but, think of this way, it's much less important than a baby, and you wouldn't want to keep your baby locked in a buuble to prevent him/her from getting injured or worse. You wouldn't want to keep the symbol of your marriage in a box in a similar way: it's meant to be worn, it means more on your finger. In its box it's just a pretty item, on your finger its doing its duty sybolizing your upcoming wedding :)
Now that said, I take it off for many things if they may damage it or it could fall off. It doesn't join me when I do dishes, shower, etc. If I feel the area I'm in is sketchy, it's on backwards or my hand is in my pocket. If I was going somewhere where I thought it would REALLY stand out, e.g. a very poor area, I probably would not bring it at all. If I went there a lot, I'd get a stand-in like you have.
Depending on your job and what it looks like, wearing a stand-in plain band may be right for that situation, be it because of working with your hands or feelings of coworkers/employers.
So, I guess, you're perfectly right to not want to wear it ALL the time and a stand-in band is a great way to show FI and everyone else (including yourself) that it isn't about hiding your commitment, but it sounds clear to me that he bought it for you with the assumption that you would wear it, so whenever reasonable, wear it :) He wants to proudly glance down and see it on your finger... give him that enjoyment. Give yourself that enjoyment! If something crazy happens, that's what insurance is for. Don't let fear ruin this part of enjoying your engagement together though!
@cantonbride: Honestly, I think you should wear it. Your fiance paid a lot of money for it and he wanted you to have something beautiful that you could always wear and show to the world. I'd be bothered too if I bought my husband something expensive and then he wouldn't use it because he was too afraid to break it or lose it. I'd be asking him what the point is in owning such a thing that can never be used. I wear my rings every single day. I won't lose them because I don't take them off outside the house and I'll just get them fixed if they get damaged. I suppose it's possible that I could be mugged and have my rings stolen from me, but they're not big sparkly expensive rings so there's not really much chance of that happening. The way I see it is that common sense should prevail (like taking off my rings when I'm doing heavy cleaning or leaving my rings at home when I go swimming because I have lost jewelry that way before), but otherwise, I don't want to live my life in fear of what might happen. I say wear your ring and enjoy it. :)
No way. I love wearing them. When I first got my e-ring, I was afraid to wear gloves because I thought they would bend it or something, but I couldn't take my hands freezing anymore!
I rank not wearing your e-ring up there with buying beautiful expensive furniture and then covering it up in plastic for no one to ever use. Sure it's expensive and it would be tragic if something happened to it, but if no one is going to see or use it, what's the point? My e-ring has taken a pretty fierce beating in the last year and a half and it still looks great and the stone is completely secure. I only take it off to shower, sleep, and go to the gym. I even wore it last year when we camped in woods for a week. It's insured so if something happens to it, then I'll just get it fixed. :)
@SimpleGifts: +1 Exactly. It's like buying a car and not driving it. Yes, things can happen. But if it's insured and you use common sense, it will be fine!
I never take mine off.....ever. I can't imagine not wearing it. It's not made of paper! It will be just fine if you wear it around LOL
I don't wear mine when I'm at home and it is around my neck when I get called out to crime scenes or have to wear gloves when I'm at the morgue.
No ick will touch my ring.
I wear mine all the time. I look at it this way - he didn't give me a gorgeous expensive ring just so it can sit in a drawer. And I love to wear it and it's very pretty.
Generally e-rings are pretty durable because they are made to be worn every day. Yes, you do risk stone loss of whatever, but it's a fairly small risk and you have insurance.
If you didn't want to wear it because you didn't like wearing rings, or because you couldn't due to a job, that's one thing, but just to keep it locked up for safety as if it were in a bank vault seems a bit unnecessary.
I usually only wear mine out. At home in the evenings I will wear it unless I start cleaning and cooking then I put it away. I am also scared it will fall out or chip or something. I never thought having a solitaire would be such an issue and now I have one and I am scared of anything happening to it! I am even scared to clap my hands hard! haha My fi is completely fine with me if I don't wear it for something, I do still need to get it insured though.
I used to be scared, especially when I first got it, that something would happen to it. If I accidentally knocked it I would kinda freak out. But I have since calmed down about it. I'm still scared to wear it to work sometimes (I am a social worker and I sometimes end up in dodgy areas), but I still do wear it.
Even though it is a sentimental piece, if something goes wrong, if it gets hurt or stolen, that's life unfortunately. It is funny insured so I will just have to get over it. Anyway, I am too poud to NOT wear it every day. :)
No, I'm not too worried. The center stone on my e-ring is only a half carat, and all of the other accent stones are smaller. If any one stone fell out, it wouldn't cost that much to replace.
If I had a big centerpiece diamond that had cost a fortune -- yes, I might be a little more concerned.
I think my worry is more from the overall standpoint. My set 2.25 carats combined, and it sparkles like crazy in the daylight outdoors. It's a little bit blingy compared to what is the norm in area where I live. I find myself looking over my shoulder sometimes when I am walking through parking lots at the mall, etc.
I probably should get some insurance just to be safe!
I wear mine all the time. Of course I would be devastated if something happened to it but I love it so can't not wear it! What if you got insurance on it? Then if something did happen at least it would be covered?
My bestfriend just freaked me out by telling me that about 10 miles from where I live a group of gypsies jumped a guy and cut off his finger to get at his ring.
But she did tell me that this was 10 years ago and apparently he was wearing a really big fat gold ring with lots of diamonds.
I am getting more and more worried about wearing expensive things...not because I'm especially clumsy but because I live in a country that has 25% of people unemployed and crime is going up. I just don't want to make myself a target. 
I do swivel my ring around when I'm walking down the street but really I think people are more likely to go for my laptop if they see me.
It's insured so I wounldn't worry that much about it. Just don't be rough with it. When I'm in the apartment I rarely wear it. I don't wear it in bed because I heard the sheets can wear down the prongs and also because I was wearing it at night and I kept knocking it on the headboard. Eventually I must have hit it really hard because the diamond was spinning and I just took it in to get the prongs tightened.
After that I don't wear it in the shower anymore. I never wore it while cooking or doing the dishes. When I leave the apartment I almost always wear it unless I am going to the gym or doing a run. Sometimes I have to go to a not so great neighborhood for a little bit (like where my waxing salon is) and in that case I usually just turn the diamond in (its a solitaire) and so no one bugs me because it looks like a plain band.
Mine is insured too and the setting is an heirloom, the diamond is new. I would be sad if I lost the diamond but it is reassuring that it would be replaced if lost. If I lost the setting I would be devastated.
I am torn! I love wearing it because it is so beautiful but I fear that it makes me a target for muggers (I live in a big city). I only got engaged on Thursday and already I've been having nightmares about getting mugged. Mostly I'm worried that if someone did try to mug me, I'd fight back and say something like, "NO! I just got this!!!"
That's a really great question. I was also scared, but then I realized that he bought the ring for me to wear..not for it to be hidden. Fiance once told me that when he sees me wear the ring, it makes him proud. So cute!
But I try to be smart about wearing the ring. For example, I don't wash dishes with it, or take showers with the ring. I don't excercise or do any harsh physical activity with it. I take it off as soon as I get home. Also (and this is pretty obessive) but I wash it everyday to get rid of the cloudiness and grime that could accumulate on the ring. Oh, and I don't sleep with it on. I put it back in it's box or ring holder.
I don't go out at night by myself with the ring on..I'll leave it at home. I don't have to wear it all the time. Another thing I do is swivel the ring to the plan band side (I don't have an eternity e-ring) sometimes whe I'm out late.
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I find myself barely wearing it to the dismay of my FI. I am just so worried of wearing down the prongs, knocking the center stone out, losing it, etc. It is fully insured--- but I still am scared to wear it all the time! I wear a plain band around the house and doing errands. Anyone else?