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Ok, I'm going out on a limb here and potencially making myself look like an a**.  BUT, I am considering popping a Xanax before I walk down that aisle.  I am not entirely excited about FI marrying me while I'm under the influence of psychiatric drugs, BUT I am pretty confident that I will be a hot mess if I go au-natural. 

I don't take xanax (or anything similar) on a regular basis (or at all), but I am having serious anxiety about the day of.  I hate being the center of attention, and I cry A LOT.  And I'm not a pretty, delicate crier.  I'm a hot mess crier.  I just don't want to be that messy bride.  I'd rather be slightly....dreamy!

Also, I don't drink alcohol.  So I need a different way to relax!  Are you planning on having a few drinks before hand? Or taking anything?  How are relaxing?!

Ahh just thinking of all 300 guests staring at me makes me cringe

i take a daily med so i will probably take it. Have you tried these meds before? I would be afraid of strange side effects! maybe a massage and some breathing excersizes? I have taken add meds my whole life and sometimes they can make me feel detached. I would hate for you to "miss" your wedding because you were in a fog!

Ahhh yes ladies, I have tried it to make sure I am "appropriate", it was not big deal.  Kinda of just took the "edge" off. 

@Jillian--I have enough feelings everyother day of the year, I don't mind experiencing a bit of wedding numbness!!  FI and I are a great match, and I love him to death.  I feel overwhelming love for him all the time, and view our huge wedding as more of a party for our friends and family than a once-in-a-lifetime romantic day for us. 

I have anxiety, and take diazepam when I have issues with it, like if I feel too panicky. I’ve never taken Xanax, so I don’t know how they compare, but I think diazepam is a pretty freaking awesome little pill. Usually, I only take 5mg, and its never made me “out of it” or loopy or anything, it just takes your anxiety level down a few notches. You’re still like “hey, 300 people are looking at me” but instead of then screaming and freaking out, you’re just like “meh, ok, whatever!” – at least I am, LOL, but definitely ask your doctor first, and take some before the big day incase you find it makes you sleepy or whatnot.

I plan on making sure I have one of those puppies on hand, just in case, and also plan on having a glass of champagne earlier in the day. No reason to be overly stressed out, if I don’t have to be is how I look at it.

I'll go on the record and say that I wish I HAD taken something. I'm a very anxious person, and honestly, was cool as a cucumber until the day before. It started at the rehearsal. I had been SO excited the week leading up to the wedding, and during the rehearsal, something snapped. I was excited/nervous/anxious all in one, and I made myself sick. I was shaking. It was that bad. I couldn't eat at our rehearsal dinner and had to sip ginger ale. I was mortified, and I was crying uncontrollably. I didn't really enjoy the rehearsal dinner at all. I kept playing it off and saying, "i dunno why I'm crying! I'm very happy!" which I was, but still, I didn't ruin everyone else's time. But yeah, I was mad at myself.

I took a warm bath that night to relax and went to bed. I woke up the next morning feeling the same. Not quite as bad because the crying released some of the nerves, but I still couldn't eat. The ONE thing I regret about the wedding is that I didn't think to ask my doctor for a low-dose Zoloft or something. Just one dose to ease my nerves because I was SO looking forward to my time with the girls, getting ready and waiting in anticipation for the wedding. I was so distrated thinking about calming down that I didn't take that moment in.

Once we walked back down the aisle after being married, all of the emotions were released, and I felt normal again.

For me, it was all the emotions I had been penting up over the past few months prior. I never really let myself get super emotional/excited about the wedding. I had been penting up all my excitement because we had so much bad luck surrounding our plans, part of me thought something disasterous would ruin the day and prevent us from actually getting married (I'm a half glass full kinda girl, can ya tell :P). But I also HATE being the center of attention, and at the rehearsal, I was just like, "Oh my god, everyone's going to be looking at me!" Combine those two things, it was enough to kind of put me over the edge.

@Chapstick---Your post is exactly what I'm concerned of.  I want to enjoy myself, and I just know that it''s more likely that I'll make myself sick with anxiety and anticipation! 

@ Tulip---Thank you!  I know that because I've been experimenting with dasages and have not even come close to that, drugged-state! I''ve had a good experience so far with it.  It's not something I think I'll use regularly, but it sure does seem like a good idea to have some on hand.  Most recently, I took it to attend the funeral of a good friend...I don't want to think about how I would have gone through the mass if xanax hadn't just...taken the edge off of some of that pain.

@Nexus---Ohhh I'm so envious!  FI wasn't into that for us...  major bummer, cause I think that is super romantic

I am sure there will be a glass or two of champagne in me by the time I walk down the aisle.

But I am an attention whore. I am much more worried about FI. Maybe a small bottle of scotch with the bodoir black book is the most appropriate gift?

@MissAsB----hahahaha!  You mean I shouldn't take this pill I just found on my driveway?!  Don't worry, I'm an anxious person, not a stupid one! ;)

@Yrret---that is very concerning.  But most people know, and should be careful, to not mix these drugs with alcohol.  I don't drink, so it will be no problem for me.  That's why I'm looking for something other than alcohol to calm my nerves. 

@yrret---lol, I do know that drug/alocohol effect you're talking about! People in college used to do it for recreation--it's scary how fast that happens!  Men are so...ugh sometimes.