Post # 1
Wow! Does anyone else hear what their ex has been up to and think, “Who the heck was I with?” I just saw pictures of mine stripping and dancing on stage at several different public events with what looked like some kind of modern burlesque troupe. Wow, is all I can say! It was trashy, not artistic. Not to judge stripping here or re-raise the debate . I’m just shocked. What happened to the sweet, shy, intellectual, philosophical guy I was with who just wanted to get married and have kids? This is well over a year ago since we broke up…
Post # 3
I recently found out a guy I dated in high school (and dumped because he cheated on me) is now bald and extremely overweight. Now, I’ve seen some attractive bald or chubby gents, but this ex isn’t one of them…
Funny how things turn out, isn’t it?
Post # 4
I look at my most serious ex prior to my FI, and it sometimes actually has the reverse effect on me. I have zero doubt in my mind that my FI is THE man for me, but I see my exes posts on Facebook, he is expecting a baby, bought a house and recently got engaged, and I think ‘What does she have that I didn’t?’, because when he and I were together (broke up 6 years ago, he was 6 years older than me), he said he didn’t think he’d ever get married, and we got pregnant, and had an abortion.
Then I give myself a reality check, and remember that he liked his drink WAY too much, and I did NOT like who he was when he drank. And, of course, I now have the man of my dreams, who is going to be an amazing father and husband, who completely worships me as I do him! 🙂
Post # 5
Definitely. My ex is incredibly smart and had all the potential in the world. He has decided to use his smarts to lie, steal and generally be a bum. Oh, and he’s a heroin addict too. Charming.
Post # 6
Me! Me! I’m shocked my ex would shirk his responsibilities to his only daughter for a good five years Forcing me to work two jobs and play both parental roles In the meantime. what really shocks me is that he found a woman idiot to marry and support him !!! The world is a strange place ladies.
Post # 7
@twixie: LOL!! you had me at chubby gents!
Post # 8
I havn’t heard anything about my ex in like three years. He is not exactly the type of person I care to think about. The word was that he knocked up two girls and wasn’t paying child support. I guess that isn’t very shocking though considering who he is. No idea what he is up to now and I don’t care.
Post # 9
@fullyalive: A good friend of mine learned her sweet, normal ex starred in adult movies.
Post # 10
I was ‘engaged’ (I use that term loosely) to my ex with a ring he purchased with stolen drug money. We broke up when he went to jail for the third time. I’ve since completely turned my life around. Him, not so much. So yeah. He makes my FI look like superman, a prince, and a saint all rolled into one.
Post # 11
@Birdi: what can I say, gentlemanly teddy bears are awesome!
Oh, almost forgot about the one guy I never even dated who “thought we were close enough as friends to sleep together,” seeing as I’d “slept with boyfriends before.” He cried. A lot. Last I heard, he’s still single.
Post # 12
@twixie: Agree!!!! I have to be smaller than my partner otherwise I think I’d feel like I had to wear the pants in the relationship LOL!!
Post # 13
I was literally just on facebook and my ex popped up in a mutual friends photo and it was icky…from the day we broke up I couldn’t believe I had been with him as long as I had…at all really! I know it sounds mean, he’s not a bad person, just ZERO motivation, NO goals at all, and basically thought everyone was out to get him. He needed a psychiatric ward, not a girlfriend *shivers*. 180 degree turn to my SO though, and being with the people who were so wrong for me only has made me appreciate how wonderful he is even more. Definitely learned from my whacked out exes, eek!
Post # 14
Shocked by him? Not so much. Shocked by who he wound up with? Most definitely.
Apparently only one of us believes in upgrading. And it’s sad. He wasn’t a bad guy; he could have gotten any number of girls who would have been nice to him and not alienated his friends.
Post # 15
@Coral99: OMG!!! I wonder if his bedroom behavior gave him away?
Post # 16
I’m actually impressed by the progress my ex has made since we broke up. He’s much more mature and responsible for his own life and actions than when we were together, and a much more attentive father to his child. I think when we broke up, he had to realize that I’d been doing all that stuff for him, which gave him a wakeup call.
That said, I feel ZERO attraction. We’re good friends, but I just cannot believe we were ever together romantically (though we were, for 7+ years). He’s got a lovely wife who I think suits him well, and I’ve got Mr. Wonderful. I’m just so, so glad we didn’t stay together.