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I am adamantly against doing the bouquet toss at my wedding, but FI's aunts are (fairly seriously) threatening to hijack my bouquet or a centerpiece for a toss.
I am! I don't know that its come up much yet, but I'm sure once I make my intentions known, my single bridesmaids (and guests) will just wait around for me to drop the bouquet, then grab it and run.
Kidding (hopefully).
I don't think I'll be doing it. Mostly because we're having a small wedding (60 guests) and most of them will be married, so it would just be weird!
@Professor: I also did not do the bouquet toss or garter tradition. I *HATE* them and refused to do them.
Don't worry about your aunts....they might threaten to hijack a centerpiece for the toss, but no one can do "the toss" except the bride and they can't *force* you to do it! If they try to do it, everyone else will just think they're weird anyway. :)
ME! I always haaaaaaaated being dragged out to try to catch it, and I get embarassed watching other people do the garter. I want no part of that. Also, FI's family is pretty religious/conservative, so I doubt this will be missed. If that's someone else's thing, have fun with it, but I am going to pass.
That's tricky. I mean, I would stand my ground about not having it. Can you have your dj/mc ban them from taking over or letting them have the floor? And well, if they actually have the gall to take it upon themselves to do it, I'd just let them. They'll just look ridiculous when you don't participate!
There will be no bouquet toss or garter toss at my wedding either.
Haha, our florist had given us a free toss bouquet with our flowers, but I completely forgot about the toss!! We also adamantly insisted on NOT doing the garter toss, so it was all good :)
We didn't do a bouquet toss- we did an anniversary dance instead, and it was lovely!
I wanted to do it, but I dont think I have enough single ladies to make it work
Me! We're not doing or the garter toss. I don't think they're fun, and I think they're kind of embarrassing...
We're skipping the bouquet toss and the garter business. Bouquet tosses always make me feel awkward, and I usually take that time to run to the restroom/outside/anywhere else!
I think I read somewhere (not sure if it was Weddingbee or not!) about giving your bouquet to the couple that's been married the longest, which I think is super sweet!
I did not do the boquet toss or the garter toss at the wedding and no one seemed to miss them. In fact, I actually bought a garter to wear and then completely forgot to put it on-- I didn't even realize it until the next day when I pulled the garter out of my bag still in the package! So I guess we wouldn't have had one even if we wanted to!
We are skipping it! I think we aren't even going to mention it...and just hope no one notices 
I am skipping the bouquet and the garter toss! Ugh. I was dragged into the bouquet toss group at my last friend's wedding and hated it. There was a small contingent of us women standing there grumpy and unhappy. I'd rather spare my friends those negative emotions on my wedding day. As for the garter toss, its embarressing to watch the groom climb up the bride's skirt to "dirty" music in front of his friends and family. The thought of being the bride in that situation just freaks me the heck out! Ugh. No toss!
I wish we could skip it, but FI is all about "tradition". Stupid traditions that I don't particularly like apparently. He also wants to put his foot down about "here comes the bride". Personally, I can't stand it, but at least it'll make him happy. Maybe the reason we never argue is because I give in on the very few things he's adamant about.
@BrianneG: Sorry about "Here Comes the Bride," but kudos to you for recognizing stuff that feels essential to your groom. I got out of what my FI knows as "traditional wedding music" like "Here Comes the Bride" and "Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring" by being Jewish. But I had to give in on having guests stand when the bride walks in (not necessarily traditional for Jewish weddings) because FI can't imagine otherwise.
We skipped the garter toss (because a good friend of mine made it for me), but did the bouquet toss. It was really fun...but then again, I am one of the first of my friends to get married and so there was quite a large contingent standing behind me. It was hilarious, all my neices (from ages 6-10) were back there, and the pictures are just priceless.
Then again, I loved my bouquet and wished I could have kept it. My friend who caught it dried it and put it in a pretty vase at her house, so I get to visit with it. 
i have negative connotations with the garter toss and bouquet toss. we had family members who were in their 30s get married and had a bouquet toss and garter toss. it was so awkward because the only people at the wedding who weren't married were 20 and under (i was the oldest at 20 and my cousins and sister were 14 and younger). in the end the people who caught the bouquet was my 5 year old cousin and my 3 year old cousin caught the garter because nobody wanted to touch that thing.
needless to say, i won't be doing either. i don't think i'm going to wear a garter either, but i'm not sure yet.
I always feel kind of bitter.. like even if I do catch it, is that going to speed things up? At almost all of the weddings I've been to lately, the single ladies just dread it for one reason or another. Most of them are a lil older and in waiting-type relationships so I totally get it.
Not gonna do it.
I got pressured into doing that too many times when I was single. It was humiliating. No way will I subject my single guests to it.
Definitely NOT doing it. I always hated being dragged out to the dance floor to try to catch the bouquet...I found it very degrading.
Instead, I'll probably have all the couples out on the dance floor dancing, then slowly eliminate couples by how long they've been together, till we get to the couple that's been together the longest.
My idea is to create a toss bouquet out of single dollar bills and attach a twenty to the garter, at least that way someone will want to catch it, and its not because they are waiting to get married. I mean who doesn't want 20 bucks? I was really agaisnt the toss myself because I was always so embarassed having to get up there. But, being from the South, people just exspect these things. grr. . . So I feel this is a fun compromise for my family members insisting we have it.
I would love to skip the bouquet and garter toss, I brought it up with the SO today... and he was shocked.
We'll see who wins that one ;)
We have maybe 4 single ladies on the list... one of whom gets married the next month. Of those 4 single ladies- one is mother, who would get up and try to catch the bouquet and she would throw elbows....
So No, we are not tossing the bouquet.
I don't like it as a guest and like it even less as a bride. No tosses for us!
I'm not doing it!!! My opinion is this: I'm 29. Most of my friends are in their late 20s/early 30s. Singling out the single ladies at this point may make them uncomfortable. I know that a lot of my friends are not proud of their single status and I think we can have a lot of other FUN activities that won't make people feel uncomfortable (Like a photobooth!!!!). :)
That being said I don't judge people that DO do the toss! I think you just have to know your audience! I bet that lots of people have a blast with it!
Nope! No bouquet means no toss, and if I wear a garter, it won't be public knowledge. I really don't enjoy them, and since I'm the only one who feels strongly about it, my way goes.
We are. All our friends that we are inviting are in relationships, except for my MOH. And, my MOH is obsessively self conscious about being single. I don't want to throw her up with my younger girl cousins to catch the bouquet, I feel like it would make her inifinitely more upset about being single than she already is. I know that sounds dramatic, but it's true!
We are definatley not tossing the bouquet or my garter. I think we will do the anniversary dance.
No bouquet or garter toss for us. I am one of the last of my friends to get married, so there'd only be 1 or 2 girls to catch it!
The last wedding I attended with a bouquet toss ended horribly--one of the guests was ADAMANT about catching the bouquet because she was SURE her boyfriend would propose soon and catching the bouquet would 'spur him on'. When the bouquet came towards the flower girl, she pushed the flower girl into the ground and snatched it from her! She'll never live it down because the videographer caught everything...
I am skipping the bouquet toss too. Instead, I'm having a dance off and giving the winners the garter and toss bouquet.
nope...thwarting the garter toss by not wearing a garter (summer daytime wedding...what would that thing be holding up?!?). And ditto @ottawabride: there are exactly 3 single women invited - two are over 40 & proudly self-proclaimed "spinsters" & the third has been in a relationship with FI's childhood friend who is graciously waiting until our wedding is done before proposing (so he's told FI), so we're SOO not doing the bouquet toss since she's probably the only one who will stand up for the toss & that may be embarrassing. I certainly skipped out on the toss at every wedding that it happened at.
Oh Professor... tell your aunts that if they want to throw flowers around, they are more than welcome to do so all on their own. I'm not doing a bouquet toss either. I think I remember my FMIL being a little shocked, but once I explain that I would have exactly three single ladies at my wedding, all over the age of 25, none of whom want a big 'ol announcement pointing out that they are single... let's just say, she got the point.
Maybe you could suggest doing an anniversary dance and giving away your toss bouquet to the couple who have been married the longest? Maybe that will shut the aunts up ;)
We didn't do it or the garter toss and I don't think anyone missed it. I would just tell your DJ/entertainment that it's NOT going to happen no matter who asks for it.
we didn't do any of that stuff. No regrets! Let your aunt look crazy and hijack a centerpiece - let her. Tell the band / dj know ahead of time that you will NOT be doing the traditions, and to not stop the music for anyone that isn't wearing a bridal gown.
No way are we doing those! I will probably leave my bouquet with my daughter when we leave on our honeymoon (she's 20) but don't want to have the "desperate-to-catch-a-man-free-for-all-bouquet-catch"! And garter?I'm a plus size bride so it would be like a collar for a very large dog. Not funny, and not anybody's business!
I don't have many single ladies coming to the wedding and I really did not want my FI up my dress pulling a garter off in front of friends and family. So we aren't doing either. My parents were very relieved.
We aren't doing a bouquet or garter toss. We really don't have many single friends and I have always dreaded being paraded out as the single girls to catch the bouquet.
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