Post # 1
My engagement ring was a…. we’ll say… filler ring.
It was a ring of origin I would prefer not to mention *no he didn’t buy it for someone else*
He and I have been together 3 years.. and we had a short split somewhere in there. When we talked while we were split up, we both came to the conclusion that part of the problem was we weren’t making any directional changes. Example – we lived together, he treated my son as his own, and we CONSIDERED ourselves married but he had never given me a ring and we had never made any sort of plans. We were in a holding pattern.
So we heal our wounds.. get back together and move back in together. We got engaged shortly after but not too shortly. So… the ring came to me because we decided to set a date and he hated the idea of plannng a wedding without an actual ring.
So… the ring came with the promise to get a new one soon. It is a diamond, but it’s shaped like a flower – it can’t really be worn WITH a wedding band and frankly, I know it’s origin and I dont love the origin *no it wasn’t stolen either lol*
So now… with the expense of the wedding.. I just dont see another engagment ring in my future… but I’m trying not to stress that.
Seperately the cost of weddings rings that are anything other then straight bands is SO expensive… in fact… just a regular band is unbelievable… It makes me very anxious…. can we even afford wedding bands???
I dont want to compromise and get cheap bands because I am going to have them for the rest of my life – and I dont believe in “upgrading” bands – I believe your wedding ring should be your ring forever not changed up for something better later on..
Sigh… I guess I am just needing some back up or validation or even someone to tell me I’m an idiot.
Post # 3
You can find plenty of inexpensive wedding rings. You don’t need a diamond.
I’m not sure how private you are, but if you can let us know an estimate of what is reasonable for a ring, we can shop around online and help you find examples!?
Post # 4
What about titanium bands? Or thin gold bands? What about (you may not be okw ith this) used bands and having them brushed and spiffed up? Somebody’s trash is somebody’s treasure.
If you don’t believe in ‘upgrading’ bands, how is it any different than what you have and then replacing it with something you like more? or, that you like the origin of better?
Does your mom or dad (or your FI’s for that matter) have any gold bands around that you could inherit?
If you just want a traditional gold, plain band, you could find those online for a few hundred bucks, like Blue Nile or even Etsy. Etsy has lots of neat, untraditional options. I guess it depends what you are looking for. Do you wnat a wedding band or do you want an engagement ring?
Post # 5
Check out Tungsten rings -they can be very reasonable and although they can’t be resized many online companies provide lifetime resizing!
Post # 6
Etsy has a huge selection of good quality rings. We found them to be much less expensive than the jewlers that we visited.
Post # 7
Did you actually go to a mom and pop shop? We got a much better deal with a smaller store, then again, I’m lucky enough to live in Chicago so we went to jewelers row.
I’m just sayin, don’t be discouraged by the internet prices, sometimes you just have to actually go to the store and negotiate. Good Luck!
Post # 8
We definately cannot go the tungston route, because tungston is not maliable. I about FH a tungston band a few years ago and it actually causes blisters to his fingers because it is perfectly round and his fingers are not. The origin of this engagement ring is cruddy.
Prior to the two of us meeting.. in another lifetime… he was living with this woman… she was constantly buying herself diamond rings that she never wore *she had a big time shopping problem* when they split up she moved out of state and she left one of her rings behind. He held onto it thinking he would try to get it back to her or sell it or something. That never happened.
We really aren’t against second hand rings but we definately dont want something completely plain.
idk.. I think I’m stressing my head just too much now.
Post # 9
Have you checked overstock.com? Do you have a budget you’re thinking about? Definitely check pricescope as well and they will have a list of great jewelers online… If you have a Bailey Banks and Biddles, they are liquidating a lot of their items…
Post # 10
I would second the overstock.com option, they have tons of deals.
Post # 11
If you aren’t against second hand rings and you have some time to stalk the internet, you can get great deals on craigslist, ebay or even local antique stores. I have spent some time wandering around some local antique stores lately because we are renovating a 100 year old home and I’m just looking for ideas or any random thing that might peak my interest. So far, all i have seen that I liked is some beautiful rings…most of which are diamond and platinum and many for just a few hundred dollars…
I wouldn’t mind one bit, I think there is something romantic about it…especially if it really is old and could have a history…even if it is unknown.
Post # 12
I can’t blame you for being upset about the origin of the ring. Honestly, if I were you, I’d ask him to go out and buy me my own ring, even if it’s not a diamond. The idea of planning without a ring is not so bad (I did it), but when that ring came, I’d want it to be mine and not have the backstory of another woman in my fiance’s life.
That said, I am not at all against second hand rings – maybe check exboyfriendjewelry.com for people selling their rings – you can get really good deals on that site. Best of luck to you!
Post # 13
Go to Overstock.com. They have wedding rings for under $100!
Post # 14
Try Costco as well. I’ve seen very cute rings there as well that you can get at affordable costs.
Post # 15
There are very nice rings at gread prices. You just have to search for them everywhere and also, not get carried away when ring shopping. We always see very nice rings, the shinier the better, and there will always be rings that are more expensive with more diamonds. Start by fixing a budget that works for you and then look only at the rings that fit that budget – you will find a nice one I promise; plus you will not start your married life in debt because of a piece of jewelry you really could not affort. You will spend your life with your FH and that’s what counts: he has all those years to buy you some more rings!