Anyone suffering through a long engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Missknicole:  I don’t think your engagement time is long at all. You’d be surprised how fast venues book up especially for the “wedding season”. I booked my photographer and venue over a year out. Wedding dress you need to usually purchase 8/9 months out, 6 months for it to actually get to the shop and 2 months for alterations. Some dresses have even longer ship times than that. If anything I think your timeline is reasonable and you should start planning things.

Post # 4
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your engagement is shorter than mine has been! We have been engaged for 2 years (Monday) and are getting married August 23rd 2013 (36 days!) We put the wedding off for my FI school as well since he was earning his MBA. I planned my wedding from NY and the time flew by! You will be grateful for the extra time especiially since you will be busy with school I know I was and now here I am still wishing for just a little more time! haha You will be fine! Enjoy being engaged its the only time in your life you will be and just enjoy the process of planning your dream day 🙂

Post # 5
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

One year is not long, you will realize that it flew by when the date approaches. Our engagement is about a year long, I am finishing my degree and SO is finishing his Ph.D so we are both busy. And it’s a long distance relationship. So while I sometimes feel like it will take forever for us to get hitched, I know that realistically our lives are going to be so busy and the time will fly. Try and enjoy the year! Best of luck to you.

Post # 6
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m in a year and got 2 left.  Is it killin me? Hell yeah!  But this site has really helped because many of the women here are awesome!!!  Don’t completely put off planning, it helps me to do things here and there when the waiting gets really hard, like little things such researching different vendors and ideas.  I waited 6 months then found my dress and then waited another 6 months to complete my outfit.  Now I’ll wait a while longer to do something else.  Good luck and happy planning.  Feel free to PM me if you go through a rough and need some insight from someone who has a much longer engagement 🙂

Post # 7
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Miss.GrahamCracker:  +1

@Treeline:  +1

@Missknicole:  I agree completely. I wish I had taken more time to enjoy being engaged. I’m almost saddened by the thought that it will be over soon. It is a phase of life that should be cherished and relished immensely. 

Post # 8
1824 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

If possible I would at least book the venue and photographer now and leave other things until next year.

You might think I’m crazy but I’m enjoying my 16 month engagement. We’re 7 months in now and I’m just enjoying this ‘stage of my life’ if that makes sense. I’ll never be at this point in my life again (non-married) and I’m just so blissfully happy that my whole life is falling into place beautifully and I am enjoying bonding with my in-Laws, browsing through internet sites and getting butterflies fantasising about my wedding 🙂 I’m just really, really happy and actually not looking forward to it all being over and going back to real life (though I am OF COURSE looking forward to being officially married and starting to ttc!!). I hope you can see it my way so it doesn’t seem so ‘tortuous’ 😀

Post # 9
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

After being someone who has been engaged for 2 years (getting married in 9 days!) let me PROMISE you that time will fly. It feels like just yesterday I was at Barnes and Noble buying wedding planning books. Now I’ve written out my checks for all my final payments. A year will feel like no time at all. And trust the heck out of me when I say start planning now. Even if it’s just getting a full idea for what you want and buying things here and there- you will thank yourself later!!!

Post # 10
5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve 21 months to go! Some days I love it, other day it’s like the worst waiting day on record. I like what pp said…we won’t get to experience this time in our lives again. Right now, I’m buying little wedding things. That won’t date or go out fashion. My next purchase will be my “Mrs D-C ” hoodie and bride top.  This morning I found superman socks and a Stars Wars watch for his groom present. I also found my wedding jewellery and bm gifts. 

I know it’ll start to feel more when we’ve paid the deposit on our venue, got my dress, booked the entertainment. We are seeing both our potential band gigging this weekend, to help us choose. 

Post # 11
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

long engagement, yes, but suffering, no! This is exactly the timeline we both wanted, so that we can do things just how we want to. We have no reason to rush.

I guess I’m not that excited about wedding decoration details (or Pinterest in general for that matter) so it helps. Yes, I want to do it right because I want it to be nice, classy, and a beautiful memory for us, but I can’t say I get deeply excited about chairs or linens or anything like that that will be used for one day only… in fact I’m quite certain I don’t find those things compelling to think about at all.

Post # 13
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

@Missknicole:  Im coming to the end of 2 and a half years. It would have been great if part of it wasnt long distance as well 

I cant encourage planning some things early enough, like venue, if your on a budget as you will get discount but then theres the problem that you will most likely change your mind on everything even though you swore you wouldnt

Post # 14
258 posts
Helper bee

16 months for us, to help with saving and stress. I CAN NOT do things last min or I turn into a crazy person because of stress and break into panic attacks. So we are doing it nice and early, Got a venus tour in 2 weeks with a place I am in love with! 


I have my food taken care of and should be taking care of photos soon! 

Post # 15
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Missknicole:  When all is said and done we will have been engaged 18 months. At first I thought it would take forever to pass. Now that I’m five months in, I can’t believe how time has flown by. Before I know it I’ll be wedding dress shopping. Everything else is booked so now I get to have fun and not stress for a while. You can do it!! 🙂

Post # 16
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Missknicole:  I am in the final few months of a 23 month engagement.  The first few months we decided on a date window, a budget, and a basic idea of what we wanted our wedding to be.  Then we relaxed for almost a year because we couldn’t sign any contracts with anyone until 12 months out from the wedding date.  In November last year we started actually planning by booking our venue, then the photographer, and finalizing the main details for the wedding.  Now we are getting the little stuff accomplished week by week as our date finally gets closer.

We finally hit the fun planning part!  This past weekend we ordered my dress and his wedding band.  I finally settled on ordering orange roses from Sam’s club for the bouquets and centerpieces.  This week we also finalized our vows with our officiant and picked a playlist for the ceremony and reception.  I drafted our Wolfpack program and marriage contract (secular ketubah) today.

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