Post # 1
We are not having your usual “destination” wedding… we live in Texas and are getting married in NE Iowa, almost to MN. Still pretty far for us, considering.
I have been making preliminary plans based on the assumption that most people WON’T come, due to the distance and money factors.
I just assumed we’d have very close family there and that’s about it. Our kids, fiance’s aunt, my brother, and maybe my best friend, though she’s often broke so who knows.
Well, when I mentioned the wedding planning recently to a couple friends (not super close friends either), I was surprised that both were very excited and immediately started asking about flights and lodging! And the wedding is over 8 months away!
Did anyone else actually have more people willing to travel for your wedding than you expected?
I do hope to be reserving a 3 story guest house that sleeps 20 people. I found this incredible deal.. it’s $700 a week for six people and the entire house on acreage, and for additional people it’s 20 a night more so I can hopefully reserve this place and offer it up to anyone wanting to come to help them save money.
Post # 3
Yeah im in the same boat lol. We are having a dw in mexico and so far everyone has said they are going to start saving right away so they can go. We really wanted close family and friends there…like tops 30 people. Looks like its gonna be at least 40. Oh well, the more the merrier right….?
Post # 4
Same here. I live in Chicago and am having my wedding at the Beach in South Carolina. I expected maybe 30 people to come, but it sounds like we will have closer to 50. I was surprised how many people were willing to make arrangements to attend!
Post # 5
Same thing is happening to me. I already have family members booking hotel rooms for next year!! I really thought having the wedding out of state would be an easy way to have a smaller wedding but not so much. Apparenlty my extended family travels well…
Post # 6
Mine is in Rio, and everyone said they would come. BUT now that it’s time to start booking their flights many are now backing down, that they can’t afford it. Some of these people invited themselves for god’s sake and now they can’t make it? (I didn’t mind the inviting themselves part much, as the guest list was not an issue for us.)
Frustrating. At this point I only trust people are coming AFTER they confirmed that they booked their flight and hotels. If they haven’t, I’m putting them as a no. Everyone wanted to come to Rio (“I always wanted to go to Brazil! How fun!”) but no one really meant it…
Post # 7
Everyone has said “OMG I can’t wait, I’m invited right??” But I doubt that they’ll truly come. I’m hoping for ~100 people at the wedding but will probably send invitations to around 200… FI has a large family and it’ll really depend on how many of them he wants to invite. From my side it’ll be my parents, brother, 2 aunts, 2 uncles, and my four grandparents. Possibly up to 4 friends. It’ll be 14-16 hours from my side so I doubt many more than 15…
Post # 8
ours is quite easy – no one’s massively far way!! – I was terrified no one would come to the wedding – but will all our RSVP’s I’m much more confident!
Post # 9
I’ve been shocked! For our wedding in Panama (we live in DC), we thought half wouldn’t come, but people I work with who have never traveled, friends from all over the world, etc… are all planning on it! I’m terrified of how many will come (and how many we’ll have to feed!)
Post # 10
I’ve been totally shocked too! We’re getting married 9 hours from my hometown, which is not SUPER far, but I pretty much figured my relatives from Ontario (across the country – we’re in Alberta) wouldn’t come. I mean, most of them I’ve only met once (not to mention my cousins, most of whom I haven’t met at all!) And suddenly they’re inquiring about all kinds of details after our Save the Dates went out. Haha. I guess our 40-some wedding might become 70-some. I was like WHAT?
I guess that’s what I get for being a younger generation wedding in the family – they’re established now and have money they didn’t have when, say, they were invited to my parents’ wedding.
Post # 11
The same thing is happening to us, we invited 82 people to our NYC wedding and so far not one person we spoke to said they didn’t think they would be able to make it. I was shocked considering 75% of the list was out of state and a lot had kids that are not invited. We’ll see what the number will really be once the RSVp’s start coming in!
Post # 12
Me too! I was so pleasantly surprised by the number of positive rsvps we got–considering that most people will have to travel and get a hotel to join us. I’m so psyched!
The guest house you’ve found sounds really great, too…
Post # 13
Well, we have 34 booked so far and we’re getting married in Mexico!!! I’m waiting for all the RSVP’s to roll in so that we can get a final count, but I’m thinking it may go as high as 80 guests! BANANAS!
Post # 14
We thought 40 people would attend but we had a final guestcount of 83! It was great though! Everywhere we went we saw guests roaming around the beach and pool. Loved it.
Post # 15
We are in the same boat and have been assuming that the distance will do a lot of the “cut-throat” work to keep our affair intimate and tghe guest list manageable. I’ll admit I still get nervous that not enough people will show up to give us the 40+ party atmosphere that we want.
On the flip side, thinking about more than that being willing to spend so much money, burn their hard-earned vacation days, and put the effort into traveling such a long distance to be with us for our wedding is absolutely flattering! I know it will end up costing us more, but at the same time, I want to remind myself that it really means a lot that so many people are willing to do so much to join us for our big day! How wonderful to be loved! (Of course, after the emotional “wow” factor, I think, “How can I come up with money to feed all these people!, LOL)